There are plenty of well-meaning people who call themselves feminists and genuinely take issue with the societal pressures people face depending on their gender. In terms of rights, we are largely equal in the West (there are some sizeable exceptions; in the UK a woman cannot rape a man, and a man cannot "opt out" of parental rights/responsibilities at any stage for a child he does not want, even in very early pregnancy) but we still put great pressure on women to be nurturing and family-oriented (even if this is not, as used to be the case, at the expense of a career) and on men to be stoic and career-focused. Gender is still decisive in how we express ourselves socially and how we are viewed for our personalities socially. A girl who cries a lot is just a little bit annoying, a guy who cries a lot is a total freak. A guy who doesn't really want or like children is just a slightly selfish but ultimately normal guy, a woman who doesn't really want or like children is a total freak. The problem is that many vocal feminists transform their hatred of this illusive, indemonstrable "patriarchy" into an overarching, overbearing, destructive loathing of men. They view men as the oppressive class and women as the oppressed, and this extends to everyone, regardless of actual class, of actual privilege. They are by no means the majority, but by God they crow loudly, and they talk a load of utter codswallop, and that's what the public sees. This means that the name feminism has become tainted to the extent that it is almost not worth associating with; calling yourself an egalitarian is more indicative of a genuine belief in gender equality.