Girlfriend Maybe Was Raped?

but I don’t want her any more knowing this has happened.

You want to break up with your girlfriend because she was raped years ago?

No, not because you was raped spefically, but it makes me see her differently. Like tainted and I know it’s wrong but I can’t help it. Not only has another man been with her, he’s done it without her consent. Just makes me feel sick and I’m not sure I want to have sex with her again, which would make the relationship fail from there.

No, not because you was raped spefically, but it makes me see her differently. Like tainted and I know it’s wrong but I can’t help it. Not only has another man been with her, he’s done it without her consent. Just makes me feel sick and I’m not sure I want to have sex with her again, which would make the relationship fail from there.

No, not because you was raped spefically, but it makes me see her differently. Like tainted and I know it’s wrong but I can’t help it. Not only has another man been with her, he’s done it without her consent. Just makes me feel sick and I’m not sure I want to have sex with her again, which would make the relationship fail from there.

So I’ve been with my girlfriend a few months. Everything perfect. We got to talking about previous partners and eventually came to the fact that she was chatting to someone, met them on a night out at uni, snogged them went back and then passed out. Woke up to find him naked, her dress pulled up with no pants on. She is adamant that he was just about to start and she woke up before anything happened, but told me before she had pain in the area for a while. She hasn’t told anyone thus before because she was ashamed and she was originally adamant that she didn’t initially go back with the guy to sleep with him but I’ve got her to admit to that bit, but she’s constantly saying she came to as he was trying to get it in and shoved her off him. The way she’s being sheepish about it and the fact she said she was hurtingn afterwards suggests to me that isn’t the truth and she in fact came to during the act or after.
It’s a disgusting situation and I’m so sorry she was put through it, but firstly that to me is rape, and it sounds like he did get it done, despite what she says.
This is all through messages as I’m currently working away and haven’t seen her in over 2 weeks. What does it sound like to you? It has taken all day to get her to tell me this much.

I feel horrible for it, because she’s still the same girl I fell in love with and this all happened years before I met her, but I don’t feel the same about her knowing this. Firstly because she was adamant she was different and didn’t just pick a guy up on a night out and sleep with them, she only slept with someone in a relationship which is more classy. Not true clearly, and then I know what happened and it wasn’t her fault, but I don’t want her any more knowing this has happened.

YOU are the reason many rape victims do not come forward.
You disgust me.




1) Another man has not 'been with her'. A criminal RAPED her!
2) If it makes you feel sick, how do you think it made her feel?
3) You see her differently. Not as a strong woman who has struggled with being the victim of sexual abuse, managing to continue with her life. But as 'tainted'.

Unless you can get your act together and start thinking of someone other than yourself, then she is better off without you.
I hope she finds this thread.

No, not because you was raped spefically, but it makes me see her differently. Like tainted and I know it’s wrong but I can’t help it. Not only has another man been with her, he’s done it without her consent. Just makes me feel sick and I’m not sure I want to have sex with her again, which would make the relationship fail from there.

I have already told her she needs to speak up and not let him get away with it, it’s possible he thought because he got away with it once he can do it again.
To be clear I am not abandoning her, I care about her and I am supporting her, I just don’t know if I can be with her.

The way she isn’t talking about it, I’m not even entirely sure it wasn’t consensual, or she is ashamed that she went home with a lad, slept with him and realised afterwards. No, I’m not saying that in a mean way, she has changed her story about what happened so many times today I don’t even know if it’s true any more.

My mother was abused in a different way when she was pregnant with me, if you don’t think I’m abhor what has happened and want to do unspeakable things to the guy who did it you’re mistaken, I despise men like that with every fibre of my being.