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    I've honestly hated my 'amazing uni experience so far'.
    I can't drink because I nearly died last year. Simple as that really. But this has RUINED my social life at uni because everythng is centered around alcohol. EVERYTHING. And because I don't drink, I got ostracized by my flat. That's right, they just excluded me and made me feel like shite because I don't drink.

    My old flat were awful to me( just accept they were awful, I'm not going to dwelve into details). They called me a recluse because they made me feeel so left unincluded.

    All the people I've met at uni and have so weird and I've clicked with NOBODY. I've had to move accomodations and my accomodation now is okay, but STILL.... like, haven't clicked with anyone here( they're not mean to me, but they just dont socialise with me).

    Yeah.
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    (Original post by APersonYo)
    I've honestly hated my 'amazing uni experience so far'.
    I can't drink because I nearly died last year. Simple as that really. But this has RUINED my social life at uni because everythng is centered around alcohol. EVERYTHING. And because I don't drink, I got ostracized by my flat. That's right, they just excluded me and made me feel like shite because I don't drink.

    My old flat were awful to me( just accept they were awful, I'm not going to dwelve into details). They called me a recluse because they made me feeel so left unincluded.

    All the people I've met at uni and have so weird and I've clicked with NOBODY. I've had to move accomodations and my accomodation now is okay, but STILL.... like, haven't clicked with anyone here( they're not mean to me, but they just dont socialise with me).

    Yeah.
    hm interesting. i wonder if it's because the uni you've chosen to go through? maybe the people from that area just aren't nice? What uni is it that you go to?

    And dude, i'm really sorry to hear that, it sucks that people there are making alcohol the centre of things? the way i see it, it's pretty sad tbh. alchol rots your liver eventually, anyway.
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    (Original post by ZiggyStardust_)
    hm interesting. i wonder if it's because the uni you've chosen to go through? maybe the people from that area just aren't nice? What uni is it that you go to?

    And dude, i'm really sorry to hear that, it sucks that people there are making alcohol the centre of things? the way i see it, it's pretty sad tbh. alchol rots your liver eventually, anyway.
    I go to the University of Bath

    I dont like it
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    Sorry to hear you are having a rough time. I hope things are improving for you. My daughter considering applying to Bath. Are there particular halls she should avoid? Are there quiet vs rowdy ones? She is v quiet and a non-drinker. Thanks
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    (Original post by APersonYo)
    I go to the University of Bath

    I dont like it
    that's interesting.

    i live near bath, and i know the area is predominantly similar. like there's mainly white people, it's an area that lacks diversity and culture imo.

    do you think that could be a reason why you feel bad there?
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      (Original post by APersonYo)
      I've honestly hated my 'amazing uni experience so far'.
      I can't drink because I nearly died last year. Simple as that really. But this has RUINED my social life at uni because everythng is centered around alcohol. EVERYTHING. And because I don't drink, I got ostracized by my flat. That's right, they just excluded me and made me feel like shite because I don't drink.

      My old flat were awful to me( just accept they were awful, I'm not going to dwelve into details). They called me a recluse because they made me feeel so left unincluded.

      All the people I've met at uni and have so weird and I've clicked with NOBODY. I've had to move accomodations and my accomodation now is okay, but STILL.... like, haven't clicked with anyone here( they're not mean to me, but they just dont socialise with me).

      Yeah.
      Yeah, not drinking does restrict your social life a lot. But even I manage to have some social life aside from that; there are a surprising number of people who don't care for alcoholism and hedonism at my Uni (not Bath).

      Just go to nerdier societies and you'll find plenty of teetotalers there, I'm sure
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      Sorry to hear about that. Not drinking is not really a reason to make someone feel so left out. Join a couple of student societies available at your Uni. You could find someone with similar interests. And it's alright you know... sometimes it just takes time to find your people.
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      i want to die and I drink
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        (Original post by ZiggyStardust_)
        i live near bath, and i know the area is predominantly similar. like there's mainly white people, it's an area that lacks diversity and culture imo.

        do you think that could be a reason why you feel bad there?
        > Bath
        > No culture

        lol. It is a World Heritage Site dating back to Roman times.

