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People think I'm a lesbian? watch

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    About 5 people have asked me if I'm a lesbian, and it's starting to get me down quite a bit. I'm bisexual, but 90% of the time I am attracted to men. I've never been in a relationship, so don't know why people would come to this conclusion other than the fact that I dress quite alternatively (punk, perhaps?) and like sports. Other than that, I'm fairly feminine (I wear skirts, make-up etc). I feel like this is meaning that guys aren't interested in me at all, or just see me as a friend, and I don't know how to change people's minds about me without changing myself. Help?
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    Sometimes when people haven't found a partner of the opposite sex, they assume that they are gay. It isn't right, but they have that notion in their head. I wouldn't worry about what people think. Just carry on being yourself, you don't have to change. Try to be more confident and approach people that you like. When you strike up a connection with someone, man or woman, they will be interested in you too.

    Yes you're right. It means they're not interested or see you as a friend but some guys are dicks and ask you questions like that to determine secretly if you're available. Like "your boyfriend wouldn't like that" waiting for her to say, "I dont have a boyfriend." Then he slides in. So dumb!!!
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