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    i’m a lesbian
    but there is a guy i kinda like who likes me back??
    but i know that as soon as i make a move and he reciprocates i’ll want to back out because i actually don’t like guys
    what is wrong with me
    i like girls physically if you get what i mean heh but guys are cute?? but i wouldnt date a guy?? HELP
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    i’m a lesbian
    but there is a guy i kinda like who likes me back??
    but i know that as soon as i make a move and he reciprocates i’ll want to back out because i actually don’t like guys
    what is wrong with me
    i like girls physically if you get what i mean heh but guys are cute?? but i wouldnt date a guy?? HELP
    There are many things you can find cute, it doesn't mean you are sexually attracted to them.

    If he likes you and he is made to know that you have generally only dated girls in the past, considering he finds this alright, I'd give it a go. Go on a date or two and see what it's like. I know of someone who was bisexual and they generally went out with girls but occasionally they might go on a date or two with a boy. If you don't find him 'cute' afterwards then simply go your separate ways, but if you do it might be worth trying for a relationship. It's up to you.
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    There are many things you can find cute, it doesn't mean you are sexually attracted to them.

    If he likes you and he is made to know that you have generally only dated girls in the past, considering he finds this alright, I'd give it a go. Go on a date or two and see what it's like. I know of someone who was bisexual and they generally went out with girls but occasionally they might go on a date or two with a boy. If you don't find him 'cute' afterwards then simply go your separate ways, but if you do it might be worth trying for a relationship. It's up to you.
    thank u, he knows i like girls and i turned him down for a date and explained to him- i felt so bad too. but he keeps talking to me! not necessarily flirting but i was surprised he kept in contact. like what an angel??? but i really don’t want to mess him around by now saying “hey actually lets give it a go” but i’d like to give it a go! ugh it’s just so confusing
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    thank u! i’m conflicted because we were going to go on a date but then i cancelled on him and told him i’m gay. idk what to do now bc i think i’d like to give it a go but i don’t want to mess him around
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    thank u, he knows i like girls and i turned him down for a date and explained to him- i felt so bad too. but he keeps talking to me! not necessarily flirting but i was surprised he kept in contact. like what an angel??? but i really don’t want to mess him around by now saying “hey actually lets give it a go” but i’d like to give it a go! ugh it’s just so confusing
    I'd say if he keeps talking to you he might still be interested. For example, I know of a guy that was flirting with a friend of mine and when she turned him down, he was salty and said something like ''I wasn't interested anyway'', when it was obvious he was

    He might just be friendly but he seems more interested to me. When you are comfortable just say to him, ''hey I haven't dated guys before so I'm a little nervous and not sure where this will go, but if you are still open for that date then I'm up for it''. But don't back out this time . If it works out then great and if not then you know you've tried and its just not for you.
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    This is a problem of having labels. Just go with the flow. If you genuinely like him go for it... but then you probably have less of a chance now since you told him you're gay.
 
 
 
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