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    Hey there,

    I'm in my second year at university and I recently found out that I have Asperger's (haven't been officially diagnosed, but it's in my family) and even though it was hard at first to take in as I was surprised that it had never occurred to neither me nor my family, it's made me feel a little less alone, knowing there are others out there who do 'get' me, in a sense.

    There have been similar threads made in the past, but I thought that this one could be a way of also getting to know other aspies out there and create a kind of dialogue one of my closest friends is an aspie, and he's really helped me through this period. So ask me anything, and I'll be happy to answer/help in some way!

    Also, to any aspie girls out there, when did you first get diagnosed? It's true that girls tend to get diagnosed later in life, right? And also, do you find that you have more guys friends than girl friends? I personally feel as though I have many more guys than girls that are friends, and I was curious to see what any thoughts were on that, or if it's just a personal preference
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    How have you found out without an official diagnosis?
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    (Original post by Kvothe the Arcane)
    How have you found out without an official diagnosis?
    It's more observably noticeable than a lot of other psychological states of being. Granted, doesn't confirm the lass has it, but sometimes you can really just tell.
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    (Original post by bear678)
    Hey there,

    I'm in my second year at university and I recently found out that I have Asperger's (haven't been officially diagnosed, but it's in my family) and even though it was hard at first to take in as I was surprised that it had never occurred to neither me nor my family, it's made me feel a little less alone, knowing there are others out there who do 'get' me, in a sense.

    There have been similar threads made in the past, but I thought that this one could be a way of also getting to know other aspies out there and create a kind of dialogue one of my closest friends is an aspie, and he's really helped me through this period. So ask me anything, and I'll be happy to answer/help in some way!

    Also, to any aspie girls out there, when did you first get diagnosed? It's true that girls tend to get diagnosed later in life, right? And also, do you find that you have more guys friends than girl friends? I personally feel as though I have many more guys than girls that are friends, and I was curious to see what any thoughts were on that, or if it's just a personal preference
    Hi
    I have aspergers. I’m 23, yes I tend to have more guy friends than girl friends.
    I have had difficulty making girl friends and I never really got along with any of them, only landed myself in trouble

    I have female friends now but they also suffer from the same condition as me including their own disabilities. That’s why we can actually get along.

    I was diagnosed at 20 when I was doing counselling but people kind of knew that I had this condition way before including doctors who had it somewhere in their files. So I wasn’t diagnosed at a later age. It’s always been there.
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    (Original post by bear678)
    Hey there,

    I'm in my second year at university and I recently found out that I have Asperger's (haven't been officially diagnosed, but it's in my family) and even though it was hard at first to take in as I was surprised that it had never occurred to neither me nor my family, it's made me feel a little less alone, knowing there are others out there who do 'get' me, in a sense.

    There have been similar threads made in the past, but I thought that this one could be a way of also getting to know other aspies out there and create a kind of dialogue one of my closest friends is an aspie, and he's really helped me through this period. So ask me anything, and I'll be happy to answer/help in some way!

    Also, to any aspie girls out there, when did you first get diagnosed? It's true that girls tend to get diagnosed later in life, right? And also, do you find that you have more guys friends than girl friends? I personally feel as though I have many more guys than girls that are friends, and I was curious to see what any thoughts were on that, or if it's just a personal preference
    Hey there. Thanks for posting! I recently found that there is a strong possibiltiy that I may have aspergers/mild autism. Initially I did some tests online which suggested I should see my doctor. Then following talking to my doctor she made a referral for me to have an assessment. Although apparently it could take several months before I get seen.

    I guess for me one area I've struggled with my whole life has been making friends and feeling like no-one gets me. I'm 22 now. But since I started secondary at age 11 I was never liked and have never really had any friends. From the age of 11-18 this caused a lot of depression and anxiety for me, which I still suffer with.

    How does it affect you on a day to day basis? x
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    (Original post by bear678)
    Hey there,

    I'm in my second year at university and I recently found out that I have Asperger's (haven't been officially diagnosed, but it's in my family) and even though it was hard at first to take in as I was surprised that it had never occurred to neither me nor my family, it's made me feel a little less alone, knowing there are others out there who do 'get' me, in a sense.

