Hey there! Sign in to join this conversationNew here? Join for free
    • #1
    • Thread Starter
    #1

    Hi guys
    Im currently in one of the worst dilemmas right now and if i do not fix it im going to be paying some heavy concequences. I've lost all interest in life, my passions, my dreams, my goals have become meaningless when i think of my failures. Im in my second year of college, i should be focusing super hard but all i really want to do is sleep and eat.

    Don't get me wrong i have a whole list of things that i actually want to acheive but it's like i have lost all motivaton. i just can't do it. I want to become a peadiatric nurse, i want to specialise but before all that i want to pass my driving test, get a car and get to a good university.

    If the course that i was going for was not right for me i would have known and changed my mind ages ago but honestly i cannot see myself as anything but a nurse. i have everything to study but i can't. I also have some issues with members of my family who basically do not want me to go to a good university.

    I really want to change before it's too late. I've done some online research they tell me to do thngs that i don't even attempt. I can't talk to anyone because it's hard to find someone who understands. because in my famiily it's about competiton not accomadation

    I just don't know what to do guys
    Offline

    1
    ReputationRep:
    Hi,

    Go and see a doctor. You could have anxiety or depression or both. Don't think about it, just go.

    Cheers,

    Lee
    Offline

    2
    ReputationRep:
    Well , it sounds like you are depressed, but don't worry. It's important that you realise that you will get out of this state of low mood and lack of motivation eventually but since you are in your last year of college, you want this to happen quickly so you can get good grades and get into university. Now, I have a few 'solutions' that you can try which might work but, for everyone it's different and it depends which type of person you are.Hormones:If you are male, this may be easier but, I suggest going on a diet to increase testosterone levels since this has been claimed to aid with depression. Try eating foods high in zinc (oysters, mussels, almonds, beef, spinach etc), food high in Iodine, drinking filtered water (to avoid synthetic oestrogen in the tap water from the contraceptive pill), not heating food in plastic containers (synthetic oestrogen again) and protein. You also want to try working out using HIIT (I know it's probably tough with low motivation - if you are still reading this, well done, it's a start) as this has been proven to increase testosterone levels too.Why testosterone? It helps boost mood and sex drive.Over-stimulation:The regime mentioned above may be useless if you don't have the time nor money for most of the activities listed above so, I have another solution you can try:Often, over stimulation can result in someone become desensitised to stimuli which would otherwise normally excite them due to excessive use. Through abstaining from these stimulatory acts for a period of time, you may find that you will have a more levelled and grounded mood/ state of mind. Try quitting these activities for as long as possible (only abstain from one activity at a time otherwise it is too hard):Pornography and Masturbation (I strongly recommend the reddit board 'nofap' - it may seem bizarre but try and wholeheartedly accept the groups principles)Video Games (if excessive)Excessive high sugar (comfort food) consumptionEven if the theory behind this seems wishy-washy, what's the harm in trying?Finally, and this is a bit 'out-there' for some people, you can try 'embracing' the emptiness - you'll understand once you do it, but try and focus on it, sit by yourself and just contemplate your state of mind. If you try imagining holding your hands over a fire, you can attempt to warm them up - attempt to do something like this with your mood.Music:Find a really good song with a great chorus that reminds you of a beautiful image from a time in your life - the song can be anything from heavy metal to classical - I personally listen to 'Day of the Dead by Hollywood Undead', but that works for my specific type of character. Also, go for walks with said music in green spaces (an escape).Good luck and remember - don't ever give upYou can do whatever you want. I believe in you random person on the internet! Now go out there and conquer your mountains!
    Offline

    13
    ReputationRep:
    Is there a counsellor at college you can talk to? You are definitely not alone, and they will be able to help you to make the decision that's right for you. Like you say, at the end of the day it is you who is going to live with the consequences of your choices. Becoming a paediatric nurse is a fantastic career choice if that's what you want. You'll be able to have a life-changing effect on people who really need the skills and compassion of a good nurse. if family members don't want you to go to a 'good' university ask them why. Is it the cost? Don't they want you to move far from home? They may think they are helping you, but it sounds like the opposite is happening and perhaps you need to follow your own instincts.
    Offline

    6
    ReputationRep:
    pm if you want my advice.

    I can relate.

    James
    Offline

    0
    ReputationRep:
    Hi could you inbox me please? I’m in a similar situation and just wondering if we could talk
    Posted on the TSR App. Download from Apple or Google Play
    • Offline

