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    Seems to me like you're creating a storm in a teacup here. Text him ask for a meet, he'll either meet you or he won't and then move past it, one way or another.
    He always usually ends up messaging me. I just feel as though you know that I'm disturbing him I don't want to feel like that. He had the chance to meet me and fix my hurt but didn't. He's the one who made it days without speaking not me! He called me and I picked up and messaged him!
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I'm just so angry and hurt he lied to me. Then this happens I'm just starting to strongly believe he doesn't care about me or my feelings and it's making me feel very alone and upset.
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    He knows me well and when I'm angry he normally would message me to say he isn't coming but he didn't ! I see him with one friend getting a tattoo done then another one at night of them in the club.
    The only way any of this is going to change is if you start speaking to him about what's wrong, if you keep blanking him just because you're angry you can't honestly expect him to change.

    If anything, what you're currently doing is probably making everything worse.
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    Yeah so take a stand and change it, message him and just sort it, otherwise you'll just be left with 'what-ifs' and 'maybes'.
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    Yeah so take a stand and change it, message him and just sort it, otherwise you'll just be left with 'what-ifs' and 'maybes'.
    I feel as though I'm disturbing him so I'm laying back. I'm sure it won't take a year for him to message me?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I feel as though I'm disturbing him so I'm laying back. I'm sure it won't take a year for him to message me?
    You might be both playing the same game though...
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    You don't like the way he makes his money...he doesn't want to change that...end the relationship and move on
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    I don't know how serious the lie was, but the best thing seems to be to talk to him. If you can't communicate with each other, what about the future? You need to deal with this and resolve it, not just wait for him to talk to you.

    If his work is making you unhappy, you need to consider if the rest of the relationship has enough merit for you to continue it.
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    This is something you sort out between each other, not something where you listen to the knee jerk reactions of random people on the internet.
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    get a grip and anger management
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Business just business I can't explain. It was a big deal he promised he wouldn't. And he basically told me when we were both angry that if I don't like the way he makes money then I should leave.
    Does he run an escort service? Because if he's doing normal stuff like daycare or delivering groceries, you don't have much to complain about.

    Also, the texting thing is bordering on silly. If you're penalizing him for not reading your mind, he's better off somewhere else.
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    It's fair enough you're annoyed, I'd try speaking to him, and maybe speak to one of your friends about it which could help put things in perspective.
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    he's doing business with girls which you don't like, you argued and he told you he stopped but he didn't and also said if you don't like it just leave? Also doesn't seem like he's trying very hard to make it up to you, honestly it sounds like this relationship is causing you too much trouble, leave him and move on, he's not worth it.
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    One could say you told us that 2 Fast 2 Furious
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    My boyfriend did two things recently which I got angry about and still am
    If you don't tell us why you're angry, nobody cares. It's impossible to advise you unless we know.

    Furthermore, it's childish to just ignore him. Frankly, nothing you've written here reflects well on you. You come across as being somewhat immature and entitled.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Nope he told me he will stop doing business with girls and I found out he still was
    Doing business with girls? What does that even mean?

    If by that you mean he has some kind of job that involves interacting with females and you've demanded that he cease interacting with females, then he should dump you. If that is true, then you're an incredibly immature, self-entitled and small person, and he would be far better off without you.

    And don't you worry, he'll work that out soon enough and give you the flick. There are other women out there who are not so insecure and controlling that they demand their boyfriend not have any work-related interaction with women
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    (Original post by AlexanderHam)
    If you don't tell us why you're angry, nobody cares. It's impossible to advise you unless we know.

    Furthermore, it's childish to just ignore him. Frankly, nothing you've written here reflects well on you. You come across as being somewhat immature and entitled.
    Could not agree more.

    OP, you come across as incredibly childish and petulant to say the least. Ok, I could appreciate you being a little annoyed, perhaps even mad for an hour or two. "Furious" though? And for two or three days? Come on.

    It's of course nobody's place to tell you about your relationship, but if you're getting this worked up about something so small now, imagine in 6 months time or 2 years time. Either grow up, talk it through and work it out, or call it a day.

    Good luck with it though, hope it all works out - whatever you decide to do.
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    Could not agree more.

    OP, you come across as incredibly childish and petulant to say the least. Ok, I could appreciate you being a little annoyed, perhaps even mad for an hour or two. "Furious" though? And for two or three days? Come on.

    It's of course nobody's place to tell you about your relationship, but if you're getting this worked up about something so small now, imagine in 6 months time or 2 years time. Either grow up, talk it through and work it out, or call it a day.

    Good luck with it though, hope it all works out - whatever you decide to do.
    He cheated on me for 3 months and physically kissed a girl one day before he saw me last week. Found out couple days ago!
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    He cheated on me for 3 months and physically kissed a girl one day before he saw me last week. Found out couple days ago!
    He sounds like a douche. Cheating on someone is awful and you should 100% get rid of him in my opinion.

    He may be an idiot, but that doesn't detract from your childish attitude you displayed BEFORE finding out he had cheated on you. Just doesn't sound like a particularly healthy relationship tbh, but hey, who am I to judge.

    You do you, OP, and be happy
 
 
 
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