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    If girls like shy, inexperienced guys? Why do the arrogant guys who sleep with any girl they meet on a night out can easily get a girlfriend?
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    yeah well shy inexperienced girls struggle even more.
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    I don't know, maybe because you have the unreasonable expectation that you deserve a girlfriend and then immediately demonstrate your poor character by negatively commenting on other men who may or may not have a girlfriend?
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    I think a lot of girls like guys to be forward, show their interest, hence they'll go for the guys that are confident enough to do so. From what I've seen, very few girls have the confidence to make the first move, which is a shame really. So if you're quiet, it doesn't always mean someone isn't interested in you, they could just be waiting for you to make the first move which you won't do if you're too shy. You can't expect girls to just fall for you if you don't do anything.
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    tone the entitlement down a notch and maybe some poor girl will like you
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    (Original post by artful_lounger)
    I don't know, maybe because you have the unreasonable expectation that you deserve a girlfriend and then immediately demonstrate your poor character by negatively commenting on other men who may or may not have a girlfriend?
    Oh thanks
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    If girls like shy, inexperienced guys? Why do the arrogant guys who sleep with any girl they meet on a night out can easily get a girlfriend?
    Um, well, start with the obvious. Shy guys don't normally approach girls, some girls find shy guys cute, yes, but they themselves don't want to approach them as they're nervous themselves.

    Another bit, shy guys usually aren't good at talking, mainly due to them being shy and also they're not used to talking to girls.

    "arrogant guys" (I assume you mean confident or something along those lines) they go up to them and don't care if they say yes or no most of the time as they know they'll find someone eventually, and if they don't then nothing's changed. Also, they don't "sleep with any girl they meet on a night out" and they also cant "easily get a girl friend." I'm sure they get rejected numerous times every night as that's what happens to guys.
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    tone the entitlement down a notch and maybe some poor girl will like you
    Don’t you mean human rights? I’m as autistic 22 year old deserve love.
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    Um, well, start with the obvious. Shy guys don't normally approach girls, some girls find shy guys cute, yes, but they themselves don't want to approach them as they're nervous themselves.

    Another bit, shy guys usually aren't good at talking, mainly due to them being shy and also they're not used to talking to girls.

    "arrogant guys" (I assume you mean confident or something along those lines) they go up to them and don't care if they say yes or no most of the time as they know they'll find someone eventually, and if they don't then nothing's changed. Also, they don't "sleep with any girl they meet on a night out" and they also cant "easily get a girl friend." I'm sure they get rejected numerous times every night as that's what happens to guys.
    What if you’re shy and ugly? I’ve been called ugly a few times and I’d girls showing me signs that they think I’m ugly e.g. blocking me on snapchat when I show them a photo of myself, getting my fiend request declined, walking away at nights out when I try to approach them
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    What if you’re shy and ugly? I’ve been called ugly a few times and I’d girls showing me signs that they think I’m ugly e.g. blocking me on snapchat when I show them a photo of myself, getting my fiend request declined, walking away at nights out when I try to approach them
    Jamie, my dude, my guy. If they call you ugly then ignore them and move onto the next one, find someone who thinks you're attractive and wham! a tap dancing partner.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Don’t you mean human rights? I’m as autistic 22 year old deserve love.
    You don't have a right to demand love from people.
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    From my experience as a previous shy guy, the shyness will turn a situation awkward. If you really want a girl to consider you then you need to show them why they should date you. You need to be confident and playful around them by teasing them. Also don't be afraid of being a bit sexual towards them (not too much) because you're not there to friend-zoned, and you need to show this. Obviously... relationships need a bit of sexiness...

    If this does not persuade you to be more confident then a good heart break (when the girl you really like either dates someone else or cuts off contact with you) will surely wake you up.
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    Look at my face dude, you'd think just by looking at me that I don't sliver into the salami walls. BUT YOU'RE WRONG. I slytherin to that chamber of secrets every night, it's not wizardry my dude, ya just gotta get drunk then talk to them, then, when you're both drunk, do the dirty and they may stay with you or something, idk.
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    You don't have a right to demand love from people.
    Love is for everyone.
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    From my experience as a previous shy guy, the shyness will turn a situation awkward. If you really want a girl to consider you then you need to show them why they should date you. You need to be confident and playful around them by teasing them. Also don't be afraid of being a bit sexual towards them (not too much) because you're not there to friend-zoned, and you need to show this. Obviously... relationships need a bit of sexiness...

    If this does not persuade you to be more confident then a good heart break (when the girl you really like either dates someone else or cuts off contact with you) will surely wake you up.
    Awesome advice but I don’t want to be seen as pervert or someone who doesn’t leave them kind of guy.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Love is for everyone.
    But not FROM everyone.
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    But not FROM everyone.
    Everyone deserves love even the disabled
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    The clue is in meeting on 'a night out'. Mostly, those 'girls just wanna have fun.'

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    The majority of girls like a confident, dominant guy, if a guy has been with other girls before, he'll know how to dominate, I mean it's blatantly obviously that you're not exactly gonna be chaining someone down if it's your first time!
    In my experience, "inexperienced guys" are just annoying and don't know how to act in sexual/romantic situations, like I was recently at a guys house, making moves on him, making it blatantly obvious I wanted to have sex (I mean I was literally taking clothes off and hinting at touching him!) yet he didn't understand and waited HOURS to reciprocate and by that time I was just soo angry at him that I just went home.
    You sound like one of those guys that says "Why do girls never go for the NICE GUYS like me??? They always go for douch bags!! Wahh wahh waaaa!! 😭😭". Like chill, sorry girls don't wanna be with some socially awkward, self-entitled guy
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Everyone deserves love even the disabled
    You basically just repeated your last post. See my last post.
 
 
 
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