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Is flirting ok?

A friend of mine is going out with my cousin (she's 18 and he's 29) and they have been together about 9 months.

The thing is whenever she goes out on the town, without him, she's extremely flirty with other guys. For example, if she's dancing with a guy she'll grind against him or if she's just chatting she'll sit on their lap or hold their hand. Last week i even saw some guy kissing her neck whilst dancing with her!

IMO this level of flirting is out of order whilst in a relationship but what do you guys think? Is it just harmless fun? Or is it borderline cheating?

Reply 1

*Sparkle*

17

nah, to me that's unacceptable. Sort her out.

Reply 2

Tomber

13

If that was my girlfriend I would not be a happy bunny. At all.

Reply 3

fairycakes

12

no i think that is really out of order personally. i would never let it get that far, nor would i accept that behaviour from my bf.

you should mention it to her. i understand you are looking out for your cousin's interests, but at the end of the day it's their relationship. maybe it's quite open?

Reply 4

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3

Yeah, that's not on.

Reply 5

sophisticated

17

I agree that its not on, but be aware that sometimes sticking your beak into other peoples relationships (even with good intentions) can sometimes get you into trouble too!

Reply 6

h82think

14

The question is: does her bf (your cousin) find this level of flirting ok? For all you know they could be in an open relationship.

Reply 7

Ashes_to_Ashes

2

She sounds like a b**** to me. Sorry.

Reply 8

dh00001

16

i would say thats well over the line.

Reply 9

randomgirl

14

Out of order, have a word with her and ask her what she's playing at.

Reply 10

Don John

17

I'd be mega-jealous

Reply 11

buggars belief

if her boyfriend doesn't mind then it's up to them, isn't it.

Reply 12

Rosie18

OP

9

No its not an open relationship, they are very serious and are even moving in together this week. I have tried speaking to her about it but she insists that it's all just "harmless fun" and that she would never actually "do anything" But what i can't seem to convey to her is that she IS doing something and that if her boyfriend saw her he would be furious/gutted.

I have tired speaking to a few other close friends of ours about this but they just tell me that i should butt out and leave her to make her own mistakes. I dont want to see anyone get hurt though. :frown:

Reply 13

didgeridoo12uk

16

wait till she's in a club doing it...

then call up her bf... and make up some story to get him in there...

then if he sees her doing it, and is fine.. then meh wat can you do...

and btw... personally... i think its wrong

Reply 14

linkdapink

15

Hmmm its VERY serious then.

Maybe you should ask her how she would feel if your cousin was grinding against other women and getting up close to them. If she says she wouldn't mind, she's probably lying.

Reply 15

h82think

14

Rosie18

leave her to make her own mistakes

Unfortunately I believe your friends are correct, although I know from experience some times it is very hard to butt out. My sister is dating such a dick and I wish I could tell her, but unfortunately I have to leave her to make her own mistakes.

However, I do also like didgeridoo12uk's idea :smile:

Reply 16

username47781

20

That's over the line, she can't have a boyfriend and grind and flirt with other men.

Reply 17

Ice_Queen

17

Flirting is ok, but that is unacceptable.
It's not for you to sort this problem though, I'm afraid :frown:

Reply 18

Rosie18

OP

9

Awh now i'm torn, i've been 2 opposite pieces of advice. Do i try speaking to her again or do i leave it be and watch from the side lines?

p.s. thank you for all the advice guys, i'm new to this and was a tad nervous about posting :redface:

Reply 19

username136883

8

Rosie18

Awh now i'm torn, i've been 2 opposite pieces of advice. Do i try speaking to her again or do i leave it be and watch from the side lines?

p.s. thank you for all the advice guys, i'm new to this and was a tad nervous about posting :redface:

Talk to her once more, but beforehand tell yourself that if she doesn't seem to want to accept what you're saying, you'll just forget it and let her get on with it. :smile:

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