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    Anybody else have this problem? The only reason I know I am being blunt is because people tell me. 100% of the time I don’t even know that I am being that way...
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    (Original post by MajorFader)
    Anybody else have this problem? The only reason I know I am being blunt is because people tell me. 100% of the time I don’t even know that I am being that way...
    You need to put more thought into what you say. talk to your friends who you trust and get to understand how they see you and your bluntness with examples. Ask how might be a better way. You seem to lack self awareness. They may be used to you , but my advice is:

    1. When speaking to a stranger consider who they are.
    2. Think about what to say then think again about the impact it might have and be more mindful how you phrase things.
    3. If youve been blunt then think if there was a better way to say it and use that next time.
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    think before you speak
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    (Original post by MajorFader)
    Anybody else have this problem? The only reason I know I am being blunt is because people tell me. 100% of the time I don’t even know that I am being that way...
    Don't fix what isn't broken

    To a certain extent this isn't a bad thing. I'd got s far to say it is an attribute which shows how real you are as a person, you say what you see. My friends are the same and I like them for it. Sure, you may have to reign in on this once in a while when talking to your boss/parents etc, but being blunt is synonymous to being honest which I think you can't be faulted for.
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    Work on your empathy skills. Think of how different people would react to what you say, and then see if rewording it and using euphemism helps etc.
    Some people like bluntness- IF you play your cards right. In a casual environment, a blunt comment can be quite funny due to its deadpan nature, and in a professional setting, it illustrates you as someone that tells the truth. However, depends on the audience, don't push your luck and think before you speak. Think about who it may offend, if it will be seen an insensitive. Are you justifying your comments or just being blunt. The tone of voice, facial expressions etc.
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    Don't fix what isn't broken

    To a certain extent this isn't a bad thing. I'd got s far to say it is an attribute which shows how real you are as a person, you say what you see. My friends are the same and I like them for it. Sure, you may have to reign in on this once in a while when talking to your boss/parents etc, but being blunt is synonymous to being honest which I think you can't be faulted for.
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    (Original post by MajorFader)
    Anybody else have this problem? The only reason I know I am being blunt is because people tell me. 100% of the time I don’t even know that I am being that way...
    Same problem all my life I have been told many times that I come across as rude.
 
 
 
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