My bf of 6 years has crippling anxiety, specifically around job applications. I've always been supportive of him, and I understand anxiety a little bit so I try to be lenient, but lately things have gotten bad.
He's been screaming, like proper shouting at me to the point of neighbours asking me if things are okay. He's been blaming me for his panic attacks, and saying I make him feel the way he does. I try not to talk about my own job stuff to avoid triggering him, but lately he seems in a constant state of anxiousness. He doesn't want to see his GP or therapist because he says they don't help, but I can't really do anything to help him. Everything I say or do seems to make it worse and I can't take much more of being told that I make him feel like that, that I make him want to hit himself or kill himself. I want to say that it's just his anxiety really being bad and that he doesn't mean it, but idk if this is crossing over into the realm of emotional abuse at this point....
I don't want to leave him, but I don't really know what to do anymore
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- Thread Starter
- 11-10-2017 19:14
- 11-10-2017 20:10
Okay, your boyfriend has problems but it doesn't give him the right to take it out on you. Whilst it is admirable to want to be there for him and help him, I feel it is taking a toll on your own mental wellbeing. Who is taking care of you? I really think you need to take some time apart, and get him to get professional help. It is too much of a burden for you alone to cope with. If he refuses, tell him the truth about how you feel. Maybe talk to a family member of his, who could also try to get him to see his GP. There is no shame in seeking help.
- 11-10-2017 21:39
I agree with 'cheesecakelove' - I don't think I could add anymore.