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    So me and my friends we insult each other. This usually involves making fun of each others family. The jokes tend to be focused on what their family members say or do for work. I usually tend to stay quiet and not make any jokes about their families because whatever I say they will retaliate with racism and I can't really say anything racist about them since they're all white. They know nothing about my family apart from the fact that we're indian so they tend to make mean, racist jokes about me being brown. The jokes usually involve Indian stereotypes or terrorist jokes and more. It hurts when they say these things and since I can't say anything back to them I feel defenceless and I feel like they take advantage of me not being able to fight back. I would talk to them but they would be dismissive about it. I tried talking to them before about it and they stopped for about a week but they then resumed with the racism, thinking that it was unfair that I can say anything to them but they can't say anything to me. I see what they mean but I just hate the racism. I can't really make new friends because I struggle making friends. What should I do?

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    Be part of the joke,laugh it off and joke with them
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    It's just
    A bit
    OF BANTAAAAAAAAAAAAAA

    Either tell them how you feel, if that's all. You're Indian, i's cool, laugh about it.
    Or laugh about it, of course you can make fun of Whitey.
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    So me and my friends we insult each other. This usually involves making fun of each others family. The jokes tend to be focused on what their family members say or do for work. I usually tend to stay quiet and not make any jokes about their families because whatever I say they will retaliate with racism and I can't really say anything racist about them since they're all white. They know nothing about my family apart from the fact that we're indian so they tend to make mean, racist jokes about me being brown. The jokes usually involve Indian stereotypes or terrorist jokes and more. It hurts when they say these things and since I can't say anything back to them I feel defenceless and I feel like they take advantage of me not being able to fight back. I would talk to them but they would be dismissive about it. I tried talking to them before about it and they stopped for about a week but they then resumed with the racism, thinking that it was unfair that I can say anything to them but they can't say anything to me. I see what they mean but I just hate the racism. I can't really make new friends because I struggle making friends. What should I do?

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    Just make fun of them as well so they know how it feels. One of my friends did that once and I told her straight away that it's not funny and I don't tolerate that. She was okay with it and never mentioned it again.
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    Don't just go along with it - that's the worse thing you can do if it making you unhappy.

    Show them you don't like it. When they do it, THAT is the time to say something such as "please stop it might be funny to you but I don't like it".

    If they carry on, take some time away from them and show them that it hurts you.

    Don't suffer in silence.
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    (Original post by skits267)
    Hello

    So me and my friends we insult each other. This usually involves making fun of each others family. The jokes tend to be focused on what their family members say or do for work. I usually tend to stay quiet and not make any jokes about their families because whatever I say they will retaliate with racism and I can't really say anything racist about them since they're all white. They know nothing about my family apart from the fact that we're indian so they tend to make mean, racist jokes about me being brown. The jokes usually involve Indian stereotypes or terrorist jokes and more. It hurts when they say these things and since I can't say anything back to them I feel defenceless and I feel like they take advantage of me not being able to fight back. I would talk to them but they would be dismissive about it. I tried talking to them before about it and they stopped for about a week but they then resumed with the racism, thinking that it was unfair that I can say anything to them but they can't say anything to me. I see what they mean but I just hate the racism. I can't really make new friends because I struggle making friends. What should I do?

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    I had "friends" like that in school

    After year 11 I decided I wasn't going to bother to contact them. Haven't spoke to them since.........
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    (Original post by skits267)
    Hello

    So me and my friends we insult each other. This usually involves making fun of each others family. The jokes tend to be focused on what their family members say or do for work. I usually tend to stay quiet and not make any jokes about their families because whatever I say they will retaliate with racism and I can't really say anything racist about them since they're all white. They know nothing about my family apart from the fact that we're indian so they tend to make mean, racist jokes about me being brown. The jokes usually involve Indian stereotypes or terrorist jokes and more. It hurts when they say these things and since I can't say anything back to them I feel defenceless and I feel like they take advantage of me not being able to fight back. I would talk to them but they would be dismissive about it. I tried talking to them before about it and they stopped for about a week but they then resumed with the racism, thinking that it was unfair that I can say anything to them but they can't say anything to me. I see what they mean but I just hate the racism. I can't really make new friends because I struggle making friends. What should I do?

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    Just toughen up or find new friends only way you're gonna resolve this. I'm Indian I get those jokes made at me by my friends all the time but I retaliate. I make racist jokes back. I'm the only indian guy in the friend group the majority are black and white.
    I can share some of the insults but I don't want to be banned so I'm not gonna post them but trust me white people have things you can say.
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    LOL you're missing out on a bunch of white insults you could use against them mate...
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    I had friends similar to this once. They weren't racist, but they would make jokes about me all the time. ALL THE TIME. I laughed it off for years, without being totally comfortable about it deep down. 5 years later I just said, sod this, and broke off all contact with them. Wish I did it 5 years earlier tbh.

    Tell them you're not having it, and if they continue, stop hanging out with them. Even being on your own is better than being in such a toxic environment.
 
 
 
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