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sorry just needed someone to listen

I just feel so rubbish about myself at the moment, I didnt do too well in my As's and all my mates did brilliantly, everybody keeps praising them and we hang around in a foursome and the other three keep getting congratulated and given a round of applause in assembly, i am very proud of them but i just feel uinloved, I know my poor grade was due to lack of work, but when i say this some teachers just say theyre probably the grades you'll get for a2. My one firend keeps telling me how gorgeous the other two are and it just makes me feel rubbish, i lost 8 lbs in weight over the holidays and noone seems to notice only one person has commented. They're my best mates and i ove them to bits but i cant help but feel jealous of them at the momnet and i cant help but feel guilty about it. all the lads in my year come to me for advice because theyre all in love with my best mate, the one who keeps saying the other two are gogrgeous, im in love with a man who has the most beautiful girlfriend and i just dont know what to do to get myself out of this bloody rut!?1 :frown:

Reply 1

technik

13

wouldnt worry too much

i got D,D,E in my a-levels. hasn't held me back.

what grades did u get?

edit : whoops, listed the grades wrong. shows how much i know d'oh!

OP

Ccdd

strawberries

I just feel so rubbish about myself at the moment, I didnt do too well in my As's and all my mates did brilliantly, everybody keeps praising them and we hang around in a foursome and the other three keep getting congratulated and given a round of applause in assembly, i am very proud of them but i just feel uinloved, I know my poor grade was due to lack of work, but when i say this some teachers just say theyre probably the grades you'll get for a2. My one firend keeps telling me how gorgeous the other two are and it just makes me feel rubbish, i lost 8 lbs in weight over the holidays and noone seems to notice only one person has commented. They're my best mates and i ove them to bits but i cant help but feel jealous of them at the momnet and i cant help but feel guilty about it. all the lads in my year come to me for advice because theyre all in love with my best mate, the one who keeps saying the other two are gogrgeous, im in love with a man who has the most beautiful girlfriend and i just dont know what to do to get myself out of this bloody rut!?1 :frown:

Aww, there's always a time where everything just builds up and you feel like you're nothing. Grades aren't the end of the world, there's always next year where oyu shuld try to work if you really want to get good results. As for your friends yes, they may have grades, they may be beautiful, but you might have your own qualities which people like. If they worked hard for their grades, they do deserve some recognition...but i understand that you feel singled out....and it's a horrible feeling. Can you not try and talk to one of them, they might not know what you are going through because they can't see it, and are wrapped in their own world.
As, for the "in love" part, maybe you should start socialising wiht a few different people who boost yur confidence, because it's hard to be involved with people that make you feel like this. At the end of the day this is just a phrase and..there is more to life than grades.....easy to say, but have a word with one of your friends, they might understand you.
sorry if this is all rubbish! Trying to help you :smile:

Be happy !!

Reply 4

technik

13

grades looks alright to me. better than mine anyway

so what if you're mates did better. life isnt grades

u also commented on ur looks. a pic on here would help the evaluation :smile:

Reply 5

Miriam_StarGirl

1

I can imagine that it'll be really easy for you to see everything in a very negative light at the moment, thats understandable as you've just had a big disappointment. However, it honestly isn't the end of the world even if it seems so now. I dropt out from A-levels a few years ago but it has turned out to be the best things that could have happened. I've taken some time out, got some work experience, got a bit more 'worldly wise' and all that business, now with an Access course behind me I'm looking forward to my degree and feeling more confident and a million times more ready than I could've been at 18. As far as feeling like your friends are putting you in the shade at the moment, try not to let it get to you, your confidence is bound to have taken a knock as you didn't get the results you expected and your probably transfering it subconsciously to lots of different areas of your life (such as who fancies who etc.) again I know its easy to say but just let them have their moment and try to keep in mind that you'll get your moment one day too.

Reply 6

G.A.K

4

strawberries

Ccdd

:O that's not so bad, you could work to get the C's to B's maybe or keep them at C's and get the D's to C's and retake..if you work soo hard, you can achieve BCC or BBC ...but it needs hard work, determination.....and maybe you should channel all your thoughts and emotions about this situation into getitng better grades next year....then someone may congratulate you!
WELL DONE on losing the weight.. :cool:

Reply 7

strawberries

OP

3

thanks guys, i tried to speak to one of my best mates about it on msn earlier, but all of sudden she just appeared offline?

Reply 8

strawberries

OP

3

....half way through me pouting my heart out, this was an hour ago and she still hasnnt been in touch

Reply 9

Homegrownkitten

My confidence gets knocked sometimes too. You have 3 really great friends who care for you loads. If you say your grades are down to a lack of work then this can motivate you to work harder next year. I find myself seeking other people's approval sometimes but I just say to myself that all my friends and family love me for who I am and I wont change who I am just to please other people. I hope you feel better about yourself soon... keep yer chin up :wink:

Reply 10

fluffysheep2000

I got B,C,E in my AS levels and A,A,A in A2, if you want it hard enough you will work for you grades and get what you want... nothing is impossible (excuse the cheese) :rolleyes:

Reply 11

G.A.K

4

strawberries

....half way through me pouting my heart out, this was an hour ago and she still hasnnt been in touch

