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    Hey anyone out there have any knowledge of Asperger in females?
    I was misdiagnosed with anxiety recently. But I know that there’s more to me than that. After all I have been suffering all my life with social interaction, mannerisms, coordination, obsession.

    My symptoms or issues now

    Selectivity mute
    Lack empathy but I do have sympathy but I have my own way of expressing it. It might seem like I’m careless
    Use fake smiles to disguise I’m ok
    Feeling dead inside
    No dreams since I was 13
    Get migraines from people’s voices
    Lack guilt
    Don’t know how to socialise or make or maintain friends properly
    Can’t go outside alone without feeling overwhelmed
    College classroom don’t like table layout
    Eye contact is an issue
    Body coordination is bad - unbalanced walking, slouching, leaning
    Fidgeting with items like turning lights off and on and constantly adjusting per hour
    Making schedules everyday and trying to perfect it
    Physics and mathematics as daily study as It relieves me
    Art - particularly drawing people, calms me down
    Head jerking/ flinching
    Seizures
    Been like this all my life since I started nursery onwards, at home I’m perfectly fine and happiest.
    I have an above average IQ
    Sleep issues
    Routines are important to me

    What they tell me
    - Asians are culturally quiet (well the ones I know are either shy or loud the shy ones still have plenty of friends and seem to understand the need to socialise, while I feel alienated, alone and misunderstood
    - Girls are unlikely to have it- and they assume I have social anxiety - well guess what? Is it possible to be born with social anxiety?
    - They use the male criteria to conclude whether I have Aspergers or not.

    So I just wanted to know whether I was misdiagnosed or was it right? I’m going mad and impatient to know what’s wrong with me.
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    (Original post by Jtk101_)
    - They use the male criteria to conclude whether I have Aspergers or not.
    There's no such thing as "male criteria". There are various questionnaires they use.
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    (Original post by Tiger Rag)
    There's no such thing as "male criteria". There are various questionnaires they use.
    Yeah but they told me instantly that I don’t have it without checking properly or even taking anytime on me. Because my previous doctor told me I might have milder form of autism compared to my younger brother who has high functioning
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    (Original post by Jtk101_)
    Yeah but they told me instantly that I don’t have it without checking properly or even taking anytime on me. Because my previous doctor told me I might have milder form of autism compared to my younger brother who has high functioning
    "checking properly" how? They can usually work out that you don't have it without doing a full questionnaire.
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    (Original post by Tiger Rag)
    "checking properly" how? They can usually work out that you don't have it without doing a full questionnaire.
    They did do a questinairre but they said being shy is expected by girls and the fact that I’m communicating fine (well I heard that girls are better at adapting and blending in, my parents and teachers used to make me speak by threatening me that I’ll probably be dead if I don’t socialise) so I ended up communicating, but only when spoken too.
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    From everything listed your profile looks very much high functioning asperger.

    The ideal is to get a paediatrician (assuming you are under 18) to diagnose/confirm what you suspect - get a GP referral. The ideal is an educational psychologist who will list what support you need in an educational setting.

    I am very much in the camp you have a diagnosis NOT a label and with that you can get the support you need to engage fully in what life has to offer.

    I am a mum of 2 SEN kids not aspergers but I know plenty of asperger kids. Work with your skills set - really you have loads - play to your strengths.

    There are loads of support agencies that will make sure you can access and have the correct support so that you meet your academic potential. IPSEA is a good start point. I also know a mum of 2 asperger boys who is very vocal and strong on your rights - special needs jungle. Brilliant advocate for your rights and support network.

    You have done so well to get this far without support.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    From everything listed your profile looks very much high functioning asperger.

    The ideal is to get a paediatrician (assuming you are under 18) to diagnose/confirm what you suspect - get a GP referral. The ideal is an educational psychologist who will list what support you need in an educational setting.

    I am very much in the camp you have a diagnosis NOT a label and with that you can get the support you need to engage fully in what life has to offer.

    I am a mum of 2 SEN kids not aspergers but I know plenty of asperger kids. Work with your skills set - really you have loads - play to your strengths.

    There are loads of support agencies that will make sure you can access and have the correct support so that you meet your academic potential. IPSEA is a good start point. I also know a mum of 2 asperger boys who is very vocal and strong on your rights - special needs jungle. Brilliant advocate for your rights and support network.

    You have done so well to get this far without support.
    Thanks for the reply I’ll definitely try that. And I’m 18 and I’m struggling with life in general from job discrimination to exclusion from social groups and I have gotten to the conclusion that I have Aspergers - well my main doctor said so.
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    There's no support for adults. They're of the opinion that you should have adapted by now.
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    (Original post by Tiger Rag)
    There's no support for adults. They're of the opinion that you should have adapted by now.
    Lol well in London there is some support and no I have not adapted now I’ve gotten worse
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    In the Name of Allah, the Beneficent, The Merciful...

