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I have got really close to a guy in the past couple of months. We talk every day, flirt quite a lot and he sometimes drops hints that he would like to go on a date with me.
We get along so well.

However, I overheard him a couple of weeks ago talking to his friends about how he watches porn as he has been single for a few years. I don't know why, but this made me feel a little uncomfortable.
The women in those porn videos have huge boobs and curvy hips, neither of which I have. I'm worried that by watching porn, he'll have got unrealistic expectations of women and therefore of me...

Is this something I should be concerned about, or do guys who watch porn still appreciate normal girls for their natural bodies?
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I'd suggest you refrain from engaging in any pre-martial relationships and focus solely on your studies.
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You do not know what kind of porn he watches. He could very well be a type of guy who likes your body shape so he might watch some type of porn related to this. You shouldn't judge at all because as a guy I can tell you I like every type of girl even though most women in the porn industry have large breasts and whatever. So it's upto you now!
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I'd hope he is intelligent enough to realise that very few women look like those in porn. If he only wants a woman like that, then you don't deserve him and someone else will come along who wants a woman like you.
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Is this something I should be concerned about?
No.
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This is pretty dumb, but no you do not have to be concerned bc every guy watches porn hahahha
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Him watching porn does not mean he won't be attracted to you. Don't overthink.
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(Original post by azizadil1998)
This is pretty dumb, but no you do not have to be concerned bc every guy watches porn hahahha
Okay I am just concerned that he will be more turned on by the women in the porn videos than me... I guess if he is then I'll just tell him to slide into their DMs instead and date them, see how much they care about him outside of the bedroom...
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(Original post by Jidde)
You do not know what kind of porn he watches. He could very well be a type of guy who likes your body shape so he might watch some type of porn related to this. You shouldn't judge at all because as a guy I can tell you I like every type of girl even though most women in the porn industry have large breasts and whatever. So it's upto you now!
I just think porn is quite gross... I mean you are essentially watching other people's intimate moments and getting off on them. It's no different to looking into your neighbours window at night and watching them have sex whilst ******* to it. That would be creepy as hell. But for some reason, watching porn is not creepy?!?!

Women in that industry are just viewed as sex objects, pieces of meat... I feel bad for them that they feel exploiting their body is the only way they can get money.
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I just think porn is quite gross... I mean you are essentially watching other people's intimate moments and getting off on them. It's no different to looking into your neighbours window at night and watching them have sex whilst ******* to it. That would be creepy as hell. But for some reason, watching porn is not creepy?!?!

Women in that industry are just viewed as sex objects, pieces of meat... I feel bad for them that they feel exploiting their body is the only way they can get money.
Women in the porn industry are actually very well respected and if anything, they make so much more money than male actors in this business. I know you don't watch porn, but for those that do, they could most likely list off far more famous female porn stars than any male ones. For a lot of them, they enjoy it. I understand that you don't like porn, but just because you don't like it, doesn't mean that the women are being forced to do it.

And for your original question; no, you shouldn't be concerned. However, since it is your relationship and such, if you feel uncomfortable, it's well within your right to tell him that you don't want to be in a relationship with him and what not. But just because he watches porn doesn't mean he is a brainless idiot and thinks all women look like those actresses.
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Lots of pornstars have the more "boyish figure" so dont worry about that but its possible he may have unrealistic expectation but boys just wanna girl.A while it does seem a bit well yeh , every boy does it so dont let it bother you and if ya like he and hes i nice dude go for it
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Dump him move on. How old are you?? U deserve better. He's changing his brain chemistry if he watches porn. Too bad he doesn't meditate instead which changes your brain chemistry for the better. He is not lonely. He's a freak.
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It depends on your attitude to porn, the type of porn he's interested in and how often he views it.
Personally I don't like porn; avoid guys who are into hardcore porn, prefer the power of porn to a real sex life or spend a lot of time viewing it on their tv/computer/tablet.
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I assume she has moved on in the last 2 years.
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a dude watching porn? never heard of that

In all seriousness, excessive watching of pornography can alter expectations, and make sure you make clear what you are comfortable with, although as long as though these problems don't manifest, pretty sure it will be normal, and doesn't means he loves you any less at all imo
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you should watch porn together, that'd be hot
(Original post by Anonymous)
I have got really close to a guy in the past couple of months. We talk every day, flirt quite a lot and he sometimes drops hints that he would like to go on a date with me.
We get along so well.

However, I overheard him a couple of weeks ago talking to his friends about how he watches porn as he has been single for a few years. I don't know why, but this made me feel a little uncomfortable.
The women in those porn videos have huge boobs and curvy hips, neither of which I have. I'm worried that by watching porn, he'll have got unrealistic expectations of women and therefore of me...

Is this something I should be concerned about, or do guys who watch porn still appreciate normal girls for their natural bodies?
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he has no respect for you l think you should leave him to watch his dirty porn its not real life l think he is addicted to porn
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very true as to what you say
(Original post by londonmyst)
It depends on your attitude to porn, the type of porn he's interested in and how often he views it.
Personally I don't like porn; avoid guys who are into hardcore porn, prefer the power of porn to a real sex life or spend a lot of time viewing it on their tv/computer/tablet.
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The guy has you he should not be watching no porn
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Anonymous #4
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(Original post by UWS)
Him watching porn does not mean he won't be attracted to you. Don't overthink.
no but if he watches too much of it he may have unrealistic expectations of sex.

theres been studies on it. if he is addicted to porn, chances are he will want porn style sex
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