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    (Original post by Lepidolite)
    There might be a lot of situations where you need to interact with others but if you really can't/don't want to then there are ways around it. Get a job working for a small company or find something where you can work from home, do all your shopping online. Some people may disagree with this way of life but if that's what you want for yourself then that is your choice.

    Palpitations and sweating may be due to anxiety. Whilst introverts may also experience anxiety, it is not exclusive to them.
    Yeh that's good if that's what you want to do and if people want to do that that's fine but in my course and my ideal job group work and communication is a vital part of it (that is a drawback but something that i accept because i want to work within this field). I want to challenge myself and try to improve somewhat, it will always be against my nature to be put in those situations but if i can navigate them and do well in them i think that would set me up better for a career. Ideally yes i would prefer to work alone but life isn't ideal and at this stage it is important to be versatile to some extent as you can't really be that picky when it comes to work placements and things since it is lucky to get one at all
    In my case they are because i do have anxiety, and yes but people can be both, one or none at all. It is hard to know where anxiety and MH stuff stops and just a naturally introverted personality begins and obviously i can only speak for myself and not everyone. I still think my point stands for most things though which is that if everyone in the vicinity of these people were just a bit more considerate and approachable/willing to approach others that would benefit a whole spectrum of people no end and it costs nothing to the giver so idk why more people just don't have that attitude
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    The real question is; Why are Introverts, Introverts?

    There's always a reason behind being introverted. I personally have a messed up voice box and add that along with my asthma it makes talking kind of hard (as well as breathing) and in turn i rub off as a retard so i ended up where i am... In other words; i guess you can say that I'm the kid that knows the answers to the questions in class, but chooses to just stay quiet and let nature take it's course. ┬┴┬┴┤(・_├┬┴┬ ┴
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    This isn't really a tip for introverts more a tip for everyone else around them.
    I think if you see someone who looks awkward and on their own then approach them, i find it incredibly hard to approach people and it's much easier if people approach you. Obviously other people can't be expected to do all the work and if people try to talk to you and you give nothing back then obviously that is your fault then but yeh i think just make that initial effort with people. a lot of the time i do want to speak to people im just too scared to make that first move
    But remember that not all of us want to be approached, not do all of us want to do small talk. I don't.
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    I tend to disappear off to check instrument performance or do a bit of lab maintainence (analytical chemist) a couple of times a day, gets me working completely alone for half an hour at a time, as well as using my lunch break to go for a walk - spend about 25% of my day isolated, and that helps keep me going, I would say if you can find a duty that has to be performed alone and take it on as your responsibility, it's a good way of getting a reprieve from having to deal with other people without it looking weird.
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    Offer to make the tea.
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    Yeah I'm gonna die in the working world... if I ever manage to get a job...
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    To sum it up in one line: don't try and please people.

    That's the pitfall of probably all introverts, and just leads to greater anxiety when you think you said something wrong over people who will dislike you no matter what you do, and others who will like you even if you think you committed a great faux pas.

    Most people here will be dealing with other 'young adults', and extroverted young adults just want to be centre of attention and it's like they feel they have something to prove. It's a big difference between them and a talkative 40 year old. A loud 18 year old girl will more often use you to humour themselves, a loud 40 year old woman would more likely mother you. A loud 20 year old boy is likely showing off, a loud 30 year old man is likely just humouring themselves to make the day go faster. For the most part, just as a big generalisation.

    Most people don't actually think introverts are creepy or something negative. Dicks certainly think that, but that's because they're dicks. They'll be dicks to you regardless of how you act (unless they wanna bang you). Guys can dig an awkward girl just as girls can dig the nice, unassuming type.

    If anyone ever says "you're shy, aren't you?" and you're not, actually answer them with "no, not at all". It blows their mind and you gain their respect immediately, because they expected you to be submissive and shy away. But say it in a whimsical way rather than a blunt annoyed way, so as not to hurt their precious feelings.

    If they say "you don't talk very much, do you?" then again answer honestly with "I've just not much to say, really". If they're not a ****, they'll ask questions over time to get to know you upon this realisation. If you suspect they're a ****, you're welcome to say "you talk too much, don't you?", but we all know you won't.

    If you want to try and talk to a friendly workmate, ask them something about themselves that they mentioned last time. Like they got a new dog or are playing the latest game or something, so ask how that's going. They'll be happy to talk. You don't really have to talk much either. As long as it's something you're actually mildly interested in. It's very obvious when someone is forcing conversation by asking lots of random questions they probably don't really care about. You don't HAVE to say something to put an end to the exchange. You ask, they reply, you comment, they comment, end.

    On the incredibly high likelihood that the very moment you open your mouth, another sodding extrovert bursts in being all extroverted and kills the discussion, it's not the end of the world, just the conversation, for now.
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    Stop hiding behind your label and socialise, if you don't get alongside with your colleagues it's going to have arguably the biggest impact on your career opportunities.

    I'm not shaming introverts for being introverts, I'm an introvert and I've worked in several different jobs which require regular customer interaction, networking with colleagues etc. You can change if you want to change, don't think that you're better than anyone else.

    Introversion is way more complex than being shy, I truly believe every introvert has it in them to be a likeable, rounded person. Staggering amounts of celebrities, actors etc are all introverts and I can guarantee they never once used their disposition as an excuse for failing to make efforts in social situations,
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    Some of these answers from self righteous introverts in this thread ... wow. I can't tell you the amount of opportunities I've landed purely because of making an effort to talk to people and going beyond whatever anxieties i have in my head. Sounds like most of you are going to turn out like those really anti social librarians you get.
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    (Original post by ParadiseFound)
    Some of these answers from self righteous introverts in this thread ... wow. I can't tell you the amount of opportunities I've landed purely because of making an effort to talk to people and going beyond whatever anxieties i have in my head. Sounds like most of you are going to turn out like those really anti social librarians you get.
    You make it sound so easy. It really isn't.
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    (Original post by Tiger Rag)
    You make it sound so easy. It really isn't.
    Of course it's not, nothing in life worth having is easy. Every day is a challenge for me as someone who suffers from anxieties but eventually the more experience you get the easier it is to dull out the voice in your head feeding you self doubt. I'm just saying it could've been so easy for Mark Zuckerberg to be like oh I don't really like talking to people I'll just make this app private or the leagues of introverted actors that exist (actors are mostly introverted) to say oh I'd rather a job where I don't have to talk to people.
 
 
 
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