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    I thought I would come to uni and finally make some real friends because I've been a loner basically my whole life but I'm still a loner and every one around me has made lots of friends that they can go out with, I joined clubs and societies but that was a flop. I thought I could just suck it up and tell myself that studies is all that matters but the people in my flat are so loud and hearing them laughing and going out with their friends makes me really sad. Starting to feel like I'm going to be alone forever.
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    Try and talk to people on your course. Someone there will be interested in something that you are interested in as well. I didn't have any friends when I started Uni (third year student now) and in these last couple of years my life has changed completely. Keep at it. You're only a month or so in to your course. Things will progress.
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    (Original post by larbar123)
    I thought I would come to uni and finally make some real friends because I've been a loner basically my whole life but I'm still a loner and every one around me has made lots of friends that they can go out with, I joined clubs and societies but that was a flop. I thought I could just suck it up and tell myself that studies is all that matters but the people in my flat are so loud and hearing them laughing and going out with their friends makes me really sad. Starting to feel like I'm going to be alone forever.
    Well people are going to tell you it's not too late. Fact is though, it is too late. Everyone's got their own clique and a group, they'll know each other too well to introduce outsiders like you.
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    It's not going to be too late, many groups get outsiders in later
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    keep trying with the clubs and societies-when you're new you're expected to talk to new people so there shouldn't be any awkwardness
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    I found I didn’t really click with most the people I met in freshers week so I’ve made friends with a few locals. (I’m in private accommodation) It was actually a lot easier than I anticipated so I would recommend trying that
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    The people that I met during freshers week and I just didn’t click so I made friends with a local. (I’m in private accommodation about 30 minutes walk away from campus) it surprisingly wasn’t actually that hard nor was it intentional. I needed to get a taxi back to my flat but didn’t know any phone numbers so I asked a guy on the street and he gave me the number of one, we spoke a bit, exchanged numbers and we’re meeting up to get dinner next week. Lol my point is if it’s not working with uni students, just talk to the people in the area. He’s helped me navigate my way around the area a lot so I would say it is more beneficial this way too
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    Make friends with someone local to the area. You get two things out of it: A friendship
    Someone to help you navigate your way around the area
    It is a lot easier than it seems too
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Make friends with someone local to the area. You get two things out of it: A friendship
    Someone to help you navigate your way around the area
    It is a lot easier than it seems too
    Sadly I'm in student accommodation but thanks anyway
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    (Original post by larbar123)
    I thought I would come to uni and finally make some real friends because I've been a loner basically my whole life but I'm still a loner and every one around me has made lots of friends that they can go out with, I joined clubs and societies but that was a flop. I thought I could just suck it up and tell myself that studies is all that matters but the people in my flat are so loud and hearing them laughing and going out with their friends makes me really sad. Starting to feel like I'm going to be alone forever.
    Just because others made friends it doesn't work that way for everybody because most people have already made good friends with each other so their not going to invite you in even if you asked.
    But if you see anybody else who is always alone just go up to them and talk to them because they'll be just as lonely as you are and dying for a new friend but too scared to make the first move incase their rejected.

    But also join these 2 live streaming apps called Bigo Live and Live.Me
    Lots of people make friends on there and sometimes meet people on it who live in the same area as themselves
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    (Original post by Judge Jules)
    But if you see anybody else who is always alone just go up to them and talk to them because they'll be just as lonely as you are and dying for a new friend but too scared to make the first move incase their rejected.
    ^^^ This. Most people settled into groups, probs about 6 weeks into first term, but I don't have a group. (I'm 1st yr chem student at UCL.) However this term, now I've adjusted to the course and got over my shyness a bit I've started collecting loners from my course to make my own group. And kind of by definition they're people who are quite similar to me, so I get along well with all of them. Now I'm just trying to introduce them all to each other and I'm hoping they'll get along! 😂 I have about 4 people I've found, so things are looking good.
    Legit if you see someone walk into the lecture theatre and not even bother to find someone they know and they go and sit in a corner they're probs not friends with anyone. Just go up and ask if the seat beside them is taken and then start up some small talk and the rest becomes history.
    Also you said you're in uni accommodation, have you tried reaching out to your flatmates? Also another good tactic is to just invite everyone you kind of like to go out with you, a Birthday is a really good way to persuade people to hang. Or if you sit near an established group sometimes they gradually just take you into that group - this seems to be happening to me, I talk more and more to 3 people from a very defined group and it seems like they want me to come hang w them but equally I don't want to scrape so I just wait till they talk to me, but always sit near enough to them that I'm approachable.
    It's really not the end of the world, and there'll be a bunch of freshers next year and you may find a friend among them. Just got to keep putting yourself out there.
    Best of luck to you xxx
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