changing my technique on dates

merry xmas everybody :santaclau

ive been thinking, for 2008, when i go on dates i want to change my attitude a bit. sometimes i think im too open and too uninteresting on first dates. my real personality comes out a few dates later.

however, i want the girl im on a date with to think im that sort of boyfriend type that they cannot go a few days without texting.
:fan:

im sure some laydees on here know some ways which makes them like their date more, or think they cant get enough of them

and im sure some lads on here know some ways how to act cool and be treated good :p:

any ideas?

just a few pointers :smile:

Reply 1

Dragon24

17

You haven't met the right peson yet. Just be charming, witty, show and interest and be interesting. Don't act like womaniser or someone who is cold.

Reply 2

yazoo

treat her like a lady! I think teh key is- to make her feel special- not trapped but special! Think a good compliment- like perfume or something like that but dont say how amazingly gorgeous she is. And then be a gentleman n jus b sweet. Be urself really, let her talk and you listen more if you feel ur 2 open. x

Reply 3

Epitomessence

12

Angel83

You haven't met the right peson yet. Just be charming, witty, show and interest and be interesting. Don't act like womaniser or someone who is cold.

Totally agree (love your avatar btw, Angel83! :smile:

). Don't change the way you act, just be yourself. If you haven't drawn anyone in yet it's because you haven't met the right person for you yet. Don't be a "playa", be yourself; nice lads don't always finish last. :smile:

Reply 4

anelka9

OP

1

look there is so much competition these days that girls can have their pick of a lad.

so i want the girl to think im the number one! and i know i can be, and good looking enough, just need a few pointers.

-complimenting is good but you cant do that for hours lol.
-you know how much girls talk! i dont want to feel like im their diary!

- be interesting....hmm lol. is it like a switch? lol

Reply 5

*titanium*

12

anelka9

look there is so much competition these days that girls can have their pick of a lad.

so i want the girl to think im the number one! and i know i can be, and good looking enough, just need a few pointers.

-complimenting is good but you cant do that for hours lol.
-you know how much girls talk! i dont want to feel like im their diary!

- be interesting....hmm lol. is it like a switch? lol

hahah, thats so funny!!!! So 10 years ago there wasn't this competition? You make it sound like a buissness, today, we simply aren't able to keep up with the competition.

Reply 6

anelka9

OP

1

nope there wasnt much competition 10 years ago!

now there is. i mean you can go online and POW! take your pick lol.

Reply 7

Ice_Queen

17

Make the girl feel special. Shower her with attention and compliments, make everything she says be the most interesting thing ever!

Of course...if this doesn't come naturally, you probably want a new date.

Reply 8

jumpinglunch

13

What makes you think your uninteresting.........

Reply 9

fairycakes

12

hmm

things that make a good date:
chemistry - that is something you can't really make up yourself. you guys either have it or you don't.
listen to her stories
laugh at her jokes
be a gentleman - open doors, offer to carry things, ask her what she wants to do etc etc.
be confident but not arrogant
have interesting stories
don't talk about past gfs/bad experiences
just come across as a nice, caring person...and don't be so nervous

there are lots of stuff that depends on the girl and depends on the situation as to how to wing it. i think you just need experience, go on lots of dates, and you'll know how to read situations, and what girls really want.

and i don't think you can 'go online, and Pow! pick what you want'
i don't think there is that big a trend of people our age internet dating just yet. although the interent does make it easier to get in touch with people and other getting you know stuff prior to going on a date.

Reply 10

yazoo

I second that- dont be arrogant! N again why cant u be intersting! Neways she said yes to the date- so you cant be all that bad!! Dont over do the compliments 2. If she talks actually engage so LISTEN. Hmmm i worry that your over eagerness may be a problem. I think ask her questions then listen to the reply- i know its obvious but feel needs to be said. What hobbies- if need be talk about films... music tastes then share a jokeee..................surely you got something to say!

Reply 11

anelka9

OP

1

hehe ok then i have took some good points from this.

i like the

- be confident not arrogant
- HAVE INTERESTING STORIES

i think not having stories made me say im not an interesting person when i am!

guess i will have to think of some to link it to the date :smile:

Reply 12

fairycakes

12

don't try too hard seriously. if it happens it happens. you can't make yourselves click. and don't be too nervous. xxxx

Reply 13

buggars belief

go to the cinema and you don't have to talk very much. :wink:

Reply 14

--

3

Who the **** goes on dates these days?

Reply 15

Dolgeniog

3232

Who the **** goes on dates these days?

Exactly what I was thinking.

Reply 16

xXMessedUpXx

15

I'm not sure if there's really a "right" way to "make someone like you"

Its either gonna happen or it isn't i suppose general things like asking them about them and not just talking about yourself, and mirroring body langauge can make a better impression but i'd say just be yourself.