    Salaam/Peace to you:

    I hope my message will be able to at the very least, encourage you to know that you should seek out other medical opinions for a proper diagnosis. Above all else, the good thing is that you are aware of some areas and symptoms and that you want to improve yourself and your life quality in certain areas-those are good things, those are starting points. The first step in any process towards fuller understanding and improving is admitting there are areas of problem and concern, and having the willingness to seek aid...you are on the right path.

    Medical misdiagnosis is a severe problem. I had a classmate in law school, who had passed the Foreign Service Exam, so right out of law school, she was headed for diplomatic service towards her lifelong dream of becoming an expert in International Law. She went to the doctors complaining of chest pains, and ALL her symptoms were indicative of a forthcoming heart attack. Some basic tests were ran, but the very simple blood test that can detect the early signs of a heart attack were NOT ran, instead, knowing she was a law student, the Emergency Room physicians, on two different visits, told her "oh, you are just suffering from anxiety, and stress, as you are studying for the bar exam." Upon being released from the Emergency Room the second time, going out to the parking lot to get in her car, she had a massive heart attack and died. Now, I know this is a much different context than you are in, but my point is that if misdiagnosis occurs in cases where people are literally facing life and death, we for sure know it occurs in other contexts.

    I'm not a physician, however, from what I do know of Asperger Syndrome, I would agree what you describe would seem to raise that as potential diagnosis,which should necessitate, at the least, going to see a different specialist of that area(if in fact you already visited a physician who specializes, as opposed to a more general practitioner.) Please make your ultimate goal to seek out the proper diagnosis so that, with that, you can then take the best formulated plan forward to develop the necessary support mechanisms to seek levels of understanding, awareness, improvement, treatment modalities if appropriate (non-THC cbd oil is one thing I've read about as a very effective, natural/holistic aid in terms of anxiety, helping with sleep, etc. However, of course, I'm mentioning that in a general context, not intending to treat or diagnose anything, which should be left to a physician or other license healthcare provider.)

    May Allah(God) bless you in this journey, and if you should need or want someone to talk with, just about whatever -sports, movies, comics, film, chess, or just day to day things, please do not hesitate to reach out to me, if talking with a male is not an issue for you. (apologies, I did take several physics classes(uni level 1 and 2), and must confess, I was just "average"-I passed and was happy to pass, the same is true of Calculus 1 & 2 in the uni, so maybe, being just average in those topics, I'm not going to be able to talk about those to any depth. )


    (Original post by Jtk101_)
    Hey anyone out there have any knowledge of Asperger in females?
    I was misdiagnosed with anxiety recently. But I know that there’s more to me than that. After all I have been suffering all my life with social interaction, mannerisms, coordination, obsession.

    My symptoms or issues now

    Selectivity mute
    Lack empathy but I do have sympathy but I have my own way of expressing it. It might seem like I’m careless
    Use fake smiles to disguise I’m ok
    Feeling dead inside
    No dreams since I was 13
    Get migraines from people’s voices
    Lack guilt
    Don’t know how to socialise or make or maintain friends properly
    Can’t go outside alone without feeling overwhelmed
    College classroom don’t like table layout
    Eye contact is an issue
    Body coordination is bad - unbalanced walking, slouching, leaning
    Fidgeting with items like turning lights off and on and constantly adjusting per hour
    Making schedules everyday and trying to perfect it
    Physics and mathematics as daily study as It relieves me
    Art - particularly drawing people, calms me down
    Head jerking/ flinching
    Seizures
    Been like this all my life since I started nursery onwards, at home I’m perfectly fine and happiest.
    I have an above average IQ
    Sleep issues
    Routines are important to me

    What they tell me
    - Asians are culturally quiet (well the ones I know are either shy or loud the shy ones still have plenty of friends and seem to understand the need to socialise, while I feel alienated, alone and misunderstood
    - Girls are unlikely to have it- and they assume I have social anxiety - well guess what? Is it possible to be born with social anxiety?
    - They use the male criteria to conclude whether I have Aspergers or not.

    So I just wanted to know whether I was misdiagnosed or was it right? I’m going mad and impatient to know what’s wrong with me.
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    My sister has diagnosed Asberger's, from which I conclude that it is not a male-only thing. (I can't be any more use then that though.)
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    (Original post by luq_ali)
    In the Name of Allah, the Beneficent, The Merciful...

    Salaam/Peace to you:

    I hope my message will be able to at the very least, encourage you to know that you should seek out other medical opinions for a proper diagnosis. Above all else, the good thing is that you are aware of some areas and symptoms and that you want to improve yourself and your life quality in certain areas-those are good things, those are starting points. The first step in any process towards fuller understanding and improving is admitting there are areas of problem and concern, and having the willingness to seek aid...you are on the right path.

