Why do shy, inexperienced guys like me struggle to get girlfriends?

I’m open to hear the other side in arguments especially when it comes to political debates but it felt from my perspective you were being slightly insulant and trying to shut me down. If it wasn’t your intention I’ll take your word for it.

I’ll admit that people like me aren’t cut out for love. You should’ve said that from the start.

You did say it how it is to help pull myself unlike some people on here giving harsh answers in a way to making me feel like I’m some vile person. You gave me brutally honest answers but you also tried to give me constructive advice and some motivation.

One of the reasons why I’m pessimistic because of my past bad experiences and have the tendency to dwell in all the bad things that happened in the past.

How am I supposed to get a job when I never worked in my life or had any work experience? I don’t even have a CV because I don’t know how to make one or even have the motivation.

You know people like me are afraid to talk to someone regarding mental health.

I’m so pessimistic that I had a bad habit posting a lot of pessimistic posts that hardly get any likes or comments. As in 2017 I’ve been improving compared to how it was in 2014-16 but I still do it sometimes. I used to post e.g. “I feel like removing myself from this planet. It’s the only option I got left”.I’m trying to put a stop to it due the distress and annoyance that I may have courses to family members and friends I got on Facebook. I’m thinking of joining a running club or kick boxing that may slowly get it all kicking off.

yeah well shy inexperienced girls struggle even more.

That IS what I was saying from the start - I just elaborated further in my last post as you didn't seem to understand where I was coming from.

Do I blame myself instead?

If girls like shy, inexperienced guys? Why do the arrogant guys who sleep with any girl they meet on a night out can easily get a girlfriend?

yeah well shy inexperienced girls struggle even more.

no all you have to do is look pretty and stand there

Everyone deserves love even the disabled

deserve =/= entitled

people shouldn't dislike you because you're disabled but no one automatically gets a partner... a relationship is not a human right for anyone, disabled or not... you have to work at it, meet people, be kind, friendly, make an effort etc

deserve =/= entitled

people shouldn't dislike you because you're disabled but no one automatically gets a partner... a relationship is not a human right for anyone, disabled or not... you have to work at it, meet people, be kind, friendly, make an effort etc

You’re trying to tell me that relationships are privileges?

I think a lot of girls like guys to be forward, show their interest, hence they'll go for the guys that are confident enough to do so. From what I've seen, very few girls have the confidence to make the first move, which is a shame really. So if you're quiet, it doesn't always mean someone isn't interested in you, they could just be waiting for you to make the first move which you won't do if you're too shy. You can't expect girls to just fall for you if you don't do anything.

You’re trying to tell me that relationships are privileges?

it's a bit simplistic to split the world into rights and privileges... but a relationship is certainly more of a privilege than a right. You have to earn it and if you don't then you don't get one.

Then explain education about being a right or privilege?

I doubt most of them worked for it. They just got it easy. I’ve watched people coming out in relationship then within a few weeks/months they’d find someone else and there’s me who still single. The problem those kind of people think they’re better than people like me.

well there you go assuming again, you don't know what they've been through, have you asked them how many times they tried?

maybe it's to do with you as a person, maybe they have a quality or something about them which you don't, put yourself out there and try and find otu something both of you can relate to and maybe then you can develop something from there.


and also another assumption that they're better than you, that's 1 field that they're better than you, maybe you're better than them in many more countless more significant field