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    I have been to the GP recently and I have been referred because I scored high on 10 question test. It would explain alot of things from my past and things that have happened lately.

    I don't know how to handle it. I'm at University in my first year and I'm trying to not let it define me but I feel so alone in myself because everytime I'm in a class or on a trip feel so uncomfortable and I feel so alone in the fact that I feel like I can't talk to anyone about in class.


    I just don't know what to do.
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    (Original post by Indigo707)
    I have been to the GP recently and I have been referred because I scored high on 10 question test. It would explain alot of things from my past and things that have happened lately.

    I don't know how to handle it. I'm at University in my first year and I'm trying to not let it define me but I feel so alone in myself because everytime I'm in a class or on a trip feel so uncomfortable and I feel so alone in the fact that I feel like I can't talk to anyone about in class.


    I just don't know what to do.
    It's nothing to be ashamed of, you should accept it and embrace it as being part of who you are. Now you know why you see the world differently to others and this should give you some comfort that you're not weird or strange or anything but you have a disability that prevents you from interacting with people the way others do.

    Do you want to talk to other students or would you prefer you kept to yourself? If you struggle to talk to them about an interesting topic then just talk to them about the lesson.
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    I do want to talk to students but I really struggle to keep the conversation going and it gets really awkward and it really gets to me.
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    (Original post by Indigo707)
    I do want to talk to students but I really struggle to keep the conversation going and it gets really awkward and it really gets to me.
    As a fellow autist, I see exactly where you are coming from. I was diagnosed with autism at the age of 3 (same month I started school) and I'm nearly 17 so I've known I'm different for a long time now. Honestly, it's nothing to be ashamed of. I struggle to keep conversations flowing myself and I word stuff perfectly in my head only to forget what I'm saying mid-sentence or word stuff completely wrong. It frustrates me to no end so I get exactly why your struggles are making you feel alone.

    Last year I went through a phase of hating my autism because my struggles made me feel like I wasn't normal. I was shy at a party and didn't have the confidence to get up or do anything so I just sat there reflecting on how abnormal I was and how I needed to force myself to cope with crowds in order to be normal. I can assure you that this phase has long gone but I still feel isolated sometimes because of my social awkwardness (derived from my struggles). It's just minor things that keeping a conversation that other people take for granted whereas all I seem to do is waffle and change the subject all the time because I can't keep a flowing conversation otherwise. At my age, I sometimes beat myself up for struggling with things that others find easy. I also felt down a few weeks ago because a minor change to others my age was a huge deal for me and I just felt stupid and like I was over-reacting. But it helps me to have a sense of humour. I no longer get offended whenever somebody makes an autism joke at my school, and I often joke about myself now. It just helps to see the funny side.

    Also, I have a few Aspie friends who understand my struggles so that's not so isolating. I don't really have any advice, but I just want you to know that I understand where you're coming from. All us Aspies/autists are in the same boat.
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    I watched a programme on aspergers the other day. It's on BBC iPlayer and is called Chris Packham: Aspergers and Me. I think it might be of help you!
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    (Original post by Indigo707)
    I have been to the GP recently and I have been referred because I scored high on 10 question test. It would explain alot of things from my past and things that have happened lately.

    I don't know how to handle it. I'm at University in my first year and I'm trying to not let it define me but I feel so alone in myself because everytime I'm in a class or on a trip feel so uncomfortable and I feel so alone in the fact that I feel like I can't talk to anyone about in class.


    I just don't know what to do.
    I wish I had better advice for you. I've been diagnosed for over ten years now but I've also been struggling at university, more so than at secondary school to be honest. Loneliness is indeed the problem and I also feel completely isolated. I definitely would recommend trying to get a clinical diagnosis because you could qualify for the DSA and get specialist support from the university. That definitely hasn't solved my problems, but I do think I'm slightly less of a catastrophe with that help than I would have been without it.
 
 
 
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