    Medical misdiagnosis is a severe problem. I had a classmate in law school, who had passed the Foreign Service Exam, so right out of law school, she was headed for diplomatic service towards her lifelong dream of becoming an expert in International Law. She went to the doctors complaining of chest pains, and ALL her symptoms were indicative of a forthcoming heart attack. Some basic tests were ran, but the very simple blood test that can detect the early signs of a heart attack were NOT ran, instead, knowing she was a law student, the Emergency Room physicians, on two different visits, told her "oh, you are just suffering from anxiety, and stress, as you are studying for the bar exam." Upon being released from the Emergency Room the second time, going out to the parking lot to get in her car, she had a massive heart attack and died. Now, I know this is a much different context than you are in, but my point is that if misdiagnosis occurs in cases where people are literally facing life and death, we for sure know it occurs in other contexts.

    I'm not a physician, however, from what I do know of Asperger Syndrome, I would agree what you describe would seem to raise that as potential diagnosis,which should necessitate, at the least, going to see a different specialist of that area(if in fact you already visited a physician who specializes, as opposed to a more general practitioner.) Please make your ultimate goal to seek out the proper diagnosis so that, with that, you can then take the best formulated plan forward to develop the necessary support mechanisms to seek levels of understanding, awareness, improvement, treatment modalities if appropriate (non-THC cbd oil is one thing I've read about as a very effective, natural/holistic aid in terms of anxiety, helping with sleep, etc. However, of course, I'm mentioning that in a general context, not intending to treat or diagnose anything, which should be left to a physician or other license healthcare provider.)

    May Allah(God) bless you in this journey, and if you should need or want someone to talk with, just about whatever -sports, movies, comics, film, chess, or just day to day things, please do not hesitate to reach out to me, if talking with a male is not an issue for you. (apologies, I did take several physics classes(uni level 1 and 2), and must confess, I was just "average"-I passed and was happy to pass, the same is true of Calculus 1 & 2 in the uni, so maybe, being just average in those topics, I'm not going to be able to talk about those to any depth. )
    Thank you for your reply and yes I wil definetely go to another specialist. I don’t mind getting to know you, but I’d prefer not to as I no longer believe that friendship is real and socialising somehow seems overwhelming. But thanks anyways.
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    (Original post by Jtk101_)
    Hey anyone out there have any knowledge of Asperger in females?
    I was misdiagnosed with anxiety recently. But I know that there’s more to me than that. After all I have been suffering all my life with social interaction, mannerisms, coordination, obsession.

    My symptoms or issues now

    Selectivity mute
    Lack empathy but I do have sympathy but I have my own way of expressing it. It might seem like I’m careless
    Use fake smiles to disguise I’m ok
    Feeling dead inside
    No dreams since I was 13
    Get migraines from people’s voices
    Lack guilt
    Don’t know how to socialise or make or maintain friends properly
    Can’t go outside alone without feeling overwhelmed
    College classroom don’t like table layout
    Eye contact is an issue
    Body coordination is bad - unbalanced walking, slouching, leaning
    Fidgeting with items like turning lights off and on and constantly adjusting per hour
    Making schedules everyday and trying to perfect it
    Physics and mathematics as daily study as It relieves me
    Art - particularly drawing people, calms me down
    Head jerking/ flinching
    Seizures
    Been like this all my life since I started nursery onwards, at home I’m perfectly fine and happiest.
    I have an above average IQ
    Sleep issues
    Routines are important to me

    What they tell me
    - Asians are culturally quiet (well the ones I know are either shy or loud the shy ones still have plenty of friends and seem to understand the need to socialise, while I feel alienated, alone and misunderstood
    - Girls are unlikely to have it- and they assume I have social anxiety - well guess what? Is it possible to be born with social anxiety?
    - They use the male criteria to conclude whether I have Aspergers or not.

    So I just wanted to know whether I was misdiagnosed or was it right? I’m going mad and impatient to know what’s wrong with me.
    Hi there,

    As someone who has high functioning autism (the new buzzword for Aspergers, depending on whether they want coffee or tea in the morning), I've got a few things to say on this:
    1. While Aspergers is more common in men, most of the worlds most famous autistic people/authors have been women (see Temple Grandin and Donna Williams amongst a whole host of others. You may want to check out their books since they are very practical and useful advice with people with autism.)
    2. I think one of the biggest mistakes people make when it comes to disability is that they can easily list what is wrong with them, without acknowledging what is right with them as well. I'm not saying this as a shot at what you've done, but perhaps rather at looking at how your problems affect you, you could start looking at how to make them stronger, more powerful. From what I've read here, you'd massivelly benefit from learning about Emotional Intellgence (EQ). The EQ Edge is a great book on the subject. While many autistic people struggle with empathy and emotions, we are very good at analysing. This in itself is the very foundation for learning emotional intellegence, so have a look into this. It may really help a lot of your current gripes.
    3.It is supposed to be quite hard for women to recieve a diagnosis (not really sure why), but regardless, even if you do actually have autism, you can still take action to work on the things you struggle on. There are resources out there to deal with them all, all it needs is a little work and practice.

