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I have trouble projecting my voice, so I tend to have to repeat myself Watch

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    I’ve recently started Uni hoping it’ll allow me a fresh start in a social sense. I wanted to form close bond with some people and have a good time overall. I thought I conveyed myself in a way where I was comfortable and normal but it doesn’t feel that way since I have to repeat myself when I talk to people. Before I go on I should clarify: I’m a guy. (As a little backstory I’ve always had this reputation of being a quiet, shy reserved person throughout primary and secondary school. I only feel comfortable and confident with my close friends from home.)

    Now I’ve arrived at Uni I’ve met all my flatmates and have joined many societies. I’ve tried socialising and making friends but sometimes it feels like they don’t want to be friends with me, they’re not interested in talking to me or I’m not showing enough interest in wanting to be friends with them. I feel less confident when I talk with people because I have to repeat myself every so often I don’t know why that’s so. I often have times where I talk but no one hears what I say. For instance, I went to a society event last night and had a good time, but when I talk to people or ask questions it’s like they can’t hear me so I give up or repeat myself until they do. I’m fine talking to a person on their own but when in a group of people it’s like whatever I say is ignored or just unheard, which is really disheartening. Maybe I’m just not used to talking loudly.

    Any advice?
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    I experience a similar problem. People don't usually hear what I'm saying so I often hear people saying "what?" or "pardon?" and I'll repeat myself. I don't think it's just because I'm quiet, I think it's because I might not speak articulately. However, I do get interrupted mid-sentence a lot which is annoying. What I've done is tried to speak more clearly and concentrate when I'm speaking. Find a time in the conversation when everyone is quiet for you to make an input.
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    I have a quiet voice too and I sometimes get told to repeat myself. Makes me feel really dumb so I don't want to talk even more 😂
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I’ve recently started Uni hoping it’ll allow me a fresh start in a social sense. I wanted to form close bond with some people and have a good time overall. I thought I conveyed myself in a way where I was comfortable and normal but it doesn’t feel that way since I have to repeat myself when I talk to people. Before I go on I should clarify: I’m a guy. (As a little backstory I’ve always had this reputation of being a quiet, shy reserved person throughout primary and secondary school. I only feel comfortable and confident with my close friends from home.)

    Now I’ve arrived at Uni I’ve met all my flatmates and have joined many societies. I’ve tried socialising and making friends but sometimes it feels like they don’t want to be friends with me, they’re not interested in talking to me or I’m not showing enough interest in wanting to be friends with them. I feel less confident when I talk with people because I have to repeat myself every so often I don’t know why that’s so. I often have times where I talk but no one hears what I say. For instance, I went to a society event last night and had a good time, but when I talk to people or ask questions it’s like they can’t hear me so I give up or repeat myself until they do. I’m fine talking to a person on their own but when in a group of people it’s like whatever I say is ignored or just unheard, which is really disheartening. Maybe I’m just not used to talking loudly.

    Any advice?
    I have a very similar problem when talking to people to however, my volume isnt the only issue, i have un clear speech and sometimes i struggle to articulate words and form a proper sentence. I also have a block which is a kind of stammer, i struggle to say words sometimes because the words dont come out of my mouth and its EXTREMELY frustrating and disheartening. lastly, i speak too fast as a result people dont know what im saying and they loose interest when speaking to me. i really wish i could fix this.
 
 
 
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