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    I need some help. So I hated A Levels with a passion, the two years were the hardest I have ever faced with many personal struggles and challenges along the way. All of my teachers said to me 'uni is so much easier than a level, you'll love it there' however, I haven't really been loving it. The workload is huge, I'm constantly stressed and anxious, I am 6 hours from home, I have so much to do that no matter how much work I do the pile keeps growing. This is exactly how I felt during my A Levels - why am I paying to put myself through this much stress again?! What do I do? My boyfriend loves his uni and I feel like he's going to be so disappointed in me if I leave. Everyone said wait until you feel comfortable and settled in, which now I do, I love my flat and the uni itself, but I feel so unmotivated to work because I have no end goal or job prospect. So, I'd want to stay for the friends that I've made and the people that I'm with, but not actually for what I'm here to do, which seems like a waste of money! The course doesn't interest me and tbh I feel so tired of studying, stress, teachers and deadlines. I still feel like I'm treated like a child. I just don't know what to do and I don't want to seem like a failure, any suggestions of what I should do?
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    Drop. Be happy!! Don't do anything you don't love as not worth effecting your mental health. If you have no passion for something, you will have no drive! Find something you love.

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    (Original post by annabelchen)
    I need some help. So I hated A Levels with a passion, the two years were the hardest I have ever faced with many personal struggles and challenges along the way. All of my teachers said to me 'uni is so much easier than a level, you'll love it there' however, I haven't really been loving it. The workload is huge, I'm constantly stressed and anxious, I am 6 hours from home, I have so much to do that no matter how much work I do the pile keeps growing. This is exactly how I felt during my A Levels - why am I paying to put myself through this much stress again?! What do I do? My boyfriend loves his uni and I feel like he's going to be so disappointed in me if I leave. Everyone said wait until you feel comfortable and settled in, which now I do, I love my flat and the uni itself, but I feel so unmotivated to work because I have no end goal or job prospect. So, I'd want to stay for the friends that I've made and the people that I'm with, but not actually for what I'm here to do, which seems like a waste of money! The course doesn't interest me and tbh I feel so tired of studying, stress, teachers and deadlines. I still feel like I'm treated like a child. I just don't know what to do and I don't want to seem like a failure, any suggestions of what I should do?
    Drop out, find out what you actually want to do career wise, then start working towards that (if that requires uni then you can go back but with motivation due to having an end goal). Maybe you just need a break from education for a while.

    People shouldn't be disappointing if you leave, as you have decided that is what is best for you. If they are, then they don't have your best interests and well being at heart
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    Uni drop out here, was in the exact same shoes as you not so long ago (2 years back). A couple of months in hated the course and the uni, loved the lifestyle and friends I made, however it just felt like everyday was a living lie. Anyhow, I dropped out due to my mental health detriorating quite badly and it's the best thing I ever did. I've got my head back together, kicked the bad habits that were putting me down and most importantly I know what I actually want to do in my life! It takes a lot of self-reflection and what if's, but it's all achievable. Please don't feel you'll be letting anyone else down, it's all for the better for you at the end of it, you're more than welcome to PM me about this, I've already been through it and know exactly how it all feels. I wish you all the best
 
 
 
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