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    Hey,

    I met this guy four weeks ago. We've been on a few dates, drinking coffee and just going for walks. We had lovely conversations, never ran out of topics to talk about. He was also really interested and asked lots of questions.
    But things escalated rather quickly. We made out on our second date already. But I felt comfortable with him. He never pressured me into doing anything.
    I've been at his place twice and he's been at my place twice so far. However, I only spent one night with him. I stayed the night at his place last weekend. That was also when we had sex. I'm not very experienced, but it was good for me. He seemed to enjoy it too. That's why I'm so confused as to why he hasn't really messaged me since. It was not like he made me leave first thing in the morning, I stayed for breakfast and even much longer. I really thought we had a connection. I like him a lot. It also wasn't like that night was only about sex. We talked a lot, or just cuddled for a few hours, enjoying each others company.
    I did message him once, to which he replied that he was quite busy.
    What do you think? Is he avoiding me? What reasons could he have for doing so? Do you think that I did something wrong? Do you think I'll hear from him again? Should I message him? (I think I will wait for a few more days and then definitely message him, just to see if he's alright. I care too much about him to just let that go.)

    I'd appreciate any advice you might have.
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    Hey,

    I met this guy four weeks ago. We've been on a few dates, drinking coffee and just going for walks. We had lovely conversations, never ran out of topics to talk about. He was also really interested and asked lots of questions.
    But things escalated rather quickly. We made out on our second date already. But I felt comfortable with him. He never pressured me into doing anything.
    I've been at his place twice and he's been at my place twice so far. However, I only spent one night with him. I stayed the night at his place last weekend. That was also when we had sex. I'm not very experienced, but it was good for me. He seemed to enjoy it too. That's why I'm so confused as to why he hasn't really messaged me since. It was not like he made me leave first thing in the morning, I stayed for breakfast and even much longer. I really thought we had a connection. I like him a lot. It also wasn't like that night was only about sex. We talked a lot, or just cuddled for a few hours, enjoying each others company.
    I did message him once, to which he replied that he was quite busy.
    What do you think? Is he avoiding me? What reasons could he have for doing so? Do you think that I did something wrong? Do you think I'll hear from him again? Should I message him? (I think I will wait for a few more days and then definitely message him, just to see if he's alright. I care too much about him to just let that go.)

    I'd appreciate any advice you might have.
    I'd just call him on it. Be straightforward about it and don't let him mess you around.

    It could just be that he's not used to being in a relationship and feels a bit weird now that you've had this moment of intimacy... or he could be a complete donkey.

    Best find out now before you get more invested.
 
 
 
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