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megannlong
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Hello!
Leeds Uni is going to be both mine and my boyfriend's first choice (providing we both get offers!!!). I was just wondering what people's opinions would be on the idea of us sharing a studio flat for first year. Would it mean we miss out on getting to know everyone? He's not as interested in getting to know people as I am, but neither of us are big on going out. It would most definitely be the cheapest option for us, but I don't know if it would prevent us from getting settled in the first year and put a strain on our relationship. We'd most probably be looking at the studio apartments in Central Village or iQ.
Thanks!!!!
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Quite honestly it's an awful idea.

If neither of you have ever left home before you won't have the 'living with others' manners that you develop. One of you will find yourself taking on more domestic stuff then the other and it will breed resentment. What if you break up, that would be pretty darn uncomfortable for the rest of the year.

Plus, as you've already said, it means you will miss out on one of the sources of new friends (classes and clubs & societies being the sources that you will need to use instead).

I'd recommend you both go into halls, and just carry on being boyfriend and girlfriend through university. You'll enjoy things and get out there much more if you're exposed to new people and new experiences.
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Hi!I'm currently in the same situation, 1st year and both me and my boyfriend are at Leeds! We live separate and it's genuinely the best thing for us, we still see eachother whenever we fancy but we also have our own groups of friends which is really important so your not suffocating eachother and you always will need your own space time to time! It also means that I go out with his friends and he comes out with mine so it's not like we live two separate lives in fact if anything it just gives u more people to socialise with as being around the same people constantly could be tough for some people! We've both agreed not to live with eachother again next year but live with our respective friends but in a similar area! so yeh don't worry about the money practically everyone lives alone first year and it's part of the experience of being a fresher! Good luck with your application x
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Hi!I'm currently in the same situation, 1st year and both me and my boyfriend are at Leeds! We live separate and it's genuinely the best thing for us, we still see eachother whenever we fancy but we also have our own groups of friends which is really important so your not suffocating eachother and you always will need your own space time to time! It also means that I go out with his friends and he comes out with mine so it's not like we live two separate lives in fact if anything it just gives u more people to socialise with as being around the same people constantly could be tough for some people! We've both agreed not to live with eachother again next year but live with our respective friends but in a similar area! so yeh don't worry about the money practically everyone lives alone first year and it's part of the experience of being a fresher! Good luck with your application x
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