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    I turn 16 next month and I am hoping to have a small evening meal with a group of my friends. My friendship group is fairly small but without leaving people out I don't think I will be able to afford paying the bill for 7/8 people including myself. Is it rude to ask the guests to pay for themselves? Obviously we are all students so it would not be a particularly fancy meal. And if not, how do I ensure that everybody is aware of this arrangement without suggesting it outright? Thanks!
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    Well the birthday meals ive been to, i had to pay for myself, but before everyone turned 16, their parents would pay for everyone
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    (Original post by seesey)
    I turn 16 next month and I am hoping to have a small evening meal with a group of my friends. My friendship group is fairly small but without leaving people out I don't think I will be able to afford paying the bill for 7/8 people including myself. Is it rude to ask the guests to pay for themselves? Obviously we are all students so it would not be a particularly fancy meal. And if not, how do I ensure that everybody is aware of this arrangement without suggesting it outright? Thanks!
    If they are decent friends, then politely discussing it outright wouldnt be too bad.
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    with my friends whenever we go out for bday meals everyone always pays for themselves
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    (Original post by seesey)
    I turn 16 next month and I am hoping to have a small evening meal with a group of my friends. My friendship group is fairly small but without leaving people out I don't think I will be able to afford paying the bill for 7/8 people including myself. Is it rude to ask the guests to pay for themselves? Obviously we are all students so it would not be a particularly fancy meal. And if not, how do I ensure that everybody is aware of this arrangement without suggesting it outright? Thanks!


    Any bday meal I've been involved in (including adult and extended family things) past kiddie parties has been each person or household paying for themselves or an equally split bill. Totally appropriate.

    If you're taking multiple people it may be a pain for the restaurant to split a bill and for you guys to do the maths so you could always agree on you each paying a set price (base it on main, drink and possibly a desert) and you can pick up any loose change or pay any small amount over.
    You'll also want to book btw (easy to forget).

    I would just ask in a group chat or something where people like and slip in a line about not wanting it to be too expensive for people or mention an agreed plan of action. With a little hint it should be obvious enough that you want them to pay for themselves.


    Shameless promotions here, but TGI fridays have a cool unlimited appetisers deal on certain evenings and will also give you a special treat on your Bday if you get their app. I believe it's a slice of cake and possibly a cocktail (or mock-tail).
    The deal has a set price for unlimited food and they do unlimited refills on fizz.

    Not sure if it's a 16yo party kinda place, but if you're trying to decide where to go and how to sort out payments it could be an easy option. Ditto with any sort of buffet with set price.

    Hope that helps and happy birthday! :yay:
 
 
 
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