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    Im in uni and Last week I went clubbing with friends and ended up kissing someone who I work with. I walked her home and kissed her again but didn't go inside. Anyway she gave me her number and told me to message her. However there's someone else I like that I was thinking of asking out. Should I message the girl I kissed since she seems interested in me or would I have left it too late now since we've already worked together since then and barely spoke?
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    (Original post by Jack123210)
    Im in uni and Last week I went clubbing with friends and ended up kissing someone who I work with. I walked her home and kissed her again but didn't go inside. Anyway she gave me her number and told me to message her. However there's someone else I like that I was thinking of asking out. Should I message the girl I kissed since she seems interested in me or would I have left it too late now since we've already worked together since then and barely spoke?
    complicated, and idk why im all of a sudden acting as a love guru but, tell the girl who likes you that you don't like her back (ofc in the most polite and unawkwardest way possible) and when working with her just treat her as normal.

    dont message the girl you like, until you've done the thing above. even though the girl you work with isn't your gf you have to respect her

    all in all, go for the things you love, or you'll regret it
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    There isn't really anything stopping you from talking to both right now. How do you know if the other girl will say yes?
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    (Original post by UWS)
    There isn't really anything stopping you from talking to both right now. How do you know if the other girl will say yes?
    Yeah but would it be harsh of me to message the girl I kissed asking her to meet up then ask out the girl I like sometime soon?
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    (Original post by Jack123210)
    Yeah but would it be harsh of me to message the girl I kissed asking her to meet up then ask out the girl I like sometime soon?
    Nope, it's just a first date. You don't know if this new girl will be boring or not yet so just go on the first date to see how things go. Then ask out the other girl if things don't work out.
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    (Original post by UWS)
    Nope, it's just a first date. You don't know if this new girl will be boring or not yet so just go on the first date to see how things go. Then ask out the other girl if things don't work out.
    Yeah fair enough but would it make me a bad person if I asked out the new girl just because I know she likes me and so I could probably get with her at the end of the night?
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    (Original post by Jack123210)
    Yeah fair enough but would it make me a bad person if I asked out the new girl just because I know she likes me and so I could probably get with her at the end of the night?
    What do you want from this, a hookup or a relationship?
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    (Original post by UWS)
    What do you want from this, a hookup or a relationship?
    Right now probably just a hookup or fwb with the new girl but with the girl I like I'd like a relationship.
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    (Original post by Jack123210)
    Yeah fair enough but would it make me a bad person if I asked out the new girl just because I know she likes me and so I could probably get with her at the end of the night?
    Looool wow. It depends how you do it tbh, it doesn't make you a bad person as long as you don't break her heart and play her. Maybe just trash

    Then again you are technically using her so..

    The male part of me and the empathetic human part of me are telling me different things lol
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    (Original post by Jack123210)
    Right now probably just a hookup or fwb with the new girl but with the girl I like I'd like a relationship.
    I think it's only fair if you let the new girl know that you're only after a hookup. That would clear up any confusion and you won't be leading her on.
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    (Original post by Jack123210)
    Im in uni and Last week I went clubbing with friends and ended up kissing someone who I work with. I walked her home and kissed her again but didn't go inside. Anyway she gave me her number and told me to message her. However there's someone else I like that I was thinking of asking out. Should I message the girl I kissed since she seems interested in me or would I have left it too late now since we've already worked together since then and barely spoke?
    Do you like the girl who you kissed? Does the other girl you like like you back?
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    Looool wow. It depends how you do it tbh, it doesn't make you a bad person as long as you don't lead her on and break her heart. Maybe just trash

    Then again you are technically using her so..

    The male part of me and the empathetic human part of me are telling me different things lol
    Lol yeah I'm thinking it could be fun but I don't wanna hurt the new girl but I think we could have fun until I actually ask out the girl I like
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    (Original post by khookie)
    Do you like the girl who you kissed? Does the other girl you like like you back?
    I think me and the new girl could have fun but I don't think I'd want a relationship with her. The girl I like seems to like me but u don't know if she just likes just likes me as a friend of not.
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    (Original post by UWS)
    I think it's only fair if you let the new girl know that you're only after a hookup. That would clear up any confusion and you won't be leading her on.
    Yeah I'd let her know I wasn't after an actual relationship. Do you think I should let her know if I message her or when we actually meet for a drink?
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    (Original post by Jack123210)
    I think me and the new girl could have fun but I don't think I'd want a relationship with her. The girl I like seems to like me but u don't know if she just likes just likes me as a friend of not.
    I think you should let the girl know that you're not looking for a relationship with her when you next see her. Go for the girl you like
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    Just a quick update, I messaged the girl I kissed to see if she wanted to go for a drink and she said we should just be friends so I even got rejected by the girl that was interested in me so I really don't like my chances for getting a yes from the girl I like
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    I once messaged a girl, turns out shes ugly and fat. dont trust the student room, too many uggos and fattys
 
 
 
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