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    Right, so without sounding like a total whingebag, I struggle with being socially anxious and it sometimes prevents me from doing stuff I would have liked to do.

    I sometimes feel physically feel sick and shaky when I go outside, I struggle to pay in shops or give strangers directions, I do whatever I can to get out of class presentations, and I'm so awkward even when talking to people I know (e.g. really hyper or mixing up words, and not knowing what to say). I don't really go out unless I have to, and it's so annoying because I know it's totally irrational.

    I know it's a bit stupid because so many people are going through worse things and it's ridiculous to feel like this, but any advice would be appreciated.

    Also, I've always been like this but I'm asking now because my English Language speaking assessment thing is coming up soon and I feel really sick just thinking about it.
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      I know how you feel, i have been there and even still sometimes feel anxious in social situations.

      My advice will be to stick it out because the more you put yourself out there socially in class and outside of class you will begin to gain more confidence to tackle social situations such as your speaking assessment and giving people directions.
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      (Original post by Blackstarr)
      I know how you feel, i have been there and even still sometimes feel anxious in social situations.

      My advice will be to stick it out because the more you put yourself out there socially in class and outside of class you will begin to gain more confidence to tackle social situations such as your speaking assessment and giving people directions.
      Thanks, I'll try
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      (Original post by Nikey)
      Right, so without sounding like a total whingebag, I struggle with being socially anxious and it sometimes prevents me from doing stuff I would have liked to do.

      I sometimes feel physically feel sick and shaky when I go outside, I struggle to pay in shops or give strangers directions, I do whatever I can to get out of class presentations, and I'm so awkward even when talking to people I know (e.g. really hyper or mixing up words, and not knowing what to say). I don't really go out unless I have to, and it's so annoying because I know it's totally irrational.

      I know it's a bit stupid because so many people are going through worse things and it's ridiculous to feel like this, but any advice would be appreciated.

      Also, I've always been like this but I'm asking now because my English Language speaking assessment thing is coming up soon and I feel really sick just thinking about it.
      Okay the main thing with anxiousness I guess is you have to try getting out of your head. So when you have to do a presentation or talk to someone, instead of thinking like ''ohmygod what are thinking about me..or what if I bore them or what if..." etc,
      take a deep breath, and distract yourself thinking like--

      "Ahh he's got some cool shoes, maybe say it and get a conversation flowing. Or be like wow its so cold today, I wonder if it will rain etc etc " This will help you not to overthink about the current conversation or situation you are in.

      Also I think the only way to get out of this kinda rut, is to push yourself to do the activities which make you feel anxious and try to not be anxious in that situation. I think slowly with practise you'll get used to it.
      If it gets very serious, why don't you talk about this to your school/ Uni counsellor or student adviser-- it helps to talk out your thoughts.

      Hope that helps!
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      Okay the main thing with anxiousness I guess is you have to try getting out of your head. So when you have to do a presentation or talk to someone, instead of thinking like ''ohmygod what are thinking about me..or what if I bore them or what if..." etc,
      take a deep breath, and distract yourself thinking like--

      "Ahh he's got some cool shoes, maybe say it and get a conversation flowing. Or be like wow its so cold today, I wonder if it will rain etc etc " This will help you not to overthink about the current conversation or situation you are in.

      Also I think the only way to get out of this kinda rut, is to push yourself to do the activities which make you feel anxious and try to not be anxious in that situation. I think slowly with practise you'll get used to it.
      If it gets very serious, why don't you talk about this to your school/ Uni counsellor or student adviser-- it helps to talk out your thoughts.

      Hope that helps!
      Thank you. I do tend to overthink way too much and I always try to avoid most social situations which I guess isn't helping. I'll be sure to take your advice, thanks
     
     
     
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