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    The doctor is certain I have Aspergers apparently it is different in both genders I am female.I am interested if there are any females with asperges on tsr so they could perhaps share their experience so I can compare whether I experience similar things.
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    The doctor is certain I have Aspergers apparently it is different in both genders I am female.I am interested if there are any females with asperges on tsr so they could perhaps share their experience so I can compare whether I experience similar things.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    The doctor is certain I have Aspergers apparently it is different in both genders I am female.I am interested if there are any females with asperges on tsr so they could perhaps share their experience so I can compare whether I experience similar things.
    I have a friend off TSR with it, how does it affect you?
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    I have a friend off TSR with it, how does it affect you?
    I seem to often say things which I consider not impolite yet I seem to come across as impolite.Socialising is a struggle I seem to never be able to make real friends my conversation with my classmates never stretches beyond the classroom and I cannot make any meaningful friends who would actually bother asking for my number and wanting to go out on the weekend with me.It is a lonely existence.I feel like everyone thinks I am weird and different.I feel like to have friends I would have to sacrifice who I am and engage in meaningless chit chat that means nothing to me and not be myself.But I don't think sacrificing who I am not make friends is worth it I am who I am you may dislike me but I don't care anymore.I have a fragmented personality in terms that I like to engage in childish behaviour e.g. sleep with my teddies then there is the current me who is thinking of getting those grades and pursuing medicine and going to university and then there is the older me who is quite grown up in the sense that I avoid conflict and engage in conversations people my age would not engage in as it is "not typical teen stuff".Anxiety and fear is quite a dominant feeling.
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    I seem to often say things which I consider not impolite yet I seem to come across as impolite.Socialising is a struggle I seem to never be able to make real friends my conversation with my classmates never stretches beyond the classroom and I cannot make any meaningful friends who would actually bother asking for my number and wanting to go out on the weekend with me.It is a lonely existence.I feel like everyone thinks I am weird and different.I feel like to have friends I would have to sacrifice who I am and engage in meaningless chit chat that means nothing to me and not be myself.But I don't think sacrificing who I am not make friends is worth it I am who I am you may dislike me but I don't care anymore.I have a fragmented personality in terms that I like to engage in childish behaviour e.g. sleep with my teddies then there is the current me who is thinking of getting those grades and pursuing medicine and going to university and then there is the older me who is quite grown up in the sense that I avoid conflict and engage in conversations people my age would not engage in as it is "not typical teen stuff".Anxiety and fear is quite a dominant feeling.
    You sound kinda like me if that helps :/ (I'm female btw ) i've been diagnosed with aspergers although am currently going through a rediagnosis due to one psychologist telling me aspergers and another saying social anxiety I think that girls don't tend to show emotions as outwardly as boys so it's harder to tell the difference
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    You sound kinda like me if that helps :/ (I'm female btw ) i've been diagnosed with aspergers although am currently going through a rediagnosis due to one psychologist telling me aspergers and another saying social anxiety I think that girls don't tend to show emotions as outwardly as boys so it's harder to tell the difference
    In what sense do you think you are similar?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I seem to often say things which I consider not impolite yet I seem to come across as impolite.Socialising is a struggle I seem to never be able to make real friends my conversation with my classmates never stretches beyond the classroom and I cannot make any meaningful friends who would actually bother asking for my number and wanting to go out on the weekend with me.It is a lonely existence.I feel like everyone thinks I am weird and different.I feel like to have friends I would have to sacrifice who I am and engage in meaningless chit chat that means nothing to me and not be myself.But I don't think sacrificing who I am not make friends is worth it I am who I am you may dislike me but I don't care anymore.I have a fragmented personality in terms that I like to engage in childish behaviour e.g. sleep with my teddies then there is the current me who is thinking of getting those grades and pursuing medicine and going to university and then there is the older me who is quite grown up in the sense that I avoid conflict and engage in conversations people my age would not engage in as it is "not typical teen stuff".Anxiety and fear is quite a dominant feeling.
    I see, thank you for telling me and helping me understand. I have cerebral palsy so I can understand some of those things. But I tend to be shy and reserved, not saying what I think and hoping nobody will notice me and my disability. My friend with Aspergers is cool. You could try and make friends with others who have a disability, as they should be able to understand better. I like you from what you have said, PM me.
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    (Original post by Clockrice)
    I see, thank you for telling me and helping me understand. I have cerebral palsy so I can understand some of those things. But I tend to be shy and reserved, not saying what I think and hoping nobody will notice me and my disability. My friend with Aspergers is cool. You could try and make friends with others who have a disability, as they should be able to understand better. I like you from what you have said, PM me.
    I don't really see it as a disability if I am honest we all are quite different but some are slightly more different than others.
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    I don't really see it as a disability if I am honest we all are quite different but some are slightly more different than others.
    What I am going to say may seem unsympathetic but believe me I am not.

