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    (Original post by akCambridge)
    ha I was lying again and so you fell for the trap again. You're still a piece of garbage
    you learned nothing.
    Lol
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    I participated in a nationwide contest a while ago, and recently me and two of my best friends all won first place in the district together. It was a great feeling. Today we were called up onstage in the assembly to be congratulated, but a little backstory here. Our school has uniforms and they don't allow colored accessories. I was wearing a colored scarf that day, and my P.E. teacher confiscated it from me when I came in. It was nothing serious and both of us knew it. My old class teacher saw her taking it and called me and laughed about it. I joked that as a reward for the prize, maybe I should as her to give it back. She said I should mention that in the assembly.

    Just as a harmless joke, I did. I said, "In honor of this moment, can I ask Miss X for my scarf back?"

    Everyone laughed. When I got off stage, my old teacher said "good job".

    Well, after the assembly, the school principal called me and both of my friends into her office and really told us off, though of course it was all directed at me. She asked why instead of appreciating our teachers we had decided to target them in public, and if this was how we expected to make the school proud. She then said we didn't deserve the awards.

    This is how I found out about teacher politics in my school. All of them started gossiping about it and degrading my current homeroom teacher (who is wonderful) about her "disrespectful" kids. I later found out that the teacher who had told me to say that, disliked the P.E. teacher. She'd previously been our homeroom teacher for two years and had put me through quite a lot of humiliation, but she has a hard life and I just thought of it as a result of emotional trauma. But she used me for her own grudges.

    I just really hate myself now for creating a huge scandal about this. The principal apparently called the P.E. teacher and insulted her too. I've also managed to ruin my best friends' moments too, and I feel like I've lost all respect in the school. I hate myself so much. I don't know what to do.

    Thank you if you read through all of this. Any advice?
    Not your fault. That teacher manipulated a child/ young adult for their own petty gain and should be ashamed. You did not create a scandal, you were used as a pawn by an immature ass.
    If you want to do anything about it you can report the teacher who did it and make a formal note of how much you appreciate your form tutor. If not, just move on and remember it is not your fault.
    It was stupid for your head teacher to call both/ all of you in to be told off when it was all targeted at you. That's just mean.
    You did deserve the awards. What you did here/ were told to do does not undo what you did to deserve that award.

    Teachers who are willing to have a joke with students humanise school and make it a much nicer experience. Your teacher sounds lovely. You can show your appreciation to them by doing your best in school and being happy. Teachers like that will appreciate that they helped make a decent person and will be glad to see you do well. A card or little present when you leave school goes a long way for teachers you like too. They're there for the kids and it will mean a lot to them that you liked them enough to get them something.
    "Disrespectful kids" are kids who have been raised or taught to stand up for themselves, socialise and be comfortable. You are young adults and the respect between you and your teachers should go both ways. This is how you learn to behave as an adult and you are learning well from your teachers how to be friendly and approachable within boundaries. Much better than teaching you to be a doormat or stick in the mud.

    I kinda went on a mini rant there, but my point is that joking is healthy and you're learning the boundaries and about "office politics" you did nothing wrong, you just hit a learning curve rather hard and some other people got dragged in.
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    (Original post by akCambridge)
    ha I was lying again and so you fell for the trap again. You're still a piece of garbage
    you learned nothing.
    wait, what? Okay XD
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    (Original post by Kindred)
    Not your fault. That teacher manipulated a child/ young adult for their own petty gain and should be ashamed. You did not create a scandal, you were used as a pawn by an immature ass.
    If you want to do anything about it you can report the teacher who did it and make a formal note of how much you appreciate your form tutor. If not, just move on and remember it is not your fault.
    It was stupid for your head teacher to call both/ all of you in to be told off when it was all targeted at you. That's just mean.
    You did deserve the awards. What you did here/ were told to do does not undo what you did to deserve that award.

