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I'm 18 and getting abused by an extreme traditional family Watch

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    Well if its abuse like that love then you got to involve the police and the social workers.
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    (Original post by Nazzziii)
    I can't move out till another 8 months and I don't want to get the police involved.
    That must be an awful situation to be in, and they sound like terrible people. You really do need to get away from them and/or involve the police and/or the council.
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    (Original post by Nazzziii)
    So it all a year ago when my mum and uncle found out about my boyfriend and how I had sex with him. I come from an extreme traditional family that believes in sex after marriage, purity and no boyfriend till you want to make plans to get married. Since then we have had several fights, my uncle has slapped me, called me names (really awful ones- prostitute, used, dirty, whore) , threatened me...he said in front of my grandparents 'we need to pick her up from under 40 men that dirty slut'. Bearing in mind that I have only been with one person and me and my partner have been together for almost 2 years. Last night I came home from being out shopping with my best friend and my mum started screaming at me and was going to throw me out the house. She doesn't like me going out of her sight. She usually calls me at least 3 times, asks to talk to my friend and for pictures. She spat on my face and clothes, called me the most disgusting words you could ever imagine, I have scratches all over my body, she came into my room with scissors and i had a panic attack, so did she and i had to call the ambulance for her...so much more happened, I'm actually embarrassed to say. What do I do? I can't move out till another 8 months and I don't want to get the police involved.
    You don't have to involve the police, of course, but it may help to talk it over with someone who has experience of supporting people in similar situations.

    For instance, Victim Support or Domestic Violence Helplines. There are some specialised helplines too, such as the Muslim Womens' Helpline, in case that is a significant.
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    From what you say the abuse seems to be escalating in severity and that is a major concern. Your personal safety is in danger. Coming from a very traditional family, this must be very difficult for you, but you need to get away before the abuse goes any further.

    Is there a local crisis centre you could reach out to for help? Domestic abuse is very serious and needs expert help with trained advisors who can work through your options with you.

    Remaining in this unsafe environment is no longer an option, even for 8 months. So many young women have “gone missing” in situations like yours, been shipped abroad or murdered. Please get help today. Even a phone call to police and they can put you in touch with experts who can help without them getting involved by visiting you or your house would help. Please get help today.
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    Talk to your boyfriend about it and I 100% recommend contacting one of the helplines or centres suggested above.

    And whatever happens, please try and move into your boyfriends’s parents’ house. Your family can’t be trusted to look after you. Take your belongings with you.
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