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    I am honest and i dont want to waste anyone's time. If a girl is already taken i would not further pursue her.

    I tend to ask her if she is single right after i get to know her name. But a lot of girls seem to freak out when i pop that question. And i am thinking that asking her too quickly is actually what ruined my chances.
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    You should probably get to know more about her first then ask her out, even if it takes a few days.
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    (Original post by HucktheForde)
    I am honest and i dont want to waste anyone's time. If a girl is already taken i would not further pursue her.

    I tend to ask her if she is single right after i get to know her name. But a lot of girls seem to freak out when i pop that question. And i am thinking that asking her too quickly is actually what ruined my chances.
    They probably get freaked out because relationships are based on liking each other's personalities not just finding each other attractive, and obviously you can't tell if you like each other if all you know is each other's names...
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    It's a bit early. Imagine it the opposite way around, you just meet someone and they say 'so, do you have a girlfriend?' you'd be like the f**k?

    Talk to her for a bit, you only will 'waste' a week or so. By then she'll have made a decision about you and you will probably in the course of getting to know her found out about any boyfriend - if not, once you've built some rapport the question is not unreasonable but I'd personally slip it in rather than asking it outright, or maybe get to know people she knows and ask them. They might feed back to her but it'll inform her decision so you can be aware of that if you choose to ask her out.

    Basically yeah it's way too forward if you've only just learned her name, and will put people off because it seems either insincere or too forward as in you could ask eight or nine people in a night having never met any of them which doesnt set a good foundation for any sort of relationship. Casual hookup, yes. Relationship, no.
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    Too early and clumsy. If she has a bf then its likely to become obvious if you listen. I agree with above a week is less pushy.
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    Nah I normally ask "what's your favourite chicken piece?"
    If she says breast or thigh, NO CHANCE IT'S GONNA WORK
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    (Original post by HucktheForde)
    I am honest and i dont want to waste anyone's time. If a girl is already taken i would not further pursue her.

    I tend to ask her if she is single right after i get to know her name. But a lot of girls seem to freak out when i pop that question. And i am thinking that asking her too quickly is actually what ruined my chances.


    your first task is to access how attracted to you the girl is,

    on a scale of 1 to 5, if she is not at least at 4 then asking her this very soon after meeting will probably throw her shields up and make her unnecessarily uncomfortable around you..

    if the girl is fairly attracted to you, then asking her if she has a bf so soon after meeting isn't going to do you no harm
 
 
 
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