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    OK not to ramble, but here's the thing:

    10 years ago, after getting onto a great course at a great uni, I started having mental health issues, and despite going back a few times and being more than capable acacademically I failed first year and dropped out.

    I lived in a state of apathy for 6 years didn't do paid work etc

    The last year I went to hospital, spent some time in temporary accommodation which was grim - I now have my own place.

    Great, you'd think, onwards and upwards? But just as I warned people I'd hit a brick wall - I have no friends and don't know where to begin to look/am disillusioned at past friendships, just about making ends meet financially, no gf to speak of or anyway of attaining one and maintaining one.

    My mood fluctuates between despair/loneliness/and I'l admit some bad thoughts, and indifference and apathy.

    I just don't know when it will end or what I have to do to get the things I think I at least deserve after a life of general purgatory.

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    Sorry to hear about this.

    Big hugs from me !

    Why not join clubs which are based on your interests so you can meet people and converse with like minded people? You can also try different meet up groups online.

    For getting a girlfriend, you could try online dating (POF, OKCupid just two I will mention), speed dating, joining clubs, forming your own network and approaching women.

    You need to work, have your own life, hobbies,interests, value yourself to maintain one.

    Improve yourself, hit the gym, wear nice clothes, perhaps learn a new skill, treat yourself, relax.

    Good luck
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