Basically I'm in second year in uni and I've moved into a house with some friends under a private landlord. He pops round every now and then to check on things etc but I've noticed that whenever he does he always uses my mugs and other things without asking?
It probably sounds petty, because overall I don't mind people using my things, but it just bothers me when people do without asking? Like I've noticed he's used other things before like taking bits of food etc and it's the fact that when he does use my mugs, he never washes them up after. He just leaves them on the side still dirty.
Idk if I'm just being petty but it just kind of annoys me because as far as I'm concerned it's a bit out of order for a landlord to come to the house of his tenants and use their things without asking. If he asked, he's more than welcome to use my mug to make a cup of tea or a coffee, but I just think it's a bit out of order for him to use things that aren't his without asking first. Like yes he owns the house, but we still live here and this food and these things still belong to us, not him. We bought them here with us when we came to live here.
I just wondered if this is just me being petty or if it's kind of justified that I'm a bit annoyed? Because I can't work out if I'm just being petty or not.
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- 23-10-2017 20:27
No - that's pretty weird. He doesn't own any of the mugs or the tea etc in them so he shouldn't just be helping himself. Also if he's coming in to check things are OK that should be a once in a while thing and shouldn't involve him chilling on your sofa with a coffee... That said, it may not be a battle worth fighting.
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- 23-10-2017 20:58
(Original post by EmmaRebecca1997)
Basically I'm in second year in uni and I've moved into a house with some friends under a private landlord. He pops round every now and then to check on things etc but I've noticed that whenever he does he always uses my mugs and other things without asking?
It probably sounds petty, because overall I don't mind people using my things, but it just bothers me when people do without asking? Like I've noticed he's used other things before like taking bits of food etc and it's the fact that when he does use my mugs, he never washes them up after. He just leaves them on the side still dirty.
Idk if I'm just being petty but it just kind of annoys me because as far as I'm concerned it's a bit out of order for a landlord to come to the house of his tenants and use their things without asking. If he asked, he's more than welcome to use my mug to make a cup of tea or a coffee, but I just think it's a bit out of order for him to use things that aren't his without asking first. Like yes he owns the house, but we still live here and this food and these things still belong to us, not him. We bought them here with us when we came to live here.
I just wondered if this is just me being petty or if it's kind of justified that I'm a bit annoyed? Because I can't work out if I'm just being petty or not.
Its intrusive.
There are three ways you can approach it.
1. Ask him not to- That has the potential for a fall out.
2. Move your stuff so he cnat get to it i.e put locks on the doors.
3. Buy him a cheap mug or just get some cheap ones and ask him to use those. I dont think id begrudge someone making some tea, but I would if they were rifling through my stuff. You cna dress it up as though its specially for him, but what you are doing is diverting him from your stuff. -
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- 24-10-2017 22:00
(Original post by doodle_333)
No - that's pretty weird. He doesn't own any of the mugs or the tea etc in them so he shouldn't just be helping himself. Also if he's coming in to check things are OK that should be a once in a while thing and shouldn't involve him chilling on your sofa with a coffee... That said, it may not be a battle worth fighting.Posted on the TSR App. Download from Apple or Google Play -
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- 24-10-2017 22:01
(Original post by 999tigger)
Its odd. Talk to other flatmates.
Its intrusive.
There are three ways you can approach it.
1. Ask him not to- That has the potential for a fall out.
2. Move your stuff so he cnat get to it i.e put locks on the doors.
3. Buy him a cheap mug or just get some cheap ones and ask him to use those. I dont think id begrudge someone making some tea, but I would if they were rifling through my stuff. You cna dress it up as though its specially for him, but what you are doing is diverting him from your stuff.Posted on the TSR App. Download from Apple or Google Play -
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- 24-10-2017 22:15
(Original post by EmmaRebecca1997)
I've tried to hide my mugs in the back of my cabinet so hopefully he won't do it again. My housemates never really react to it tbh like I've brought it up and they just shrug it off
How about getting a plastic box with a lid and putting your stuff in that then sellotape a note to that which means he would have to open it.Last edited by 999tigger; 24-10-2017 at 22:20. -
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- 24-10-2017 22:21
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So its only really bothering you. Either talk to him, buy him a mug or keep what you dont want him touching in your room or locked in your cupboard. he shouldnt be taking food. hes not going to change unless you ask him not to.
How about getting a plastic box with a lid and putting your stuff in that then sellotape a note to that which means he would have to open it.Posted on the TSR App. Download from Apple or Google Play -
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- 24-10-2017 22:23
you should definately bring it up with your landlord
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- 24-10-2017 22:27
Also worth noting, the landlord should not be just "popping round" unless he gives at least 24 hours notice before each visit. You're entitled to that right under the quiet enjoyment of your home.
Tbh I understand what you mean. It's not exactly a massive issue, but it is kind of rude of him. -
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- 24-10-2017 22:28
(Original post by EmmaRebecca1997)
If he does I possibly will. It isn't like a massive issue it's just one of those annoying little things that slowly gets to you the more it happens. Like I wouldn't even mind as much if he just washed it up again and put it away it's the fact I have to clean up my own mug which he used and left -
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- 24-10-2017 22:37
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Ive given you the options and it looks like youve just chosen to do nothing and be annoyed. Up to you.Posted on the TSR App. Download from Apple or Google Play -
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- 24-10-2017 22:40
(Original post by SophieSmall)
Also worth noting, the landlord should not be just "popping round" unless he gives at least 24 hours notice before each visit. You're entitled to that right under the quiet enjoyment of your home.
Tbh I understand what you mean. It's not exactly a massive issue, but it is kind of rude of him.Posted on the TSR App. Download from Apple or Google Play
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