    This is a life where we all have to get a life. People will not make allowances for you. My daughter has Aspergers, my ex husband has it, my fiancé has it too. They are ALL successful - damaged but doing OK. In this modern society we do not care about the also rans - either get on with things or .... don't
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    I don't really see it as a disability if I am honest we all are quite different but some are slightly more different than others.
    I agree. I wasn't saying it is a disability, just that people with disabilities can understand certain social differences you have. We can empathize too.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    The doctor is certain I have Aspergers apparently it is different in both genders I am female.I am interested if there are any females with asperges on tsr so they could perhaps share their experience so I can compare whether I experience similar things.
    I am a male, but an autist one. I am in contact with female autist, so I can tell a bit. They have the same symptoms like males, the ones I know are shy and/or reserved. The same what I realized by the male autist, but as females are reserved by nature, it is not so obviously they are autists.
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    You've described me but I've not been diagnosed with anything.
    However, I have sometimes felt like I was on the spectrum.
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    (Original post by hannxm)
    You've described me but I've not been diagnosed with anything.
    However, I have sometimes felt like I was on the spectrum.
    It is as I said: it is harder to diagnosed autism to women because of their different behaviour in comparison to men. So it might be that you are right.
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    (Original post by squeakysquirrel)
    What I am going to say may seem unsympathetic but believe me I am not.

    This is a life where we all have to get a life. People will not make allowances for you. My daughter has Aspergers, my ex husband has it, my fiancé has it too. They are ALL successful - damaged but doing OK. In this modern society we do not care about the also rans - either get on with things or .... don't
    I quite agree.
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    (Original post by squeakysquirrel)
    What I am going to say may seem unsympathetic but believe me I am not.

    This is a life where we all have to get a life. People will not make allowances for you. My daughter has Aspergers, my ex husband has it, my fiancé has it too. They are ALL successful - damaged but doing OK. In this modern society we do not care about the also rans - either get on with things or .... don't
    I would disagree with you completely. People who don't make allowances are often not worth knowing. (and are almost always ignorant in my experience)
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    I would disagree with you completely. People who don't make allowances are often not worth knowing. (and are almost always ignorant in my experience)
    Yes in an ideal world your assumption would be fine. Unfortunately we live in a far from ideal world. To get on in life the aspergers person has to interact or learn to interact. I have given my daughter coping mechanisms as she cannot read emotions. She only has a small circle of friends be a use of the aspergers. Many people don't understand her attitude. Just saying people are not worth knowing is a very silly thing to say. You evidently don't have aspergers
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    (Original post by squeakysquirrel)
    Yes in an ideal world your assumption would be fine. Unfortunately we live in a far from ideal world. To get on in life the aspergers person has to interact or learn to interact. I have given my daughter coping mechanisms as she cannot read emotions. She only has a small circle of friends be a use of the aspergers. Many people don't understand her attitude. Just saying people are not worth knowing is a very silly thing to say. You evidently don't have aspergers
    Actually, I do. Unless the psychiatrist and my sister with a 1st in Psychology have no idea what they're talking about?

    You remind me of the supposed "SENCO" at a college I was looking at going to who doesn't know the difference between Autism and anxiety. But this is the same woman who can't tell the difference between partial sight and Dyslexia.
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    Actually, I do. Unless the psychiatrist and my sister with a 1st in Psychology have no idea what they're talking about?

    You remind me of the supposed "SENCO" at a college I was looking at going to who doesn't know the difference between Autism and anxiety. But this is the same woman who can't tell the difference between partial sight and Dyslexia.
    Do you think having Aspergers is a lonely existence?What I mean is that you speak to people but there is no one with real substance who would speak to you outside of class or work?I don't mind too much being on my own but it never feels like your company/presence is truly wanted they don't tell you to go to away but they don't really speak to you either or put an effort in to make a conversation.It feels like whether i am there or not there no one would really care/notice as my presence is not really desired but neither unwanted but accepted.
 
 
 
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