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    Currently on a gap year and regretting it. I'm seeing all my friends at uni and wishing that j was there too. I'm worried that going to uni a year late I wont have the same experience and may not fit in as well... Any advice from people that have gone a year late?
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    You're going for yourself to get a degree for yourself, not for your friends. If you keep seeing university as being a social event, then you won't get much out of it.
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    I'm also on a gap year and although at first when my friends started going off to their unis I stared feeling a bit sad as well but I'm not anymore. Just try and keep your gap year as fun and as busy as possible and remember you will still experience everything at Uni once you do go. I'm spending my gap year learning a new language (Russian) taking up kickboxing and horseriding as well as working at a bookstore near me. I might even decide to travel a bit in January as well. It's just important you have the best year (last year of freedom as I jokingly call it)
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    (Original post by en4828483)
    Currently on a gap year and regretting it. I'm seeing all my friends at uni and wishing that j was there too. I'm worried that going to uni a year late I wont have the same experience and may not fit in as well... Any advice from people that have gone a year late?
    What are you doing on your gap year? Try to get as much from it as possible.

    You are only going a year late, and it honestly has no bearing when it comes to Freshers' Week or socialising with other students. Lots of people take gap years, you won't be alone!
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    Stop worrying about what your friends are doing, you're not in school anymore.
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    How is going a year later going to make any difference? lol.
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    At uni people don't really care how old you are.
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    This is exactly the problem with a huge number of young people these days. They base their whole future and concerns about their future, on socializing and friendships that won't really get you anywhere. If people actually put their mind to something other than friends, socializing, and all this other short-term crap that won't really get you anywhere, they might actually achieve something genuinely special/exceptional. OP, why don't you try and do something that will positively affect your whole life, such as getting a solid first/2:1 degree?

    Also, if you had really put your mind to it, perhaps you could have started a business during your gap year, and by this stage you could be earning a nice 5 figure sum from it before you even started uni. You could have even got enough money to pay off your whole student loan before you even got it. It would have been hard, but like I said, if you had put your mind to it - you could have.

    Not saying you didn't wisely choose to do a gap year, but if you put your mind to something - even if that something is something extremely difficult - you can accomplish it.
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    (Original post by en4828483)
    Currently on a gap year and regretting it. I'm seeing all my friends at uni and wishing that j was there too. I'm worried that going to uni a year late I wont have the same experience and may not fit in as well... Any advice from people that have gone a year late?
    Why are you concerned you won't fit in? Half my flat is 21+.
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    (Original post by en4828483)
    Currently on a gap year and regretting it. I'm seeing all my friends at uni and wishing that j was there too. I'm worried that going to uni a year late I wont have the same experience and may not fit in as well... Any advice from people that have gone a year late?
    I’m in my first year at uni, and there are tonnes of people who have taken a gap year, or sometimes even 2. It makes no difference to ‘fitting in’ - why would anyone care if you are 18 or 19?
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    You probably won't be in contact with most of your school friends in a few years time - that's life. Nobody will even know that you're 19.
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    If it makes you feel any better I completely feel the same!
    Although you do go to uni for a degree, a part of uni is the experience! And you'll get it!
    I'm going to uni next year and I'll be 22 living in halls to get the experience and make friends!
    Don't worry! X
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    I took a gap year and I'm now in my first year! I also know quite a few people who took one too - only difference it has made to me is that I am a lot more grounded, patient and social than I was a year ago. Got a job during the gap year and retook some a-levels and it was a pretty good time. Job-wise I had fun with my coworkers ( Most of them were my age give or take a few years) and got practice socialising and just being myself without having to deal with sixth form politics Of course, it got lonely sometimes and I wasn't bursting-with-joy-happy 100% of the time, but that's life whenever. It was also a pro in that I kept in touch with my friends and I think that was appreciated on both ends. I'm really glad I took a gap year - even though I didn't want to in the beginning. At uni now, I can't tell the difference and there are loads of people my age anyway and older (I've made friends with a person who's 22 and I'm 19). Like others have said, you go to uni for the degree mainly. Plus, besides your course/housemates you also have societies and clubs where you can mix with people you have something in common with, of all ages. I'd say to anyone thinking of a gap year/in a gap year: you've made a great decision enjoy the year!
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    I took a gap year and it had no bearing on my university experience at all. Whether 18, 19 or older we were all in a new environment with new people during my fresher year at uni. And you can't even tell the difference between an 18 or 19 year old unless you ask.
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    I can understand feeling like you are missing out at the moment, but I really think you should be making the most of your gap year. Getting some work or voluntary experience in that will improve your CV and help you become more well rounded.

    As for starting a year late....it's ONE year. No one, and I mean not one single person is going to care in the slightest or treat you differently for being one year older. There are a lot of people who go to uni later than 18. And every day there is a thread of someone worried about their age. No one cares.
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    A very significant proportion of Freshers have had a year - or more - out. If anything you'll have had a bit more life experience than those straight from college. You'll fit in absolutely fine (and as others have said - no one cares, if you were 25 going into halls full of teenagers thats where it might get more challenging but even thats not unheard of.)

    You'll also be enjoying Freshers just as some of your peers are stressing about bills etc once theyre in houses.
 
 
 
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