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    I joined University in the hopes of undertaking a degree in something I love and making lots of friends, having a great social life, getting into a relationship and just having a great time. I didn’t get into my first choice University so didn’t get a place in halls. I live with some really nice people in a house but most of them just like clubbing at 3am and the other just wants to study 24/7 and never go out. I’m only at University for a couple of days a week and have made a good mate but they live ages away and already have a relationship and friendship group so aren’t in the same situation. Most people already seem like they’ve established a group of friends and I’m finding it hard to make any. My University have been really unhelpful with promoting societies. There have been a couple of things I want to attend but I have no one to go with and I don’t know my way around enough. The university workload is tiring too, and on top of my part time job and feelin underwhelmed about my social life, I’m getting behind on things which is stressing me out even more. I thought Uni would be fun, and I’m only a month in and I’m already stressed and bored. Any advice or similar experiences?
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    I joined University in the hopes of undertaking a degree in something I love and making lots of friends, having a great social life, getting into a relationship and just having a great time. I didn’t get into my first choice University so didn’t get a place in halls. I live with some really nice people in a house but most of them just like clubbing at 3am and the other just wants to study 24/7 and never go out. I’m only at University for a couple of days a week and have made a good mate but they live ages away and already have a relationship and friendship group so aren’t in the same situation. Most people already seem like they’ve established a group of friends and I’m finding it hard to make any. My University have been really unhelpful with promoting societies. There have been a couple of things I want to attend but I have no one to go with and I don’t know my way around enough. The university workload is tiring too, and on top of my part time job and feelin underwhelmed about my social life, I’m getting behind on things which is stressing me out even more. I thought Uni would be fun, and I’m only a month in and I’m already stressed and bored. Any advice or similar experiences?
    Clearly you shouldn't be going to university as you don't find the subject interesting and good on the ones who study a lot, it means they actually enjoy the subject. You are primarly there to study not to be a nursery.
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    Clearly you shouldn't be going to university as you don't find the subject interesting and good on the ones who study a lot, it means they actually enjoy the subject. You are primarly there to study not to be a nursery.
    Where did I say I don’t enjoy the subject? I love the subject, I said I’m only in 2 days a week and the workload is a lot. U clearly didn’t read anything of what I said.
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    (Original post by exclusive boi)
    I joined University in the hopes of undertaking a degree in something I love and making lots of friends, having a great social life, getting into a relationship and just having a great time. I didn’t get into my first choice University so didn’t get a place in halls. I live with some really nice people in a house but most of them just like clubbing at 3am and the other just wants to study 24/7 and never go out. I’m only at University for a couple of days a week and have made a good mate but they live ages away and already have a relationship and friendship group so aren’t in the same situation. Most people already seem like they’ve established a group of friends and I’m finding it hard to make any. My University have been really unhelpful with promoting societies. There have been a couple of things I want to attend but I have no one to go with and I don’t know my way around enough. The university workload is tiring too, and on top of my part time job and feelin underwhelmed about my social life, I’m getting behind on things which is stressing me out even more. I thought Uni would be fun, and I’m only a month in and I’m already stressed and bored. Any advice or similar experiences?
    Hmmmmmm, if this statement isn't true then grow up, welcome to reality.
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    Hmmmmmm, if this statement isn't true then grow up, welcome to reality.
    Great advice
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    Great advice
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    If you feeling like you are overwhelmed by studying, would it be best to take a break from working? Whilst it is good to do part time work, it isn't so good to do at the expense of your study and your health.

    Don't be afraid to go to socials by yourself - a lot of students are in your position and are there to meet new people too. Give it a chance, you might meet people you share interests with and connect with. It is strange to hear that your university doesn't promote societies - maybe there are pages and groups on Facebook which you could look at? In terms of not knowing your way around, students are on the whole, friendly and helpful, and you will get used to your surroundings as time passes.

    Don't worry about not becoming friends with your flatmates. They are only your flatmates for the year, concentrate on making friends on your course and from societies and clubs. It seems daunting but give it time and you should settle in - academically and socially.
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    (Original post by exclusive boi)
    I joined University in the hopes of undertaking a degree in something I love and making lots of friends, having a great social life, getting into a relationship and just having a great time. I didn’t get into my first choice University so didn’t get a place in halls. I live with some really nice people in a house but most of them just like clubbing at 3am and the other just wants to study 24/7 and never go out. I’m only at University for a couple of days a week and have made a good mate but they live ages away and already have a relationship and friendship group so aren’t in the same situation. Most people already seem like they’ve established a group of friends and I’m finding it hard to make any. My University have been really unhelpful with promoting societies. There have been a couple of things I want to attend but I have no one to go with and I don’t know my way around enough. The university workload is tiring too, and on top of my part time job and feelin underwhelmed about my social life, I’m getting behind on things which is stressing me out even more. I thought Uni would be fun, and I’m only a month in and I’m already stressed and bored. Any advice or similar experiences?
    Learn to prioritise if the workload is a lot on top of a job; it isn't easy, it takes a while to get used to. You don't have to hang around housemates if you don't click; also try attending those things on your own and meeting people there, if not there's usually groups on social media where you can talk to attendees beforehand so it isn't awkward.

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    Clearly you shouldn't be going to university as you don't find the subject interesting and good on the ones who study a lot, it means they actually enjoy the subject. You are primarly there to study not to be a nursery.
    It isn't illogical to want to have a life outside of studying.
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    Learn to prioritise if the workload is a lot on top of a job; it isn't easy, it takes a while to get used to. You don't have to hang around housemates if you don't click; also try attending those things on your own and meeting people there, if not there's usually groups on social media where you can talk to attendees beforehand so it isn't awkward.



    It isn't illogical to want to have a life outside of studying.
    read the word " primary "
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    (Original post by ckfeister)
    read the word " primary "
    Yes of course, but that shouldn't stop the OP from wanting to improve other aspects of their life during university, which are important too.
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    Yes of course, but that shouldn't stop the OP from wanting to improve other aspects of their life during university, which are important too.
    Its unlikely to change as people judge from first impressions
 
 
 
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