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    I have been with my BF for a year and we have a great sex life, the other day I found a glass dildo hidden in his bedroom.I am totally shocked by that, when I asked him whyhe has it he says he enjoys anal play on himself and it gives him a nice feeling. Now he has never mentioned this before and I am uncomftable we this. If you found your bf had a dildo he enjoyed using on himself what would you do. I know it does not make him gay that he likes anal play, but shocked that he has not shared it with me before.
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    I have been with my BF for a year and we have a great sex life, the other day I found a glass dildo hidden in his bedroom.I am totally shocked by that, when I asked him whyhe has it he says he enjoys anal play on himself and it gives him a nice feeling. Now he has never mentioned this before and I am uncomftable we this. If you found your bf had a dildo he enjoyed using on himself what would you do. I know it does not make him gay that he likes anal play, but shocked that he has not shared it with me before.
    Well the question is, how open you both have been about your kinks and suggesting new things. If you have been pretty closed off and not even willing to try anything but vanilla sex, he probably thought it might scare/turn you off. Also may depend on your reactions to gay people. Since enjoying anal play as a guy is considered a bit gay even though you don't have to be. Honestly, easiest way to know if just ask. Maybe he just didn't think it's something you have to know.
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    (Original post by wanttohidemyname)
    I have been with my BF for a year and we have a great sex life, the other day I found a glass dildo hidden in his bedroom.I am totally shocked by that, when I asked him whyhe has it he says he enjoys anal play on himself and it gives him a nice feeling. Now he has never mentioned this before and I am uncomftable we this. If you found your bf had a dildo he enjoyed using on himself what would you do. I know it does not make him gay that he likes anal play, but shocked that he has not shared it with me before.
    He maybe didn't think it was worth sharing because it's something he does alone, or possibly thought you might react badly so hid it from you. I don't think it's really an issue unless he's asking you to do something you're uncomfortable with. Talk to him about it and let him know that it's okay to talk to you about this stuff
 
 
 
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