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Why does my boyfriend not make an effort with my family? watch

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    Hey guys,
    So I know people have posted about this before but I want to know what you think of this.
    So my boyfriend and I have been together for a year and a half now. In the past, he made zero effort with my parents. We were together for a year and he only met my parents briefly (just introducing himself and THAT'S IT). During the summer, he lives 2 hours away from me and I would always visit him and this summer I've visited him so often in total we basically spent a whole month together and I'm very close with his mum (who I speak to almost every day) and we confide in each other and all that. He, on the other hand, barely knows my parents other than what I've told him about them and now he's probably spent time with my parents on 3 occassions whilst I've spent time with his family probably over 20 times in the span of our whole relationship and stayed over at his house multiple times.

    Recently, he's made a bit more of an effort (texting my mum and speaking to her now and then) and I told him that it meant a lot to me that he was trying. Now, it's sort of died down and he's back to making no effort again. I invite him out and he says no. We live together on campus at university so when he makes excuses I know they're just to get out of the plans. My family means everything to me. Why is he not making an effort and what can I do?
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    Have you talked to him? He probably doesn't feel the need to make an effort - after all, he's in a relationship with you and not them.
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