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    It's been two and a half months since I started boarding school, I am 16 and my family lives 17 hours plane ride away. I will be going home in 2 weeks and I am wondering whether I should tell my parents I want to quit. I used to love school, loved lessons, loved teachers and my friends.i left thinking there might be something better out there but now I have become depressed and have to keep tears back everyday, I fooled myself into thinking I would fit in with lots of really rich people. My family and I worked so hard to get here and I feel like I have let them down.
    I obviously want to go back home but I don't want to disappoint my family and look like a failure but at the same time I want to be happy and I know that I won't be happy here.
    What should I tell my parents and how should I tell them?
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    As a 16 year old you made this decision together with your parents.
    Considering that you spent only 2.5 months there, I think you need more time for adaptation in order not to feel homesick.
    To my mind, when your parents put so much effort/time/money into it, than it is your obligation to try make the best out of it.

    Also you said "and I know that I won't be happy here" and it means that you already programmed yourself! No matter how nice and beautiful everything will be, your thinking is "I know that I won't be happy here". It is crucial to change your perspective, so you will be able to build resilience and face stressful situations in the future.

    Personally, I must admit that the first year in college waa awful, I couldn't accomodate at all. Everything would make me mad and sick (either weather or people), but I promised myself to give it a try. And, believe it or not, I started to enjoy the community, subjects, weather! Later on, I started dating and everything turned very well.

    So, I suggest you to give your boarding school another try (at least a couple more months), this way you will show that you respect your parents and that you don't give up easily. Sorry, it may sound harsh, but definitely it is your decision to make.
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