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    I feel pretty childish posting this, but my boyfriend's past seems to be very girl oriented; he fell out with one of his closest friends because the friend went for a girl he knew my boyfriend liked in high school (Something he's still not over) and all his exes seem to have had dome decent impact on him.

    His last ex (Girlfriend before me) he got with just to have sex with, which I understand in a way? But the ex before that he said he really liked her (They did drugs together and she was his first sexual experience e.g hand & mouth stuff I think) and again, he's still not really over her.

    I know it shouldn't be bothering me because I can tell that he loves me & would never cheat on me, and if not that then he at least cares about me to an beautiful amount, but my anxiety and self hatred just can't let his past go; what if he'll never get over them and he's just using me to fill the void until he runs back to them?

    The worst part of all of this is that he's told me he feels uncomfortable talking about his past relationships because he knows just how much I overthink and how my anxiety destroys my self worth.

    If you can tell he loves you, I'm pretty sure he won't be using you to just fill a void. I think you need to work on your own self confidence and not doubt the relationship because that will probably ruin it.
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    Honestly if you trust Him and believe that he truly loves you. You have nothing to worry about. You can tell him it makes you a little uncomfortable and if he could kind of tell him to tell them to back off. I'm having the exact same problem and Some girls just can't be trusted, not your fault, not his. It's just how girls act.
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