        I think by "no culture" what you really mean is that it is not multicultural.
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        (Original post by APersonYo)
        I've honestly hated my 'amazing uni experience so far'.
        I can't drink because I nearly died last year. Simple as that really. But this has RUINED my social life at uni because everythng is centered around alcohol. EVERYTHING. And because I don't drink, I got ostracized by my flat. That's right, they just excluded me and made me feel like shite because I don't drink.

        My old flat were awful to me( just accept they were awful, I'm not going to dwelve into details). They called me a recluse because they made me feeel so left unincluded.

        All the people I've met at uni and have so weird and I've clicked with NOBODY. I've had to move accomodations and my accomodation now is okay, but STILL.... like, haven't clicked with anyone here( they're not mean to me, but they just dont socialise with me).

        Yeah.
        I think joining a society would be your best bet. Try to find one where you’ll feel comfortable talking and getting to know the ppl there. At my uni, there is this Christian society that is primary about fostering a family. They have dinner every Friday and discuss topics of interest. Something like that would be a good start. Good luck and don’t feel too down!! There has to be other people who don’t drink, you just gotta bump into them.
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        (Original post by Segg the Egg)
        i want to die and I drink
        Same
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        (Original post by Anonymous)
        Sorry to hear you are having a rough time. I hope things are improving for you. My daughter considering applying to Bath. Are there particular halls she should avoid? Are there quiet vs rowdy ones? She is v quiet and a non-drinker. Thanks
        Oh hi!

        If she's a non-drinker and quite quiet I would definitely avoid Eastwood or Westwood...

        I know quads allows for more individuality, but I'm not sure about the others
        Bath is a very good uni otherwise

        The career prospects are ridiculous
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        You need to hunt down the non drinkers, and the societies safe for non drinkers are some sports clubs (there are a few that don't support the booze culture!) and the more niche societies. Most uni's have non drinking societies too!
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        (Original post by ZiggyStardust_)
        that's interesting.

        i live near bath, and i know the area is predominantly similar. like there's mainly white people, it's an area that lacks diversity and culture imo.

        do you think that could be a reason why you feel bad there?
        Like you said...
        I wouldn't say there is a lack of diversity and culture in the sense that there are no international students because theres genuienly a staggering amount. But if its very hard for you to find people you clique with
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        (Original post by Thalamic)
        You need to hunt down the non drinkers, and the societies safe for non drinkers are some sports clubs (there are a few that don't support the booze culture!) and the more niche societies. Most uni's have non drinking societies too!
        Not a bath.
        Very against non-drinkers.
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        (Original post by DarkMask09)
        I think joining a society would be your best bet. Try to find one where you’ll feel comfortable talking and getting to know the ppl there. At my uni, there is this Christian society that is primary about fostering a family. They have dinner every Friday and discuss topics of interest. Something like that would be a good start. Good luck and don’t feel too down!! There has to be other people who don’t drink, you just gotta bump into them.
        I've joined two societies and they're going quite well
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        I honestly know the feeling as it's really hard adjusting to the new people and environment. I miss my old friends all the time and I hate feeling on edge constantly because I can't feel comfortable around people!
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        (Original post by FriendlyPenguin)
        > Bath
        > No culture

        lol. It is a World Heritage Site dating back to Roman times.

        I think by "no culture" what you really mean is that it is not multicultural.
        Bath is so multicultural.

        All my friends are turkish, romanian, indian and eastern asian. I have 2 English friends!
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        (Original post by APersonYo)
        I've joined two societies and they're going quite well
        Hope thinks stay up then. I used to be the type to stay indoors all the time but since coming to uni I’ve found that it pays to invite people out to shops or back to my room (I don’t drink either). Guess it shows people that even though you don’t drink your still willing to hang out. I’ve mostly make friends by pure fluke. Just happens to sit next to the right person at lunch.
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        They made you feel like shite just because you don't drink alcohol???? why just why
       
       
       
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