    There have been similar threads made in the past, but I thought that this one could be a way of also getting to know other aspies out there and create a kind of dialogue one of my closest friends is an aspie, and he's really helped me through this period. So ask me anything, and I'll be happy to answer/help in some way!

    Also, to any aspie girls out there, when did you first get diagnosed? It's true that girls tend to get diagnosed later in life, right? And also, do you find that you have more guys friends than girl friends? I personally feel as though I have many more guys than girls that are friends, and I was curious to see what any thoughts were on that, or if it's just a personal preference
    Does your Aspergers give you an above average intelligence?
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    (Original post by bear678)
    Hey there,

    I'm in my second year at university and I recently found out that I have Asperger's (haven't been officially diagnosed, but it's in my family) and even though it was hard at first to take in as I was surprised that it had never occurred to neither me nor my family, it's made me feel a little less alone, knowing there are others out there who do 'get' me, in a sense.

    There have been similar threads made in the past, but I thought that this one could be a way of also getting to know other aspies out there and create a kind of dialogue one of my closest friends is an aspie, and he's really helped me through this period. So ask me anything, and I'll be happy to answer/help in some way!

    Also, to any aspie girls out there, when did you first get diagnosed? It's true that girls tend to get diagnosed later in life, right? And also, do you find that you have more guys friends than girl friends? I personally feel as though I have many more guys than girls that are friends, and I was curious to see what any thoughts were on that, or if it's just a personal preference
    Hi! I'm 16, currently in Year 12 (17 in December). You sound very similar to me; I have more guy friends than girl friends because they're just easier to talk to, for some reason. Like, my best friends (who I've known since Nursery) is also an Aspie. I had like two friends in primary who were girls, and only a few who were girls now that I'm at secondary school. One of them came to my school in Year 10; she's Lithuanian and we became friends when she moved to my Maths set. Nicole (my friend in Maths lessons) was friends with both of us so it kind of got us talking. My other friend who's a girl hasn't got autism but she's got dyspraxia. My girl friends from primary were neurotypical though.

    I agree that girls are diagnosed with autism later. People often fall for the misconception that autism is more common in boys (3 out of 4 autistics are boys, apparently). However, autism presents itself differently in girls, who are also more likely to mask their traits and pass off as neurotypical...this makes it much more difficult to diagnose autism in females, which is why they're often diagnosed later in life. All this just fuels the misconception that boys are more likely to be autistic, when I don't believe this is the case. If anything, girls are just as likely as (if not, even more so) to be autistic as boys.

    I, however, was diagnosed at the age of 3 with severe autism. I don't know how but I outgrew many of my severe autistic traits and I now function on the same level as a neurotypical. I'm actually thankful I started out as severely autistic though, because it meant I was lucky enough to have an early diagnosis. Having my autism identified the same month I started school meant I was able to get help for it. Like I said though, seeing as I function on the same level; as NTs, I now identify as high-functioning autistic. The only thing that *could* give my autism away is my shyness (actually, no. Most people assume I'm just naturally shy.)

    But yeah, as a fellow autist, it's nice to actually talk to someone on the same wavelength.
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    i also have aspergers and hope to study in the UK.
    do you live alone or with flatmates? if the latter, how do u cope?
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    Did you ever have this strong urge to just punch yourself really hard in times of erupting stress and actually do it?
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    Hi all, I was diagnosed with mild autism when I was 2 years old (very early - apparently my symptoms were very recognisable). My early years were a real struggle, I’ve always had difficulty socialising and fitting in; it’s always been so hard and embarrassing trying to just simply talk to people because you worry that people make judgements and don’t want anything to do you - especially having the label of autism from a very young age.

    I’m on a gap year right now and going to uni next year. My social skills have massively improved over the years and I really want to try to fit in at uni and make friendships but I’m so worried that I’ll end up being left out and end up totally isolated. So I’m also really interested to hear the experiences at uni of other people with a social communication impairments or even just people who’ve struggled socially. Many thanks if anyone can give me some insight - also Feel free to personally message me or discuss anything regarding aspegers/autism - it’s important to help one another
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