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    ok so this is a bit embarrassing but i really want some advice. i'm 20 y/o and have never had sex. i've always found inserting things (fingers, tampons) really uncomfortable because i'm very tight down there. i decided to buy a vibrator (it's long like a dildo but hard plastic) i believe the circumference of it is 4 inches which is definitely smaller than a penis right?/

    anyway i've been trying it out and even when i'm super turned on, using loads of lube and really relaxed it still KILLS to insert it. the entrance of my vagina feels like it's stretching and it's going to tear even though i'm using loads of lube how the hell am i ever going to have comfortable sex if i can't actually fit a small dildo inside of me? i'm wondering whether a penis is slightly easier as it's not made of hard plastic and so there's a little bit of give? but still it really puts me off ever having sex because it hurts so bad
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    girl relax. just think how stretchy we get during pregnancy. once you feel comfortable with a man your muscles will relax and it's going to be easier. plus foreplay is important it will stretch you out a little bit to get you ready . don't be uncomfortable if you with someone you love and there is trust everything will be fine . don't be shy to communicate it's really important and he will understand.
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    Don't be scared though. Most first-time hurt(not always the case with some people). Is going to feel like you're being stuffed like a Christmas turkey, lool. Of course, is going to be different with a guy. Communication, body chemistry and foreplay help during sex. Just take it slow when you use the dildo and relax.
 
 
 
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