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    I think the issue is more likely down to you rather than the uni. If you can't make friends at one large uni I doubt you'll find it easier at a smaller one with less people.
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    (Original post by Vindria)
    Does this sound completely unreasonable or should I actually consider this?

    I'm a month into my course at a big city university, and ever since I've gotten here, I've been feeling completely out of place. I've made virtually no friends, and the only people I occasionally speak to have no shared interests, the university is on the other side of the country from where I grew up and the culture feels alienating. However, my old friends who went to different universities seem to be having a better experience, their peers seem to be much more "normal" and they seem to be having a much easier time fitting in despite putting in nowhere near as much effort as me.

    Even though I'm definitely enjoying my course, my social life has taken a nose dive and I can't help but to feel as if I'm just not amongst my sort of people, I think going to a nice, remote campus/smaller city university like my friends have might solve some of my issues. but I'm not sure if this is just wishful thinking. What do you guys think?
    I felt the same way at my university so dropped out last week. If you’re really unhappy, drop out asap as you don’t want to have to pay more fees.
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    (Original post by Goeke)
    I felt the same way at my university so dropped out last week. If you’re really unhappy, drop out asap as you don’t want to have to pay more fees.
    I’m thinking about dropping out as soon as possible, but how do you go about it? I’m scared I’m going to chicken out when I tell my College I want to leave but I really hate it and my course and want to reapply elsewhere next year
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    (Original post by Goeke)
    I felt the same way at my university so dropped out last week. If you’re really unhappy, drop out asap as you don’t want to have to pay more fees.
    Tuition fee costs are identical whether you drop out after 2 weeks or the day before the start of the spring term.
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    (Original post by karatejenny)
    I’m thinking about dropping out as soon as possible, but how do you go about it? I’m scared I’m going to chicken out when I tell my College I want to leave but I really hate it and my course and want to reapply elsewhere next year
    Honestly, don’t hold back. Email your subject head or go to any help service your university has. Just speak to anyone you think might help you and they’ll tell you what you need to do - they won’t judge you. Also, ask your university and Student Finance about how much of the fees will be added on to your debt.
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    (Original post by PQ)
    Tuition fee costs are identical whether you drop out after 2 weeks or the day before the start of the spring term.
    That’s not true for my university. I was only liable for 25% of the year’s fees, but if I had stayed up to December I would have owed 50%.
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    (Original post by Goeke)
    That’s not true for my university. I was only liable for 25% of the year’s fees, but if I had stayed up to December I would have owed 50%.
    That could only be the case if your university told SLC that term 2 started in December (or your university had abnormal fee regulations that should have been made clear at enrolment (and if they weren’t then it would have been possible to refuse payment due to unfair t&cs))
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    Here's the thing - you have no control over anything except where you decide to go yourself. If the issue is frankly "other people", that's something completely out of your control. Let's say (for example only) you're at Leeds - you find the people too loud, too silly. You have a friend at Exeter who says "it's lovely here - it's so quiet and the people are really calm". Unless you get on your friends exact cohort, you can't guarantee that you won't move to Exeter and be in a group no different from what you are experiencing now- except that you will have set yourself back a year.

    I know people who have done it because they didn't like the university or the town - that's slightly different in that what they are changing is a known and fairly stable quantity. Cohorts of students aren't/

    Not saying you shouldn't do it if you're unhappy - but just beware that what you're trying to change, isn't something you can control.
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    what uni you at if you dont mind me asking
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    Im wondering which uni too? Because I had a VERY similar experience and dropped out a few weeks ago! I'd advise you to think about other factors of the uni - if you don't like the location, the city, the course, etc. then there really is no point staying. There's no point sacrificing your happiness.
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    Hiya,

    I can't give you advice unfortunately because I'm experiencing this same problem. But it's not only the social aspect, it's the academic one. Sometimes uni is fine for me, my peers are all generally nice and many of them are approachable, but after taking a step back and looking at the friendships other people have, I realize that even though I'm making such an effort, I can't manage to maintain a real, long-term friendship.

    On the academic side... sometimes I feel fine and happy about my course (I'm taking a design foundation course), but sometimes I snap and I become depressed and unsure about my future and what I plan to do with my life. I don't know if I'm the only one who feels this way, but I'm genuinely terrified. Sometimes I wonder if I'm even studying the right thing, and there's really no way out for me because I can't exactly apply to other subjects/uni if I grow an interest in something other than art and design.

    I wanted a gap year to try and figure things out... wasn't allowed.

    Sorry for the rant, that didn't help at all :/
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    (Original post by unistudent99)
    Hiya,

    I can't give you advice unfortunately because I'm experiencing this same problem. But it's not only the social aspect, it's the academic one. Sometimes uni is fine for me, my peers are all generally nice and many of them are approachable, but after taking a step back and looking at the friendships other people have, I realize that even though I'm making such an effort, I can't manage to maintain a real, long-term friendship.

    On the academic side... sometimes I feel fine and happy about my course (I'm taking a design foundation course), but sometimes I snap and I become depressed and unsure about my future and what I plan to do with my life. I don't know if I'm the only one who feels this way, but I'm genuinely terrified. Sometimes I wonder if I'm even studying the right thing, and there's really no way out for me because I can't exactly apply to other subjects/uni if I grow an interest in something other than art and design.

    I wanted a gap year to try and figure things out... wasn't allowed.

    Sorry for the rant, that didn't help at all :/
    Lots of people apply to non art and design degrees after an art foundation. The whole point is to let you work out if it’s something you want to continue as a degree (and to give you the time to experiment and work out if you’re going to specialise in a specific art/design subject).

    What A levels did you do? What would you be interested in studying as a degree?
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