      20
      my advice is to watch motivational study videos every day because it takes 21 days to build a habit.21 days of watching motivational videos before you get up to do anything will motivate you to start somewhere.A little progress each day leads to big results.
      • #1
      • Thread Starter
      #1

      i
      (Original post by NewUser96)
      Well , it sounds like you are depressed, but don't worry. It's important that you realise that you will get out of this state of low mood and lack of motivation eventually but since you are in your last year of college, you want this to happen quickly so you can get good grades and get into university. Now, I have a few 'solutions' that you can try which might work but, for everyone it's different and it depends which type of person you are.Hormones:If you are male, this may be easier but, I suggest going on a diet to increase testosterone levels since this has been claimed to aid with depression. Try eating foods high in zinc (oysters, mussels, almonds, beef, spinach etc), food high in Iodine, drinking filtered water (to avoid synthetic oestrogen in the tap water from the contraceptive pill), not heating food in plastic containers (synthetic oestrogen again) and protein. You also want to try working out using HIIT (I know it's probably tough with low motivation - if you are still reading this, well done, it's a start) as this has been proven to increase testosterone levels too.Why testosterone? It helps boost mood and sex drive.Over-stimulation:The regime mentioned above may be useless if you don't have the time nor money for most of the activities listed above so, I have another solution you can try:Often, over stimulation can result in someone become desensitised to stimuli which would otherwise normally excite them due to excessive use. Through abstaining from these stimulatory acts for a period of time, you may find that you will have a more levelled and grounded mood/ state of mind. Try quitting these activities for as long as possible (only abstain from one activity at a time otherwise it is too hard):Pornography and Masturbation (I strongly recommend the reddit board 'nofap' - it may seem bizarre but try and wholeheartedly accept the groups principles)Video Games (if excessive)Excessive high sugar (comfort food) consumptionEven if the theory behind this seems wishy-washy, what's the harm in trying?Finally, and this is a bit 'out-there' for some people, you can try 'embracing' the emptiness - you'll understand once you do it, but try and focus on it, sit by yourself and just contemplate your state of mind. If you try imagining holding your hands over a fire, you can attempt to warm them up - attempt to do something like this with your mood.Music:Find a really good song with a great chorus that reminds you of a beautiful image from a time in your life - the song can be anything from heavy metal to classical - I personally listen to 'Day of the Dead by Hollywood Undead', but that works for my specific type of character. Also, go for walks with said music in green spaces (an escape).Good luck and remember - don't ever give upYou can do whatever you want. I believe in you random person on the internet! Now go out there and conquer your mountains!
      Hi there,
      I am a female so your right some of the things you suggested won't work for me lol but thank you so much for this kind paragraph. I don't know if im suffering from depression but i do know that im very sensitive like if anyone says anything offensive i take it to heart and will go into complete loner mode. You know i would really love to walk through a beautiful park while listening to calm music i can imagine it but unfortunately it's cannot do. But thank you much for taking your time out to reply
      • #1
      • Thread Starter
      #1

      (Original post by Lit teacher)
      Is there a counsellor at college you can talk to? You are definitely not alone, and they will be able to help you to make the decision that's right for you. Like you say, at the end of the day it is you who is going to live with the consequences of your choices. Becoming a paediatric nurse is a fantastic career choice if that's what you want. You'll be able to have a life-changing effect on people who really need the skills and compassion of a good nurse. if family members don't want you to go to a 'good' university ask them why. Is it the cost? Don't they want you to move far from home? They may think they are helping you, but it sounds like the opposite is happening and perhaps you need to follow your own instincts.
      Hi
      yes there are people whom i can talk to in college im just too shy. i can't do it. When i said some family memebers don't want me to go to university it is not because of the distance or the cost it is pure jelously that has been there for years
      But thank you for your message x
      Offline

      2
      ReputationRep:
      (Original post by Anonymous;[url="tel:74183150")
      74183150[/url]]i

      Hi there,
      I am a female so your right some of the things you suggested won't work for me lol but thank you so much for this kind paragraph. I don't know if im suffering from depression but i do know that im very sensitive like if anyone says anything offensive i take it to heart and will go into complete loner mode. You know i would really love to walk through a beautiful park while listening to calm music i can imagine it but unfortunately it's cannot do. But thank you much for taking your time out to reply
      No problem, hope you feel better 👍🏼
      Offline

      13
      ReputationRep:
      (Original post by Anonymous)
      Hi
      yes there are people whom i can talk to in college im just too shy. i can't do it. When i said some family memebers don't want me to go to university it is not because of the distance or the cost it is pure jelously that has been there for years
      But thank you for your message x
      If you don't mind talking about this anonymously you can contact childline, by phone or email https://www.childline.org.uk/ They help anyone under the age of 19. Set up a new email account if you want. It sounds like you are not being treated fairly, and that is affecting your well-being. Asking for advice here is a good start to make things better.
     
     
     
    Reply
    Submit reply
    TSR Support Team

    We have a brilliant team of more than 60 Support Team members looking after discussions on The Student Room, helping to make it a fun, safe and useful place to hang out.

    Updated: October 22, 2017
  1. See more of what you like on The Student Room

    You can personalise what you see on TSR. Tell us a little about yourself to get started.

  2. Poll
    Will you be richer or poorer than your parents?
  3. See more of what you like on The Student Room

    You can personalise what you see on TSR. Tell us a little about yourself to get started.

  4. The Student Room, Get Revising and Marked by Teachers are trading names of The Student Room Group Ltd.

    Register Number: 04666380 (England and Wales), VAT No. 806 8067 22 Registered Office: International House, Queens Road, Brighton, BN1 3XE

    Quick reply
    Reputation gems: You get these gems as you gain rep from other members for making good contributions and giving helpful advice.