    Teachers who are willing to have a joke with students humanise school and make it a much nicer experience. Your teacher sounds lovely. You can show your appreciation to them by doing your best in school and being happy. Teachers like that will appreciate that they helped make a decent person and will be glad to see you do well. A card or little present when you leave school goes a long way for teachers you like too. They're there for the kids and it will mean a lot to them that you liked them enough to get them something.
    "Disrespectful kids" are kids who have been raised or taught to stand up for themselves, socialise and be comfortable. You are young adults and the respect between you and your teachers should go both ways. This is how you learn to behave as an adult and you are learning well from your teachers how to be friendly and approachable within boundaries. Much better than teaching you to be a doormat or stick in the mud.

    I kinda went on a mini rant there, but my point is that joking is healthy and you're learning the boundaries and about "office politics" you did nothing wrong, you just hit a learning curve rather hard and some other people got dragged in.
    Lord, thank you for this answer. I needed this. I really was wondering if I had been disrespectful when I've really never thought of myself as that; I do respect my teachers but I have just never been able to be very popular with some of them. Today, I get why. Thank you so much for this.
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    Your teachers should never have put you in this position in the first place. It's their irresponsibility, not yours. It's worth apologizing to the pe teacher anyway, purely for manners sake, and it may help everything blow over quicker.
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    (Original post by reminiscence-)
    ...current homeroom teacher (who is wonderful) about her "disrespectful" kids
    What on earth is a homeroom teacher? I've never heard that phrase .. is this a Private or boarding school?
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    your teachers are acting like children ! you're clearly sorry about this and didn't mean to hurt anyone so i wouldn't feel bad about it. Lets just hope the staff at your school all learn to grow up
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    (Original post by Beckit)
    Your teachers should never have put you in this position in the first place. It's their irresponsibility, not yours. It's worth apologizing to the pe teacher anyway, purely for manners sake, and it may help everything blow over quicker.
    I did apologize to her. But then things blew up. I'm going to do it again. Thank you for your answer

    (Original post by Muttley79)
    What on earth is a homeroom teacher? I've never heard that phrase .. is this a Private or boarding school?
    Private! And I'm not from the UK. It's like, class teacher/incharge? Do you call it form tutor?

    (Original post by sienna0305)
    your teachers are acting like children ! you're clearly sorry about this and didn't mean to hurt anyone so i wouldn't feel bad about it. Lets just hope the staff at your school all learn to grow up
    Yes I think I'm going to apologize, and then put this behind me. I can't even believe how much this forum has helped me. Thank you, all of you. Because of you, I've managed to drag myself out of my self-hate phase, learn from my mistake, and have the courage to go to school. So yes, thank you
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    so your principal is getting butthurt over a scarf
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    (Original post by Kindred)
    Not your fault. That teacher manipulated a child/ young adult for their own petty gain and should be ashamed. You did not create a scandal, you were used as a pawn by an immature ass.
    If you want to do anything about it you can report the teacher who did it and make a formal note of how much you appreciate your form tutor. If not, just move on and remember it is not your fault.
    It was stupid for your head teacher to call both/ all of you in to be told off when it was all targeted at you. That's just mean.
    You did deserve the awards. What you did here/ were told to do does not undo what you did to deserve that award.

    Teachers who are willing to have a joke with students humanise school and make it a much nicer experience. Your teacher sounds lovely. You can show your appreciation to them by doing your best in school and being happy. Teachers like that will appreciate that they helped make a decent person and will be glad to see you do well. A card or little present when you leave school goes a long way for teachers you like too. They're there for the kids and it will mean a lot to them that you liked them enough to get them something.
    "Disrespectful kids" are kids who have been raised or taught to stand up for themselves, socialise and be comfortable. You are young adults and the respect between you and your teachers should go both ways. This is how you learn to behave as an adult and you are learning well from your teachers how to be friendly and approachable within boundaries. Much better than teaching you to be a doormat or stick in the mud.

    I kinda went on a mini rant there, but my point is that joking is healthy and you're learning the boundaries and about "office politics" you did nothing wrong, you just hit a learning curve rather hard and some other people got dragged in.
    I agree. They acted like she(?) kicked a puppy in front of everyone or stuck two fingers up to the principal. Teachers shouldn't drag students into their office politics - deeply unprofessional and potentially really damaging behaviour.
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    Don't think it's that serious and will eventually just be forgotten. I'd defo write a letter of apology to the headmaster/ the teacher who was offended, because it'll probably make this go away quicker. gl
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