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    (Original post by Duncan2012)
    Would you be saying the same if she was a gynaecologist?
    If she were OP would probably be paranoid about her getting 'turned'...
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    She's working as a GP for the next month before returning to the hospitals.
    I didn't mean that I think she'll want to be with a patient, I'm not concerned there, it was more she's looking at other bloke's penises. As for someone talking about watching porn, that's not quite the same as the penis being right there and her touching it etc.
    I understand it's her job and she has no choice, doesn't mean I like the thought any more.
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    You think she'd leave you because someone has a bigger penis?

    Do you seriously have nothing else to offer her?
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    (Original post by math42)
    Some guy: "Hey, I feel this way, it's getting me down."
    TSR: "Hey, don't feel that way, *******!"
    Good advice guys.

    OP I think that what you need to realise is that, if anything, your girlfriend will become rather desensitized to penises and will find, out of context, little sexual appeal from them. In any case, I'm sure she would be aware, first-hand evidence or not, that there is a massive range of **** sizes, and just seeing this range isn't going to make her entertain any thoughts of dropping a relationship over something so trivial. You might not stop feeling slightly uncomfortable, and if you don't, that's not something to be ashamed of, you can't help it. But recognizing that this feeling is just that, and not a product of evidence or rationality, should hopefully help you to calm it, and to avoid letting it affect your relationship.
    At least there's someone who didn't instantly judge and offered some legitimate advice, thank you.
    Don't get me wrong, I'm not believing she goes home and thinks about them, it's just the idea that she's been in there poking about with another guys penis.
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    dont worry TS, most men who go and see doctors for penis issue has a small one. thats why they want to see a doctor at the first place, to get a referral letter for surgery
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    But that won't be just what she's doing all day.

    Do you actually trust her or not?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    thought you were gonna say that shes a stripper or something ...
    Lol, glad to see I'm not the only weird one. I was expecting her to be like a prostitute or something.

    But on a serious note OP, you sound seriously insecure. I get that you're wary because of your previous experience of getting cheated on in a past relationship, but you can't let your worries bother you to the extent they currently are. It's understandable that you're worried but you're going to have to try and let your insecurities go. I know it's easier said than done but not having trust in your girlfriend could be detrimental to your current relationship. Like numerous others have said, it's her job to look at penises. She's hardly going to leave you for it.

    Honestly, you shouldn't be uncomfortable about it. Are you really going to let a past experience stop you from being happy and enjoying the relationship you're now in?
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    Seeing a penis is like the most unattractive thing to a girl anyway. I wouldn't worry.
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    Have you ever watched porn? I'm guessing the answer YES you have and have therefore seen vaginas too. And in a much more sexual context than in a doctors office. And it doesn't make you go 'oooh I better go find a girl whose vagina looks like that one' - cos you like your girlfriend for more than what's in her pants. Just like she does you. Your girlfriend probably is so numbed to seeing body parts that she doesn't even think about them in that way.
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    Boy girls dont break up with guys cause of there **** so shes not gonna leave you and dont knock yo self and mess up this relationship with a bomb sounding girl because your insecure about your ...But i can see why it make you feel uncomfortable but she a mature woman not a girl.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    At least there's someone who didn't instantly judge and offered some legitimate advice, thank you.
    Don't get me wrong, I'm not believing she goes home and thinks about them, it's just the idea that she's been in there poking about with another guys penis.
    You do come across as being insecure and having low self esteem. Will you be taking any steps to counter that? Its a very strange hang up, considering she is a doctor.
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    Was legitimately expecting you to say stripper, if my partner was a doctor there would be no way I'd be uncomfortable, you should be proud of her!
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    She's working as a GP for the next month before returning to the hospitals.
    And you don't think doctors see penises in hospital too? Who do you think does all the male catheters?

    You need to get over this bizarre insecurity or you'll be single again.
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    You have major trust issues.
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    I think you're overthinking. You should trust that your girlfriend is just doing her job. If you have any reason to think otherwise by the way she is acting then I'd understand. By the looks of it there really is nothing you should be worrying yourself over.
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    The 'trust' argument is ridiculous, you don't just trust someone off the bat, trust is earned. Some people think it is a given.
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    But what if a patient with a big "THINGY" comes up for a checkup? would he know if she after getting horny might have sucked it? NO RIGHT?
    "It will be very hard to guess my brother" i am a black guy myself and i know how girls are after drinking. But i am very honest man. Only with one thing my brother you can save it. Just show that you have infinite love for her.
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    Just, sayin', if the girl on the TSR homepage for this thread, was my doctor...

    https://static.thestudentroom.co.uk/...ont%20like.jpg

    "So, my penis problem.... I start to get a rash developing after I've had a blowjob. Don't suppose you've got a test for that?"
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    Sorry Op I payed her a visit at the clinic yesterday. The rest is history.
 
 
 
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