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    Long story short, one of my friends has started to smell quite badly. To the extent people are starting to avoid her due to the unpleasant smell because it makes them feel ill and people who she doesn't know have started to notice. I know it isn't something medical because I've known her for a couple of years now and this has only just set in recently, probably over the summer as I began to notice it when we came back to uni. I need to bring it up with her because I do not think she's aware of it and it's starting to cause problems as she makes lecture rooms and common rooms smell horrendous and people comment on the smell not knowing what it is. I don't know whether it's that she just doesn't shower or doesn't wash her clothes, but it's just an awful smell that does make you feel quite nauseous if you're with her for a length of time. I don't know how to bring this up with her without sounding like I'm being mean, because I'm not trying to be mean I'm just trying to help her get to the cause of the issue and because it's making things difficult for everyone around her as it literally stinks up the room and it cannot continue for much longer. Does anyone have any advice on how to approach the issue in as delicate a way as possible? It's for her benefit as much as mine because it would probably be quite embarrassing for her if she was aware of how bad it is because I know her as a person and I feel like it's my duty as a friend to make her aware of the situation in a tactful way.
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    Just tell her, she might be embarrassed yes but probably more relieved that you let her know. Basically just say everything you've said in this post.
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    TELL her how it is.
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    If it was me, id appreciate it if my friends straight up told me to my face rather than having everyone know i smell
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    I hear you on her being offended if say something, but I think you really should say something to her. Eventually somebody will, and they probably won't break it to her gently, and then she'll be coming to ask you why you didn't tell her sooner, since you're supposed to be friends with her.

    Maybe start a conversation about hygiene products. Deodorant is a somewhat hot button topic, and there are a lot of nature-based alternatives. When you do feel like it's time to tell her, frame it as a friend "I would want someone I trust to tell me if I were in her shoes."
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    (Original post by mimzy786)
    If it was me, id appreciate it if my friends straight up told me to my face rather than having everyone know i smell
    Same here. You're just going to have to try and tell her in the nicest way possible.
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    Definitely tell her, even if she doesn't appreciate it, you know in your heart, you being a good friend
    Be the friend you wish you had
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    (Original post by EmmaRebecca1997)
    Long story short, one of my friends has started to smell quite badly. To the extent people are starting to avoid her due to the unpleasant smell because it makes them feel ill and people who she doesn't know have started to notice. I know it isn't something medical because I've known her for a couple of years now and this has only just set in recently, probably over the summer as I began to notice it when we came back to uni. ..
    It could be a medical issue if she did not smell before. Why don't you get her on her own and just tell her - I had to speak to a friend about bad breadth once - she actually had an infection and once that was dealt with the smell went. We are still friends btw - in fact she was grateful.
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    Tell her that if a piece of dog **** was eaten by a dog and then vomited out by that dog and the dog mixed it with its own semen, she smells like that
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    Say something like I'm not trying to be mean but as a friend I need to tell you......

    Or something
 
 
 
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