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    I thought it would be good of me to actually open up here and say that I am suffering from depression. I am not too happy in life and question a lot of things in life, namely mistakes I have made.

    Basically, I was made redundant a few months back from a well paid and respected job. I loved it there and felt that I was becoming more of a man. My family came down from abroad and I went on holiday with them abroad for a couple of weeks - literally one of the best summers I have ever had!

    Now, I am unemployed and struggling to get a job. It is getting worse everyday and I have recently started smoking weed like 2 times a week and drinking with people. I don't go a lot because people will question what I am doing in life. "Yeah I'm unemployed, even though I have a First Class Computing Degree - no ****er wants me". Society expect you to have a job and if you are unemployed it looks so bad.

    No one, not even my family understand what it is like.

    Anyways, this is what it feels like to be depressed:

    - You think everyone is against you
    - You don't feel like going out because people will judge you. It is true, in this country society dictates that if you are unemployed then you are not successful. You are probably living on the dole and what not
    - Your parents and family annoy you badly. They tell you X person is living well and that X person (your age) is making something for themselves
    - You are not happy in general
    - You start smoking weed to forget about things
    - You start feeling MAD GUILTY about EVERYTHING!
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    Firstly stop drinking and smoking weed. It is doing you no favours.

    I was unemployed for a year after graduation. I know it sucks. I felt ashamed to go out with friends, who asked me what I was doing, and I felt bad for spending when I wasn't earning. My family, although well meaning, kept suggesting things to apply for. It made me feel like I wasn't doing anything or trying, even though I spend most of my days looking for work.

    Try to keep yourself busy. Make sure you go out - for a walk or to the library. Staying at home all the time only makes you feel worse. You could try going to clubs or doing some volunteering to keep your socials skills good, you will meet new people and it can be beneficial for your CV.

    Keep going. It is all to easy to lose hope.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Firstly stop drinking and smoking weed. It is doing you no favours.

    I was unemployed for a year after graduation. I know it sucks. I felt ashamed to go out with friends, who asked me what I was doing, and I felt bad for spending when I wasn't earning. My family, although well meaning, kept suggesting things to apply for. It made me feel like I wasn't doing anything or trying, even though I spend most of my days looking for work.

    Try to keep yourself busy. Make sure you go out - for a walk or to the library. Staying at home all the time only makes you feel worse. You could try going to clubs or doing some volunteering to keep your socials skills good, you will meet new people and it can be beneficial for your CV.

    Keep going. It is all to easy to lose hope.
    Drinking and smoking weed isn't something very easy to get off - that being said I only drink/smoke perhaps once a week. When I was working I was sober af - the only reason why I am doing it is because I am unemployed
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    Found myself in a similar position. Graduated from a top university in 2016 with a handful of internships. Spent some time working odd jobs and then volunteered at an NGO in Sub-Saharan Africa for a few months. I returned in June and have been looking for work ever since. I think my problem has partly been not knowing what I want to and not having massively in demand skills.

    It's so true about not wanting to socialise. I'm in danger of losing touch with so many friends just because I'm too embarrassed to meet up whilst unemployed.

    Have a second round interview tomorrow for an amazing job, but I've already convinced myself that I'll just miss out, since I'm unlucky.
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    (Original post by ha7er)
    Drinking and smoking weed isn't something very easy to get off - that being said I only drink/smoke perhaps once a week. When I was working I was sober af - the only reason why I am doing it is because I am unemployed
    I know, but I think it contributes to your low mood. Try to wean yourself off.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Found myself in a similar position. Graduated from a top university in 2016 with a handful of internships. Spent some time working odd jobs and then volunteered at an NGO in Sub-Saharan Africa for a few months. I returned in June and have been looking for work ever since. I think my problem has partly been not knowing what I want to and not having massively in demand skills.

    It's so true about not wanting to socialise. I'm in danger of losing touch with so many friends just because I'm too embarrassed to meet up whilst unemployed.

    Have a second round interview tomorrow for an amazing job, but I've already convinced myself that I'll just miss out, since I'm unlucky.
    Good luck with your interview tomorrow. Hope all goes well for you!!
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    (Original post by ha7er)
    I thought it would be good of me to actually open up here and say that I am suffering from depression. I am not too happy in life and question a lot of things in life, namely mistakes I have made.

    Basically, I was made redundant a few months back from a well paid and respected job. I loved it there and felt that I was becoming more of a man. My family came down from abroad and I went on holiday with them abroad for a couple of weeks - literally one of the best summers I have ever had!

    Now, I am unemployed and struggling to get a job. It is getting worse everyday and I have recently started smoking weed like 2 times a week and drinking with people. I don't go a lot because people will question what I am doing in life. "Yeah I'm unemployed, even though I have a First Class Computing Degree - no ****er wants me". Society expect you to have a job and if you are unemployed it looks so bad.

    No one, not even my family understand what it is like.

    Anyways, this is what it feels like to be depressed:

    - You think everyone is against you
    - You don't feel like going out because people will judge you. It is true, in this country society dictates that if you are unemployed then you are not successful. You are probably living on the dole and what not
    - Your parents and family annoy you badly. They tell you X person is living well and that X person (your age) is making something for themselves
    - You are not happy in general
    - You start smoking weed to forget about things
    - You start feeling MAD GUILTY about EVERYTHING!
    Sorry to hear what you are going through mate. I too, am going through a very similar phase in life.

    I completely agree with you and understand that our generation (24 year old and under) have it real ****ING HARD! The government hate on us. The general population ****ing hate on us too.

    I guess meditation may work. I'm going places more often during this rough period in life. I guess we have to be stronger which I know is easier said than done - TRUST ME I am in the exact same boat as you
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    3 months is nothing but yes you are right it is ****
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    At least nobody is being conscripted?
    There is no cold war?
    Travelling is cheap?

    Millennials have it easy. It is the most peaceful time in history.
 
 
 
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