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    Hey, so I'm now 5 weeks into my first term, but I'm really struggling to make friends. None of the people on my course are in my hall, and in my hall it feels everyone has formed really tightknit cliques, and I'm just generally quite nervous about approaching them. Any advice?
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    (Original post by Myriad26)
    Hey, so I'm now 5 weeks into my first term, but I'm really struggling to make friends. None of the people on my course are in my hall, and in my hall it feels everyone has formed really tightknit cliques, and I'm just generally quite nervous about approaching them. Any advice?
    join some sports and societies. I wouldn't go up to a bunch of people in the halls and try spark up conversation but for sports and societies you can just initiate a conversation with the first person you see-its what you signed up for, so the people there should be welcoming
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    Join clubs and societies. Be friendly and strike up a conversation with them.

    Also sit next to students in tutorials.

    I hope this helps:

    1) Relax, imagine you're just observing or there as a traveller. For example, if you are on holiday, you go there to experience and observe the attraction, you're not going to get anxious doing that are you?

    2) Smile, smiling in contagious.

    3) Be confident, respect yourself, accept yourself, work out, wear good clothes, feel good, focus on your passions, know you are a good person who treats people well, think positively, be proud of yourself, do things that make you happy, remember your happy times, what makes you confident? What makes you proud? Do you have a skill you are good at? Do things like cooking, driving, learning that increases your confidence daily.

    Have good posture, body language, improve your appearance.

    4) Dress well, have good grooming, hairstyle, have good posture.

    5) Just say hi or hey to people in your vicinity, who cares if they don't say anything back?

    6) Ask how they are, how's everything, what made them choose this course, their plans for the future, their plans for the rest of the day, weekend, how was their weekend, what they will get up to, what they got up to, ask them about their hobbies, talk about what's happening.

    Talk about the weather or did you see that sports game? Just mingle with them

    Compliment them, say "I like your jacket".

    If you know they went on a holiday or somewhere, ask them about it etc.

    7) Be passionate about life.

    8) Lighten up, have a laugh, laugh easily, be friendly, approachable, interested, relaxed.

    9) Look outside!
 
 
 
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