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    Hi anyone who reads this!

    I have a friend who I have known for ages and she is a year older than me but sometimes seems a bit younger than me. Anyway, she is very smart and on the whole organised but due to the pressures of college and also maybe the fact that her mum wants her to go to university she has been getting increasingly stressed. It was sort of june or even before that when she started having panic attacks in lessons and things. She is one of those people who gets really embarrassed about talking about mental healthy type things because she likes to be strong in front of people so she didn't really tell me until the summer holidays. Now that I am in the same college as her I have been meeting up with her more and realised how she wasn't doing welll and actually witnessed her on two occasions having panic attacks. Now if this wasnt enough to worry me she then told me, whilst having a panic attack, that her mum was worried about her not eating, and she said she wasn't.

    She has now told her mum and they are seeing a specialist. But thats not the main reason I am writing this. I was just after some guidance on how I can help her now and also some help because I feel aweful. I already have a problem of excessive worrying but this has made it really difficult for me to concentrate on anything. Mainly becuase every time I met up with her at lunch I would eat mine and ask if she was going to eat hers and she told me she was eating it at break and I didn't even think to question this because lots of my friends eat their lunch at break. And also because of the way she was built and she did gymanstics she has always been skinny so I didn't even notice. But I did notice that she looked exhausted and sort of sunken but I thought that was the panic attacks and stress. As well as this I am in the year below her and a very busy person so, although i try to meet up as frequently as possible, I feel like she has confided in me because she really trusts me as she hasnt told any of her other friends but I feel helpless. I feel like I haven't been a good friend at all and now i am really really worried.

    I don't know if anyone will read this but if you do i just wondered if there is anything I can do to help her. I am so worried
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    Hi anyone who reads this!

    I have a friend who I have known for ages and she is a year older than me but sometimes seems a bit younger than me. Anyway, she is very smart and on the whole organised but due to the pressures of college and also maybe the fact that her mum wants her to go to university she has been getting increasingly stressed. It was sort of june or even before that when she started having panic attacks in lessons and things. She is one of those people who gets really embarrassed about talking about mental healthy type things because she likes to be strong in front of people so she didn't really tell me until the summer holidays. Now that I am in the same college as her I have been meeting up with her more and realised how she wasn't doing welll and actually witnessed her on two occasions having panic attacks. Now if this wasnt enough to worry me she then told me, whilst having a panic attack, that her mum was worried about her not eating, and she said she wasn't.

    She has now told her mum and they are seeing a specialist. But thats not the main reason I am writing this. I was just after some guidance on how I can help her now and also some help because I feel aweful. I already have a problem of excessive worrying but this has made it really difficult for me to concentrate on anything. Mainly becuase every time I met up with her at lunch I would eat mine and ask if she was going to eat hers and she told me she was eating it at break and I didn't even think to question this because lots of my friends eat their lunch at break. And also because of the way she was built and she did gymanstics she has always been skinny so I didn't even notice. But I did notice that she looked exhausted and sort of sunken but I thought that was the panic attacks and stress. As well as this I am in the year below her and a very busy person so, although i try to meet up as frequently as possible, I feel like she has confided in me because she really trusts me as she hasnt told any of her other friends but I feel helpless. I feel like I haven't been a good friend at all and now i am really really worried.

    I don't know if anyone will read this but if you do i just wondered if there is anything I can do to help her. I am so worried
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    Hi, the fact that you are so worried for her is so touching and shows how you care for her. I think that letting her know you are there for her no matter what is one of the key things. You don't want her to feel to "smothered" by constantly checking up on her, treat as you normally would but look out for little things. My friend had panic attacks and I would go into overdrive of asking her questions but she told me the best thing I could do for her was keep calm. Showing her that I was calm, helped her to also calm down the attack, maybe you could this method for your friend too. It's hard when you feel like you can't do anything and all you want to do is check up on them, but again, try and treat her as you normally would. Her confiding in you shows that what you have been doing is working, she trusts you and that is something to hold onto. Maybe ask her if there is anything you can do, or try and get her to open up more on why she is going through this so that you can help her. But what you are doing is already so much, just being there and even writing this message is proof you care and are doing all you can for her. I am sorry there was not a lot of advice, but I think that reassuring her that things will be okay is a huge factor to consider.

    I hope this helped you and I also hope your friend gets better too!
 
 
 
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