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    I am in high school now but can’t let go of the guilt of what I had done in 7th grade. So basically, I had a friend who was very nice and I was extremely close with, named Sarah. I was also close friends with another girl named Lisa (using fake names). Sarah didn’t like Lisa and constantly talked about not liking her. At one point I also became upset at Lisa and decided to talk sh*t about her with Sarah. Later on, when my anger wore off, me and Lisa no longer were as close any more so in order to gain attention from Lisa again, I told her all the bad stuff that Sarah had said about her while totally skipping the stuff I had said. This made middle school a living hell for Sarah. Lisa hated her and so did other people as they found out. And I had caused all of this. I know it may sound so over exaggerated but Sarah was already going through a hard time and I made it 10x worse. I’ve apologized many times and now that we are in highschool Sarah doesn’t really care but I still feel so guilty! How could I ruin someone’s school experience like that? My teachers, parents and friends always thought of me as a nice and quiet person but I ruined someone’s middle school experience just so I would receive attention. I feel like such a huge hypocrite when I try to tell people to be nice because I wasn’t nice in middle school! I feel like a terrible person now more than ever. No one deserves to have to deal with that in middle school. I sound so selfish only trying to make myself feel better but what can I do so that I won’t feel so guilty anymore? (I’ve already given many heartfelt apologies to Sarah and she said that everything’s totally fine and to not worry about it) But I feel terrible.
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    Live with it and make sure you don't do that sort of thing again.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I am in high school now but can’t let go of the guilt of what I had done in 7th grade. So basically, I had a friend who was very nice and I was extremely close with, named Sarah. I was also close friends with another girl named Lisa (using fake names). Sarah didn’t like Lisa and constantly talked about not liking her. At one point I also became upset at Lisa and decided to talk sh*t about her with Sarah. Later on, when my anger wore off, me and Lisa no longer were as close any more so in order to gain attention from Lisa again, I told her all the bad stuff that Sarah had said about her while totally skipping the stuff I had said. This made middle school a living hell for Sarah. Lisa hated her and so did other people as they found out. And I had caused all of this. I know it may sound so over exaggerated but Sarah was already going through a hard time and I made it 10x worse. I’ve apologized many times and now that we are in highschool Sarah doesn’t really care but I still feel so guilty! How could I ruin someone’s school experience like that? My teachers, parents and friends always thought of me as a nice and quiet person but I ruined someone’s middle school experience just so I would receive attention. I feel like such a huge hypocrite when I try to tell people to be nice because I wasn’t nice in middle school! I feel like a terrible person now more than ever. No one deserves to have to deal with that in middle school. I sound so selfish only trying to make myself feel better but what can I do so that I won’t feel so guilty anymore? (I’ve already given many heartfelt apologies to Sarah and she said that everything’s totally fine and to not worry about it) But I feel terrible.
    Write Sarah a letter tell her that you are sorry from the bottom of your heart.Buy her flowers maybe also to show you are truly sorry.
 
 
 
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