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    Genuinely curious. I feel like I have to at least be good friends with a person before we pursue a relationship and ACTUALLY call ourselves boyfriend and girlfriend.


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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Genuinely curious. I feel like I have to at least be good friends with a person before we pursue a relationship and ACTUALLY call ourselves boyfriend and girlfriend.


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    I'd known my husband just under a month before we got together, we've been practically inseparable in the almost 4 years since. We just got to know each other quite quickly and as we moved in together within about 5 months you learn a lot about a person when you live with them.
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    In my situation, I got to know him as we went out on dates, dating is where you get to know them
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    I met my current boyfriend of almost 3 years in November and we got together middle of December and didn't know too much about each other but that's the best part. I wouldn't of wanted to know everything and be friends for months with my boyfriend before getting together!
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    I'd known my husband just under a month before we got together, we've been practically inseparable in the almost 4 years since. We just got to know each other quite quickly and as we moved in together within about 5 months you learn a lot about a person when you live with them.
    See that makes more sense than going on two dates and declaring yourselves in a relationship but still feeling very 'new' around each other. The sort of stage where you still tell your friends everything he/she is saying.
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    That's the point of dating. You don't suddenly get into a relationship with someone. It takes weeks or months of dating before you get together.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    See that makes more sense than going on two dates and declaring yourselves in a relationship but still feeling very 'new' around each other. The sort of stage where you still tell your friends everything he/she is saying.
    we'd had I suppose three official dates before we got together, i've not done the tell your friends everything they are saying thing:P
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    That's the point of dating. You don't suddenly get into a relationship with someone. It takes weeks or months of dating before you get together.
    I don't disagree here. But some people see someone twice and suddenly get into relationships which end up not working out because you don't really know the person.

    Weeks and months of dating as opposed to just two dates are entirely different.
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    (Original post by claireestelle)
    we'd had I suppose three official dates before we got together, i've not done the tell your friends everything they are saying thing:P
    Good on you. It's very frustrating when people do this. Just keep it between you and the person.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Good on you. It's very frustrating when people do this. Just keep it between you and the person.
    we will discuss if anyone is having any relationship issues or good news with friends but no one i know has ever told anyone everything their partner does, can't understand why you would.
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    I got with my girlfriend just 3 weeks after meeting, if there is chemistry there it can happen very quickly.
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    Because we've all heard the stories of people meeting, getting married a week later, and then still being together and happy 50 years later. Very rarely happens but it's what many people desire. Some people just click at it works.
 
 
 
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