My friend has done that many a time :rolleyes:

. Maybe you should hold your head up high and just interact with other people for the moment - untill your emotions settle down, at this time, everything is building up...also if you are going to talk, do it in the face - because she will realise how serious you are.
Sorry if i am telling you what to do....just a few ideas... :smile:

Reply 12

strawberries

OP

3

aww wow you're cool, it makes me feel better to knowt hat people who dont even know me care about, and to get it from BCE to AAA is amazing im going to reach for the stars

Reply 13

technik

13

way i see it...

when you're old and decrepid waiting for your new hip and about to celebrate your 50th wedding aniversary are you going to be worrying about how you did in school?

doubt it :smile:

try your best, get some decent grades, get a job, get married, get kids, get worrying about your kids instead of yourself. :biggrin:

Reply 14

Acaila

17

{huggles}
Don't worry. With resits and things your grades will improve. Just remember and work hard this year and you'll do brilliantly. Then next year you'll be the one getting congratulated. I'm sure you're great at other things too. Just remember those things if you've feeling down.
Congrats on losing all that weight. That's really well done (believe me I know how hard it is :biggrin:

).
And if you think you're never going to get a guy because they all think of you as friends, I was exactly the same for sooooo long and it really annoyed me. Then I met my boyfriend and things changed instantly, and now we've been together for over a year. The right guy will come along soon enough :wink:

.
{more hugs}

Reply 15

G.A.K

4

strawberries

aww wow you're cool, it makes me feel better to knowt hat people who dont even know me care about, and to get it from BCE to AAA is amazing im going to reach for the stars

Wooooooww go you! :smile:

Reply 16

immortal

10

strawberries

I just feel so rubbish about myself at the moment, I didnt do too well in my As's and all my mates did brilliantly, everybody keeps praising them and we hang around in a foursome and the other three keep getting congratulated and given a round of applause in assembly, i am very proud of them but i just feel uinloved, I know my poor grade was due to lack of work, but when i say this some teachers just say theyre probably the grades you'll get for a2. My one firend keeps telling me how gorgeous the other two are and it just makes me feel rubbish, i lost 8 lbs in weight over the holidays and noone seems to notice only one person has commented. They're my best mates and i ove them to bits but i cant help but feel jealous of them at the momnet and i cant help but feel guilty about it. all the lads in my year come to me for advice because theyre all in love with my best mate, the one who keeps saying the other two are gogrgeous, im in love with a man who has the most beautiful girlfriend and i just dont know what to do to get myself out of this bloody rut!?1 :frown:

First think posative - a while back I had a point where everything got so bad I didn't think I could go on but it did, and things got better.

First tell yourself all the posative things about yourself, e.g I like the way I can make people feel at ease, or I like my mastery or *insert something here*.

When you get down, the worse thing you can do is start pitying yourself, because you will just spiral. Recognize your faults, and instead of wallowing in the misery of them, think how you can improve them.

So what if your friends did better? Having said this, if it is really getting to you, perhaps you either need a little distance, or ask them to tone it down a little.

I have often felt like everyones getting the compliments but me - but it's probably your attitude that isn't helping you. Work your way up to being happy with yourself - and others wil see how happy you are and congradulate you on it.

As for the love thing, I can offer no advice but try and move on. And if that doesn't work, build a shrine, steal some personal items, and locks of hair. Dance every third tuesday around the shrine.

Hope that helped a little.

Reply 17

babylon

hey, my friend got something like EEUU last year for her AS levels, and shes ended up with ABB this year at A-level. just goes to show that anythings possible. i'm so proud of her. good luck with A-levels, i'm sure everything will work out fine. U never know.....u could have loadsa secret admirers :wink:

Reply 18

guest1984

These threads make me depressed......!!! there are far worse things happening in the world at the moment.......so be grateful with what you have.

:smile:

Reply 19

Chubb

2

strawberries

I just feel so rubbish about myself at the moment, I didnt do too well in my As's and all my mates did brilliantly, everybody keeps praising them and we hang around in a foursome and the other three keep getting congratulated and given a round of applause in assembly, i am very proud of them but i just feel uinloved, I know my poor grade was due to lack of work, but when i say this some teachers just say theyre probably the grades you'll get for a2. My one firend keeps telling me how gorgeous the other two are and it just makes me feel rubbish, i lost 8 lbs in weight over the holidays and noone seems to notice only one person has commented. They're my best mates and i ove them to bits but i cant help but feel jealous of them at the momnet and i cant help but feel guilty about it. all the lads in my year come to me for advice because theyre all in love with my best mate, the one who keeps saying the other two are gogrgeous, im in love with a man who has the most beautiful girlfriend and i just dont know what to do to get myself out of this bloody rut!?1 :frown:

Don't worry about your grades; I got DDE in my first year and came out with BCC at my A-Levels (this includes pushing marks up from 40/100 to 80/100, 38/100 to 75/100, 55/120 to 118/120. All I did was to start revising loads when my A-Levels came around. Also don't bother with revision guides or making too many notes; just focus on past papers (you will learn the answers to questions as you go - it worked for me). Don't give up trying. :smile:

BTW - congratulations on the weight loss too. :smile:

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