Loss of interest in pulling/losing virginity

Most, ok all, people my age (18) and going to university are into the whole clubbing thing and pulling women to lose their virginity with. I've got a keen interest in losing my virginity (although it has fallen a bit), but the pulling thing (getting a girl's number etc) doesn't seem to appeal to me (although I did have a dream about it…how odd). I've never been the most social person despite having a good circle of friends although I go out every now and again. I've always rather wanted one girl who I love to bits and who I'd do everything with rather than "playing the field" (personal choice thing).

Is it normal not to be into pulling? And is it normal to have lost some interest in sex? I used to be more interested in but now for some reason my interest has fallen and I'm not depressed (only thing depressing me was exam results but I got what I wanted there - in fact I got better than I thought I would get and I knew I'd do well).

Maybe once I experience sex, I'd like to pull to get more as I would be aware of how pleasurable it is.

I'm worried that my lack of interest in these topics which everyone else hold a keen interest in makes me abnormal or gay (although I never get sexually turned on by a male, or look at any in a sexual way - only women for that). Why has my interest lost with no real reasoning or trigger? Why is my mind so messed up?

Any advice/reassurance much appreciated. :frown:

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Reply 1

awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww :biggrin:

Reply 2

GSS

Tinykates

awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww :biggrin:

LOL....I need all the sympathy I can get. :tongue:

Reply 3

LifeWired

Likewise m8, likewise.

At least it means you must have a shred of decency :smile:

Reply 4

KuinKra

Are you sure you've lost interest in sex? Maybe you've just lost interest in casual sex...

Could it be you're looking for a stable relationship with someone whom you enjoy spending time with? Rather than random pullings?

To be honest, I can't stand the concept of random pullings. It's so... dishonourable.

Reply 5

EPD

It sounds awfully familiar - you're not the only one.

Reply 6

RachelBabyfrog

I think you'll probably regain interest when you find someone that it seems like a good idea with :smile:

And casual pulling is no terrible thing, lol... I just don't think it's for everyone :smile:

Reply 7

Saf!

all that "pulling" thing is just immature................. think of it as your too sensible for those stuff! :biggrin:

Reply 8

AngelofnoColour

maybe you are confused with your sexuality? But dont worry about it, it happens. Youre probably arent as obsessed with sex, like most perverts are. Which is good, shows ure not an arsehole. Youre sweet :smile:

Reply 9

]{ingnik

dont worry, some people ahve less sex drive than others. its probably a benefit actually, means you can concentrate on studying and having a gd time with your mates rather than lusting after a girl 24/7.

Reply 10

charlord

i think theres just a phase where 'pulling' as many people as you can is the thing today and then after a while, its just not so great. i used to be really into getting with lotsa people but its kinda pointless cus you realise it doesnt mean anything

Reply 11

]{ingnik

Saf!

all that "pulling" thing is just immature................. think of it as your too sensible for those stuff! :biggrin:

it's not immature at all. it's about as immature as meeting friends or talking online in that it's enjoyable and sociable.

Reply 12

charlord

{ingnik']it's not immature at all. it's about as immature as meeting friends or talking online in that it's enjoyable and sociable.

true
i wudnt say its immature either. ive found its more fun to kinda pull someone you like and have fun with them though than lots of people now...quality not quantity - hahahaha :biggrin:

Reply 13

GSS

Well I'm glad I am not the only one who feels like this. I'm going to Dubai on 8th Sept (I think - lol...) and I can do without the worrying.

I dunno if I've lost interest in casual sex? What's the difference between that and just sex, lol.

At least people here understand and can sympathise with what overs are going through...

Probably am looking for a relationship, I'd love to experience love (lol) and I'd probably prioritise it higher than just sex...

I don't think about men so it can't be related to my sexuality.

Bump...

GSS

I've always rather wanted one girl who I love to bits and who I'd do everything with rather than "playing the field" (personal choice thing).

Aww that is so sweet; I like to hear guys say that. Don't worry; :smile:

you're not in any way abnormal.

Reply 16

GSS

Butterfly

Aww that is so sweet; I like to hear guys say that. Don't worry; :smile:

you're not in any way abnormal.

Yeah I think that some boys just use girls for sex for one night and then move on and dismiss the girl. I don't agree with that, that isn't my philosophy. My view is that that happens at clubs, which is why I have no interest in doing the whole "clubbing" thing I'd rather experience real love, or sex with someone I really love - that will be much better (best of both worlds).

Oh well, each to their own for some people I suppose.

Reply 17

technik

you should love the person before you make love to them...

thats how i look at it anyway

Reply 18

FallenSpirit

I hope things improve, although I don't think anything is wrong, you just see things differently.

I couldn't have casual sex, I've nothing against it, it's just not for me. I prefer being in a relationship.

*hugs*

Reply 19