    That's all I've got for now hahahahaha. If you have any questions please send me a message, I'm more than happy to help. I wish you the best.

    Regards
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    Hi there,

    As someone who has high functioning autism (the new buzzword for Aspergers, depending on whether they want coffee or tea in the morning), I've got a few things to say on this:
    1. While Aspergers is more common in men, most of the worlds most famous autistic people/authors have been women (see Temple Grandin and Donna Williams amongst a whole host of others. You may want to check out their books since they are very practical and useful advice with people with autism.)
    2. I think one of the biggest mistakes people make when it comes to disability is that they can easily list what is wrong with them, without acknowledging what is right with them as well. I'm not saying this as a shot at what you've done, but perhaps rather at looking at how your problems affect you, you could start looking at how to make them stronger, more powerful. From what I've read here, you'd massivelly benefit from learning about Emotional Intellgence (EQ). The EQ Edge is a great book on the subject. While many autistic people struggle with empathy and emotions, we are very good at analysing. This in itself is the very foundation for learning emotional intellegence, so have a look into this. It may really help a lot of your current gripes.
    3.It is supposed to be quite hard for women to recieve a diagnosis (not really sure why), but regardless, even if you do actually have autism, you can still take action to work on the things you struggle on. There are resources out there to deal with them all, all it needs is a little work and practice.

    That's all I've got for now hahahahaha. If you have any questions please send me a message, I'm more than happy to help. I wish you the best.

    Regards
    Thanks so much for replying to this post. And yeah I definetely should check out some books on autism (the reason I wanted to be diagnosed properly is so that I have a reason to feel this way without feeling that I’m generally just abnormal as people say, I basically want an explanation for my life long pain.
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    (Original post by Jtk101_)
    Thanks so much for replying to this post. And yeah I definetely should check out some books on autism (the reason I wanted to be diagnosed properly is so that I have a reason to feel this way without feeling that I’m generally just abnormal as people say, I basically want an explanation for my life long pain.
    I totally understand that, and if a diagnoses helps then pursue it. What I want to ask though is this, lets say you get the diagnosis, what next? You have it now, that reason why you are the way you are. What do you do with that then? Do you just say 'Oh well, I guess its just because I'm autistic.......' Or do you begin to look at how you can improve yourself, change things and get better. Just a little thought. Again, if you have any questions then please don't hesitate to contact me.

    Regards
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    I totally understand that, and if a diagnoses helps then pursue it. What I want to ask though is this, lets say you get the diagnosis, what next? You have it now, that reason why you are the way you are. What do you do with that then? Do you just say 'Oh well, I guess its just because I'm autistic.......' Or do you begin to look at how you can improve yourself, change things and get better. Just a little thought. Again, if you have any questions then please don't hesitate to contact me.

    Regards
    I wanted to get therapy for each of the symptoms so I could function normally in society and then go uni do work experience get a job and career and live life happily (though I will always have in mind that I am different and that I won’t be able to change the fact that I am not a people person - definetely not gonna work with customers) my dream job = engineering- I hope I get there😅 Regards[/QUOTE]
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    Okay, no problem, I understand. Best wishes to you.

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    Thank you for your reply and yes I wil definetely go to another specialist. I don’t mind getting to know you, but I’d prefer not to as I no longer believe that friendship is real and socialising somehow seems overwhelming. But thanks anyways.
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    (Original post by Jtk101_)
    I wanted to get therapy for each of the symptoms so I could function normally in society and then go uni do work experience get a job and career and live life happily (though I will always have in mind that I am different and that I won’t be able to change the fact that I am not a people person - definetely not gonna work with customers) my dream job = engineering- I hope I get there😅 Regards
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    Sorry for the late reply. Don't just towards conforming to what society wants of you. Strike a balance between learning to interact with others while remaining unique. Here's some books you should read and apply if you're serious about learning to turn your weaknesses into strengths:
    1. How to win friends and influence people - Dale Carnegie
    2. The Chimp Paradox - Steve Peters
    3. Chatter - Patrick King

    Those will absolutely help you. One more thing, one of my biggest tips for success is to learn as much about people and human nature as you can. The more you understand people and how they work, the more you can work with them better. An easy example is working on genuinely giving a s**t about what people say when you talk to them. Ask them questions, encourage them, give them a reason to like you. People love talking about themselves, give them the opportunity to do so and you'll do well. I hope this helps!
 
 
 
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